real life MMD: Should I keep dating for freebies?

flyfisher99

Maybe to make your accounting easier you should go dutch on all the freebies and treats he's giving you and just charge him an hourly rate

ferventsaver23

I you know the answer to this already.If you continue to lead this guy on then you might consider escort work or massage parlour type work! Be honest to him and yourself, tell him the truth and try to find someone who you can be totally honest with at all times. There are lots of nice guys out there.Don't disrespect yourself in this way

fragster

Depends if you normally get paid for spending time with men!

onlypaddy

this shouldn't even have made the email, the answer is so obvious. Come clean, you free-loader

curriej99

Kind of annoys me this one. As if it's almost acceptable for this woman to be debating it. Imagine if the sexes had been swapped.
eg. "I've been seeing this bird. She's not much of a looker and to be honest, a bit thick. She goes like a rabbit however, and she's worth a few quid. Should I ditch her and try and find a better one, or keep milking it? Or hey, both?"

minerva_windsong

If you're only going out with him because he takes you to nice restaurants, as opposed to because you want a relationship with him, I think you know the answer. Not feeling like it's going anywhere is a real reason for breaking up with him - both of you deserve to find someone who you want to be with and who wants to be with you, and it's not fair on him to keep doing this.

I would meet him for coffee or drinks - which YOU pay for - and tell him face to face that you're not interested in him in that way. If you want to stay friends after that then it's up to you (although bear in mind he might not want to). Alternatively, if you want to keep seeing him to see if something develops, I would start offering to pay for things, or at least going halves, and if that means going to slightly more 'downmarket' places then so be it - if he really likes you he won't care how posh the restaurant is.

MkkDdd

'How's the sex?' has got to be the big question. If you think he's getting his money's worth, then fair enough. As the oldest profession (even monkeys do it) the morality has been tried and tested since the beginning of time. If it works for him and it doesn't bother you, then why not? If you suspect he's really naive and thick(-skinned) enough, do make quite sure he understands what he's paying for. He might still believe you actually like him and that wouldn't be fair.

FredTheBaddie

Rainmaker_uk wrote: »

It depends if you are putting out...

Love it!

bogwart

There's nothing much that's moral about this "dilemma". We've established what you are, we're just discussing the price. I would say that if he's "very keen" you should at least let him know that you don't reciprocate those feelings, and are just feeding your face at his expense.

LameWolf

Firstly, why is the OP letting this chap pay for everything? There's being MSE and then there's sponging. This strikes me as the latter.

Secondly, if the situation were reversed, would the OP want to be strung along in this way? I suspect not.

Finish it, gently, and let the chap find someone who will be genuinely appreciative of his generous nature.