Charging rent for 21 year old

silvercar

smsfad wrote: »

I have requested my 2 children 22 & 25 years old pay £100 per month each for rent and one has refused saying that her 15,000 income is not enough to afford this much in rent, She has all her food bought and also for her girlfriend at weekends, all the laundry and she bathes every night and puts the heating on every day. Am I being unreasonable?
Thank you

Can you afford for your children to live at home without charging them? The view on whether what you suggest is reasonable will depend on whether you need to charge to balance your own budget or whether you have no need for the money.

Tabbytabitha

Sambella wrote: »

My son pays me £150 a month. This will go up to £160 in January then continue to go up by £10 each year. He has no problem with this.

Hardly surprising he doesn't complain when he's onto such a good thing!

Tabbytabitha

silvercar wrote: »

There is a difference between charging the extra it costs to have another adult living in the home and charging more than it is costing you to provide a home to your child.

Why shouldn't a working adult contribute fully to the household where sh/e lives?

silvercar

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

Why shouldn't a working adult contribute fully to the household where sh/e lives?

I couldn't take money off my children, unless I needed it.

JReacher1

silvercar wrote: »

I couldn't take money off my children, unless I needed it.

Agreed.

Too many people on this forum seem to look at their children as a way of making some easy money.

seashore22

JReacher1 wrote: »

Agreed.

Too many people on this forum seem to look at their children as a way of making some easy money.

No, it's about expecting all adults in the house to be contributing and be part of a team. It's about not infantilizing your adult children.

badmemory

At what age do our children cease being children and start being an adult also living in our house? When we stop telling them what time to go to bed? When we say you want another pizza you buy it? There has to come a time when they become responsible for themselves. That is when they should pay KEEP not rent which is used to imply making a profit, but keep which is what it costs to keep them.

janb5

I started this thread in 2006 and just thought you might like to know an update. My son lives with his partner and his two children and I am very proud on how he looks after them all especially as my grandson is severely disabled.

A lot of mixed opinions on this thread. I do think adult children should contribute to the household costs not to make their parents money but to be aware of the escalating costs of maintaining a home.

Perhaps this post should be closed now Mods and someone can open a new one!

silvercar

janb5 wrote: »

I started this thread in 2006 and just thought you might like to know an update. My son lives with his partner and his two children and I am very proud on how he looks after them all especially as my grandson is severely disabled.

A lot of mixed opinions on this thread. I do think adult children should contribute to the household costs not to make their parents money but to be aware of the escalating costs of maintaining a home.

Perhaps this post should be closed now Mods and someone can open a new one!

Thanks for returning with an update. Always nice to hear how things panned out.

As for a new thread, there seems to be one started on a similar theme almost monthly.

piano_tuna_2

janb5 wrote: »

Hi,

I`ve tried to do a search but havent found what I want. About 6 weeks ago someone suggested a reasonable amount to charge for board and keep for my 21 year old son. He works as a chef and clears approx just over £900 pcm
He currently pays me £130 which I would like to review. I should add I am on my own with him and his younger brother(16) and do not receive maintenance. Which is a fair rent- 15% or higher ? I am also aware he is constantly overdrawn which I have talked to him about but he denies...........

You wouldn't receive maintenance for a 19 year-old, and it's not your older son's fault you don't get maintenance for the 16 year old, so I don't think he should be charged more on that basis.

What does it actually cost to have him living there? I'd just charge him that.
And try and encourage him to save. Presumably he doesn't want to be living with his mum for the rest of his life