Memorygirls - The Matrix Reloaded

groatie_queen

Posted my positives earlier but just had a lovely skype chat with my big brother in Oz who is just getting his Friday morning organised. It's blooming marvellous to be able to text chat with him in real time, and for freeee - gladdens my MSE heart! :rotfl::rotfl:


ETA - when I was a wee girl we lived in the Middle East, and to make a phone call to the UK my parents had to drive an hour to the capital and use the one international phone in the general post office, by appointment! The world is a much smaller place these days and it never ceases to make me happy.

GQ xox

tenmah

How lovely GQ. It must be quite weird that he has already started his Friday though!

groatie_queen

Yes, It's rather good because we tend to catch each other at either end of our days, so either it's good morning from him and good evening from me, or t'other way round!

The other good thing is I had one letter from him in about 30 years! but he is on skype several times a week! My Mum would be so tickled!!

robsmum_2

Glad everything seems to be sorted out now.

My positives from today:
The sun has shone.
I got a load of towels almost dry outside.
Helped my neighbour to feel better.

It's hard to really think of positives - think I shall have to do this every day!:j

Kittikins

RANT ALERT - SORRY I will try and find positives for the day as well, just feeling grouchy

*sigh* can anyone read tealeaves? MrA seems to be backing off or I'm just being paranoid, I have no idea what's going on with him the past 2 days, he's blowing hot and cold and it's flipping unsettling (and annoying, lol)........anyway, it doesn't bode well for our night out tomorrow night, grrr!

This is one of the reasons why I've not bothered dating for 2 years, it can be so flipping complicated, and I really don't think I need the hassle and kind of want to just text him and cancel tomorrow as he's not bothered to reply to a voicemail I left for him earlier, and just go out with the girls tomorrow night instead, but I also want to give him the benefit of the doubt as he is rather yummy and I have been really enjoying his company.....

Trying so hard not to think "what's wrong with me?", and it's working most of the time, but wish he would either put my mind at rest or bog off if that's what he wants to do!

S*d it, have just texted asking if he's annoyed with me......

and breathe.......sorry everyone, just had to get that off my chest, I'll probably delete it in a minute when I've stopped feeling sorry for myself!

Anyway, in positive news, errmmmmmm

1. Had a nice haircut today, which I'll attempt to keep looking sophisticated and grown up by myself, for a day at least
2. DD went back to school today after a couple of days off sick

Cheery_Daff

Good news all round there susan :T

I'm glad too things seem to be getting sorted out. It has indeed been a bit hot and uncomfortable in here today, and I too would like to thank people for feeling they could be honest, when it must have been difficult. Moving forward positively is about dealing with uncomfortable things sometimes.

Anyway, in the spirit of moving on, my positives for today:

* had a mostly productive day working from home
* battled with some silly computer software, and I think I might have just won :rotfl:
* spent the day in my lovely attic, which still needs plenty of sorting out, but the sun's been shining through the windows, and my lovely hand made patchwork quilt that I got for Christmas is laid out on the spare bed, so I've very much enjoyed looking at that :j :j
* Mr Daffs is being an absolute star at the minute, I haven't lifted a finger to do anything remotely housework or food-making related since before Christmas :T
* our house is slowly being turned (by Mr Daffs) into a beautiful palace :j :j
* (whispering this one) - phd is nearly done, so nearly done...

(And I'm trying not to feel bad about the fact that I just tried to run Mr daffs a bath and didn't put the plug in properly, so all the hot water went down the plug hole and now he's got to wait another hour for it to warm up I guess that's not a crisis in the grand scheme of things!)

(and MG, wherever you are, you get yourself sorted 15 minutes at a time girl, we'll be here when you're ready to come back) xx

susan946

robsmum wrote: »

Glad everything seems to be sorted out now.

My positives from today:
The sun has shone.
I got a load of towels almost dry outside.
Helped my neighbour to feel better.

It's hard to really think of positives - think I shall have to do this every day!:j

It gets much easier to think of the postitves the more you do it. Practice makes - if not quite perfect at least much better!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sue

tenmah

Kittikins wrote: »

RANT ALERT - SORRY I will try and find positives for the day as well, just feeling grouchy

*sigh* can anyone read tealeaves? MrA seems to be backing off or I'm just being paranoid, I have no idea what's going on with him the past 2 days, he's blowing hot and cold and it's flipping unsettling (and annoying, lol)........anyway, it doesn't bode well for our night out tomorrow night, grrr!

