real life MMD: Should I keep dating for freebies?

Loz66

If you are seeing him just for restaurant visits and prezzies, the why not go the whole hog and try out for escort work? Same principal.

serendipity2706

No wonder a lot of men seem surprised when I offer to pay half on a first date!!
You are using him- how would you feel if he just came round to you for no strings sex when he fancied it??

Talent

Hmmm. Some prissy comments.... Who you gonna call? Datebusters Inc.... if he's pleasant enough then the occasional date is ok. You don't have to commit to anything and as long as you don't lead him on, what's the problem??

nat21luv

I dont see what the issue is, if he's a nice guy and your enjoying each others company I would keep seeing him, not in a sexual relationship mind, just keep it light hearted. Ive made many male friends this way but I would advise you to start paying at least half from now on though...Ive always paid for my meal and you should see the blokes face light up, they think their christmasses have come at once!

Digdug_2

If you don't think it's going anywhere, ending it isn't 'mean' and 'for no reason'. It's being kind and not stringing him along when you know deep down you're not interested. Of course dating just for the freebies is wrong - and it only takes a few women like this to give the rest of us a bad name!

Rainmaker_uk

MSE_Penelope wrote: »

Please give this MoneySaver the benefit of your advice...

Should I keep dating for freebies?

I've been going on a few dates with this guy who's really sweet but I don't think it's going anywhere. He's however very keen and I don't want to be mean and end it for no reason. Plus he always takes me to posh restaurants that I normally wouldn't even dream of going to, and I'm enjoying that. Should I come clean or enjoy the freebies?

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It depends if you are putting out...

Loz66

nat21luv wrote: »

I dont see what the issue is, if he's a nice guy and your enjoying each others company I would keep seeing him, not in a sexual relationship mind, just keep it light hearted. Ive made many male friends this way but I would advise you to start paying at least half from now on though...Ive always paid for my meal and you should see the blokes face light up, they think their christmasses have come at once!

nat21luv - paying half is a very different situation. The OP has stated that the man paying the whole bill is what attracts her. If she started paying half I'd say everything is fine and go for it. It's the leeching I object to.

oldtrout

You should be honest with him asap and tell him how you feel. He might not actually be so keen on you, just enjoys your company and is quite happy to pay for you to join him. Find out by asking him, not people on a forum.

pensionernige

There is the money and the moral dilema.lYou have to be open and honest. Discuss the situation how you feel about him and regarding the various dates. If he is happy to continue then you have to decide if you are wasting your time when you could be finding the love of your life. Set parameters for "behaviour" as no doubt the wine will be flowing at times, and stick to them. This way both morals are covered.

Gillsx

Don't be so selfish! Tell the guy the truth and let him find a decent woman who will appreciate and respect him for who he is an not his wallet!