real life MMD: Should I keep dating for freebies?

edited 23 November 2010 at 5:08PM in Money Saving Polls
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edited 23 November 2010 at 5:08PM in Money Saving Polls
Please give this MoneySaver the benefit of your advice...
Should I keep dating for freebies?

I've been going on a few dates with this guy who's really sweet but I don't think it's going anywhere. He's however very keen and I don't want to be mean and end it for no reason. Plus he always takes me to posh restaurants that I normally wouldn't even dream of going to, and I'm enjoying that. Should I come clean or enjoy the freebies?
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  • MORPH3USMORPH3US Forumite
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    The OP should be honest with the bloke and tell him that she doesn't think its going anywhere...

    If after that he still wants to take her out then go for it (maybe reminding him now and then that its not going to lead to anything)...
  • edited 24 November 2010 at 1:08PM
    MORPH3USMORPH3US Forumite
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    edited 24 November 2010 at 1:08PM
    Double post.
  • omg no! u tell him immediately how u really feel.
    the poor bloke probably thinks he has finally found a nice girl to settle down with when really hes just with a user
    as a lad who has been repeatedly let down by women of this nature i can say it hurts tremendously to have this done to you.
    anyone who does this should be prosecuted for obtaining by deception, you are no better than the banks and ppi companies, praying upon the weak.
  • edited 23 November 2010 at 11:53PM
    emideeemidee Forumite
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    edited 23 November 2010 at 11:53PM
    Be honest with him - you'd hate it if it were the other way around, & the longer it goes on, the worse it's going to be for him when you do break up.
  • Hmm...I think women should pay their own way on dates too, especially if you've only just met. To me it sends out the wrong signal if the man pays all the time.... But hey...I'm single so I could be wrong :rotfl:
  • No - you definitely shouldn't keep dating for freebies, it's very unfair on the man in question.
  • irishwench69irishwench69 Forumite
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    Should I keep dating for freebies?
    I've been going on a few dates with this guy who's really sweet but I don't think it's going anywhere.


    He's however very keen and I don't want to be mean and end it for no reason. Plus he always takes me to posh restaurants that I normally wouldn't even dream of going to, and I'm enjoying that. Should I come clean or enjoy the freebies?

    You wouldn't be ending for no reason though - it sounds like you're just not that into him!!
    At least be honest - you don't have to get married to them or anything, and feelings might develop, but if he's looking for something more serious, someone is going to get hurt!
    You must know in your heart what the right choice is here - how good would you feel to get freebies by manipulating someone?? (if you think he'd spend the money on you as friends, why not tell him - what do you have to lose?)

    .....and you'd surely hate it if the situation was reversed!!
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  • If you're not interested in the guy then let him know.

    Seriously, are you really considering still going out with him because he takes you to nice restaurants? If you do you should be ashamed of yourself.
  • LoanrangerLoanranger Forumite
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    Ever heard of the expression gold-digger?
  • shellsuitshellsuit Forumite
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    I'd never use someone in that way.

    If you don't like him, then why would you want him to spend his money on you?

    There is a name for women who date blokes for what they can gain...
    Tank fly boss walk jam nitty gritty...
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