Divorcee remarrying in Catholic church?

PolishBigSpender

zaksmum wrote: »

PolishBigSpender wrote: »

Surely the man himself and his personality is way more important than what he can give you?

There are some things that are important to me, and if I couldn't have them, it would mean the person is not the right one. One of them is Catholic marriage. The other is - he can't be smoke or take drugs :P Or be an alcoholic. People that can't give me that can be eliminated straight away, so there's no danger of falling in love with them :> (I simplify, I know).

My fiance is Protestant, but has no issue with getting married in Catholic Church. The children will be raised Catholic, but aware of other religions.

zaksmum

PolishBigSpender wrote: »

zaksmum wrote: »

There are some things that are important to me, and if I couldn't have them, it would mean the person is not the right one. One of them is Catholic marriage. The other is - he can't be smoke or take drugs :P Or be an alcoholic. People that can't give me that can be eliminated straight away, so there's no danger of falling in love with them :> (I simplify, I know).

My fiance is Protestant, but has no issue with getting married in Catholic Church. The children will be raised Catholic, but aware of other religions.

So will he convert to Catholicism for you?

PolishBigSpender

zaksmum wrote: »

PolishBigSpender wrote: »

So will he convert to Catholicism for you?

There's no need. He will have a little changed vows (no mention of All Saints) and can't take Communion (he is not confirmed in his own Church anyway). He also has to promise he will not stop me from going to church or bringing up children as Catholics.
It's all easy as he is Christian as well.

An atheist can marry a Catholic in the church just as well, bit more difficult though, as the bishop has to agree to that. And he doesn't have to pretend anything, he just doesn't mention God in his vows.

BLT_2

zaksmum wrote: »

My friend's daughter is divorced and has just got engaged to her boyfriend. He's Catholic and wants to marry in church. My friend is worried that someone told her a divorcee could not remarry in a Catholic church as it does not recognise divorce.

Her first marriage was not in a Catholic church, and she's not Catholic herself but is prepared to follow the Catholic religion.

Does anyone know the ruling of the church on this please?

The only advice I can give is don't let the priest babysit her children if she has any

The catholic church does not recognise divorce, abortion, birth control etc etc, it just loves misery However I understand that they do maintain an open mind on sodomy :rotfl:

borokat

I can understand why there is some upset on this thread, but no-one is excommunicated for getting divorced. You can still attend church and be involved in church life. And there are instances where priests will use their discretion. For example my aunt divorced and remarried and goes to church weekly, and her priest has told her he wouldn't object to her taking communion. However she chooses not to.
What would be the point of religion if there were no rules at all, and you could just beleive what you wanted? It's a free country now and no-one is forced to be part of a religion if they don't want to be.

zaksmum

BLT wrote: »

The only advice I can give is don't let the priest babysit her children if she has any

The catholic church does not recognise divorce, abortion, birth control etc etc, it just loves misery However I understand that they do maintain an open mind on sodomy :rotfl:

You know, BLT, your post is intended to be a jokey one but you are not too far off the mark there.

How mad is it that in 2010 the church still frowns on contraception?

I can remember my father in 1963, after his 4th child was born, arguing with our parish priest about the issue, and telling him he would do whatever it took to make the 4th child his last.

The priest stormed out of our house in a strop and both my parents were so upset they never went to church again.

I thought things would've moved on, nearly 50 years later.

POPPYOSCAR

borokat wrote: »

I can understand why there is some upset on this thread, but no-one is excommunicated for getting divorced. You can still attend church and be involved in church life. And there are instances where priests will use their discretion. For example my aunt divorced and remarried and goes to church weekly, and her priest has told her he wouldn't object to her taking communion. However she chooses not to.
What would be the point of religion if there were no rules at all, and you could just beleive what you wanted? It's a free country now and no-one is forced to be part of a religion if they don't want to be.

Whilst I agree that every religion should have 'rules' those rules were made centuries ago when life was very different to what it is now.
Society has changed enormously and so have many of the 'rules' within society itself so I feel that religion should move with the times as well.

zaksmum

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Whilst I agree that every religion should have 'rules' those rules were made centuries ago when life was very different to what it is now.
Society has changed enormously and so have many of the 'rules' within society itself so I feel that religion should move with the times as well.

Totally agree PoppyOscar.

How many good and practising Catholics out there think using contraception is wrong?

Plans_all_plans

zaksmum wrote: »

How many good and practising Catholics out there think using contraception is wrong?

You do not know nor understand the Church's stance on this issue. Contraception is NOT totally banned, only artificial contraception. You can use natural family planning methods with no problems at all. My parents have been married over 30 years and only ever used natural methods (and only ever had 2 children) and my husband and I only use natural contraception.

The Church teaches that a married couple should be open to receiving a child when they are having sex (as procreation is seen as the most important part of human sexuality) and therefore artificial contraception is banned as the main reason for using it is to prevent pregnancy.

You don't have to like it, but if you're a Catholic the ideal is that you adhere to these rules! Of course, Catholic people might have sex outside of marriage or use artificial contraception, but the Church isn't going to change the absolute IDEAL that it thinks all people should strive for just to suit wider society.

POPPYOSCAR

Plans_all_plans wrote: »

You do not know nor understand the Church's stance on this issue. Contraception is NOT totally banned, only artificial contraception. You can use natural family planning methods with no problems at all. My parents have been married over 30 years and only ever used natural methods (and only ever had 2 children) and my husband and I only use natural contraception.

The Church teaches that a married couple should be open to receiving a child when they are having sex (as procreation is seen as the most important part of human sexuality) and therefore artificial contraception is banned as the main reason for using it is to prevent pregnancy.

You don't have to like it, but if you're a Catholic the ideal is that you adhere to these rules! Of course, Catholic people might have sex outside of marriage or use artificial contraception, but the Church isn't going to change the absolute IDEAL that it thinks all people should strive for just to suit wider society.

I was brought up as Catholic and we were not taught that this was the ideal to strive for we were taught that it was a SIN to go against this.