This is one of the reasons why I've not bothered dating for 2 years, it can be so flipping complicated, and I really don't think I need the hassle and kind of want to just text him and cancel tomorrow as he's not bothered to reply to a voicemail I left for him earlier, and just go out with the girls tomorrow night instead, but I also want to give him the benefit of the doubt as he is rather yummy and I have been really enjoying his company.....

Trying so hard not to think "what's wrong with me?", and it's working most of the time, but wish he would either put my mind at rest or bog off if that's what he wants to do!

S*d it, have just texted asking if he's annoyed with me......

and breathe.......sorry everyone, just had to get that off my chest, I'll probably delete it in a minute when I've stopped feeling sorry for myself!

Anyway, in positive news, errmmmmmm

1. Had a nice haircut today, which I'll attempt to keep looking sophisticated and grown up by myself, for a day at least
2. DD went back to school today after a couple of days off sick

Oh Kittikins, I so feel for you with this one. I amnot sure why dating has to be a 'game' sometimes and people just can't be straight with each other.

I am the last person to give you advice on relationships :cool: as i too have chosen not to date anymore because the old heart just couldn't take it.

I hope he replies to you soon.

Cheery_Daff

(kittikins))))) First step - calm down! (easier said than done I know!). Really try very hard not to read too much into every little action. Maybe he hasn't replied because his phone ran out of battery? Because he was in the middle of something else? Because he just doesn't always reply to messages as soon as he gets them? There could be a million reasons - and I'm willing to bet not one of them is because you've annoyed him!

I think the secret to playing the dating game is not to play it as a game at all. Keep it simple! No agonising over how many xxxxxs there are at the end of text messages, no wondering why he hasn't replied after 3 hours, or 4 hours, or 5 hours, no fretting that you're too tired, or he's bored, or maybe he doesn't like you, asking yourself 'what does he mean when he says....'

And if you *are* tempted to do ANY of those things, I suggest the cure is TURNING YOUR PHONE OFF, putting it in a cupboard, making a cup of tea, sitting down and drinking it, and perhaps even having a bath and reading a magazine, BEFORE you even consider sending any kind of text message (obviously I know this from experience!) Relationships are so much easier when everyone's not trying to second guess each other.

You need to take each other at your word, and not try and imagine what each other is thinking. If he says he likes you - believe him! If you've said you'll go out tomorrow, then go! Especially if you've been really enjoying each others company. Don't give up on things just yet I reckon.

(I've also been in a situation where I've been in a relationship with someone for a long time and come to learn they're untrustworthy, which is ever so sad, but I think experiences like that mustn't stop you from being open and trusting at the beginning)

Sorry, I'm waffling on here, but I've seen a few friends tie themselves in knots at the beginnings of what could turn into a lovely relationship by getting so stressed over every little tiny thing he does that they stop enjoying themselves!

So - deep breaths, don't send any more texts, have a cuppa, and rant on here as much as you like, and go and have your night out tomorrow, and see how it goes.

(obviously, all that's based only on the details we know about, only you can know if there's something else significant - really significant - underlying it all) xx

MrsMoo2U

Susan, loving your post and I couldnt agree more that it gets easier to see the positives the more you practice. I also find that slowing down and taking notice of whats around helps me to focus on positives.
Mine I am grateful for......today are
was woken by a text from Mr C who set off on his journey yesterday and it was a rather sweet text too.
:)Moo made me laugh so much this morning because he had managed to get through the house and on to the forbidden landing where he had obviously been snoozing all night. The big sad eyes looking at me as I walked out of the bedroom meant that all I could do was laugh
:)Finally finished a project in work that I have had on the go for while
:)Received a thank you letter from a group of youngsters that I have been working with
:)Just took Moo for a walk and the whole world is white (well my world is anyway) and the moon is so bright. Was swooped by an owl in the park which was very exciting.
:)Best of all my parrot just shouted my name and said Wheres my tea?

Kittikins. I am sorry and I dont mean to trivialise your dating but you just reminded me of this quote from Bridget Jones Diary

~ at times like this, continuing with one's life seems impossible... and eating the entire contents of one's fridge seems inevitable. i have two choices: to give up and accept permanent state of spinsterhood and eventualy be eaten by alsatians... or not, and this time i choose not. i will not be defeated by a bad man and an American stick insect! instead, i choose vodka, and chaka khan.~
Passes Kittikins the bottle.