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real life MMD: Should I keep dating for freebies?

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  • OMG, I can't believe you even need to ask!! You need to stop taking advantage of the poor guy. :mad:

    If you just want to be friends tell him that and then make sure you pay your way if he still wants to go out sometimes.
  • airheadgreg
    airheadgreg Posts: 34 Forumite
    edited 24 November 2010 at 6:56PM
    This isn't really a Money Moral Dilemma, more of just a moral dilemma, and you're caught between being honest and not destroying the guy completely or being a terrible filthy trollop...you choose!
  • Girl where is your pride?
  • addyann
    addyann Posts: 45 Forumite
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    No way. You dont want to give him the push for "no reason". Perhaps he'd like you to stop fleecing him. If he's nice and you enjoy his company, and its just you dont want a serious relationship, then tell him, and start paying your own way. If you just want the freebies then I'm sure he'd rather be dumped that fleeced.
  • I don't even understand why this is classed as a "moral dilemma". It's a moral no-brainer as far as I can see...you don't string someone along so you can get free stuff. How would you feel if someone was playing with your emotions and was really just out for what they could get?
    August grocery challenge: £50
    Spent so far: £37.40 :A
  • OMG i can't believe someone even asked that question, of course you break up with him!!!

    Its this kind of behaviour that can give women a bad reputation. My husband and I always go 50/50 (even after 8 years together) as we both believe in equality and have an equal relationship with respect for each other.

    Be honest with him, you may remain friends anyway.
  • Tell him you don't think its going to go anywhere. Its not fair on the man, who's trying to impress you to drag it out.

    This isn't a dilemma!
    "Every single person has at least one secret that would break your heart. If we could just remember this, I think there would be a lot more compassion and tolerance in the world."
    — Frank Warren
  • FREEBIES!!! That is so funny. Dont be such a user.

    Dump him tell him thanks and all that but bye bye. How would you feel if someone used you for freebies or anything else for that matter?
  • How would you feel if it was the other way round and you'd been going out with someone you really keen on and you paid for all the meals as you had more money than him. Then he dumps you for someone else and says that you were just ok to go out with until someone better came along?
  • 4810510
    4810510 Posts: 132 Forumite
    I think you should be honest and tell him. You may also want to consider a quicky with him if he has already splashed the cash!

    Should add I've only just discovered this quiz tonight and it isn't as difficult as the 7 day quiz on BBC news website.
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