MSE Pregnancy Club 20

chickywiggle

CL wrote: »

Not for section. I'm going in tomorrow night to be induced. I have to go first to the ward where new mothers and their babies are, to be induced. When you are in established labour you are taken to the delivery suite (your own room and en-suite) and then you are brought back to the ward you were on to begin with after the baby is born. They expect you to leave most of your stuff on the first ward.

that shouldn't be too bad then, as hopefully by the time you are taken down you won't need anything from the bags anyway..... you can always send your partner to go get anything.

hope it goes ok.

Princess_Coupon

I took in hoards of stuff, 2 big weekender bags packed out, and I still ran out of mat pads and nappies god knows what I took.
I didn't know they still had wards in maternity, we don't have them in my hospital and since it's a pretty bog standard North East hospital i had no idea we were a bit posh. At mine you are in the same private room for your whole stay unless after the birth they know you'll be in a few nights like I was, then you are transfered to another private room which has a proper soft bed otherwise you sleep your 1 night on the delivery bed they just make a few adjustments and add sheets.

gizmodo_2

nic2075 wrote: »

im having a rubbish day so far. I dont have anyone close to talk to so sorry if i go on.

As you all know I move house in a week. This morning my DD was so sad as she will miss all her friends. She was so upset she didnt even eat breakfast, which it totally not like her. She is only 5 and has loads of friends. Everyone keeps saying, oh shes young she'll be fine once she moves etc, but it doesnt take away the guilt.


I also lie at night and get so upset as i dont really want to move either but I feel we have to for the sake of keeping the family together. Im just going to be so alone up there. I know absolutly no one. I have no help with the baby, no one to take the kids when im in labour etc. I know im being silly worrying about these things now, but I have loads of support here and I have to leave it all behind.
My oh goes to work 7am and isnt home til after 6 at night, so he wont be around much.
Everyone keeps saying I need to join every club going and make friends, but im no good at meeting people. its taken me 2 years to finally talk and go for coffee with the mums from school here.

Ive also just called the Anti natal clinic to try and see when my scan date is. Aparantly im not even booked in yet as they are so busy. So I will have to wait until im in Aberdeenshire. im gutted as they dont tell you the sex. i was hoping to travel down for it, but thy said I need to register with a GP up there. I have no idea long that will take to get a scan then.

Im having other issues with paperwork and companies etc with moving house. I just want to cry all the time.

Oh nic. It's much easier to make friends when you are 5, so I wouldn't worry about your daughter. She'll fit right in in no time.

As for you not knowing anyone and making friends I can totally relate to that. I actually have no friends I can call up and go for a cup of coffee or ask help or favours from. I've lived here for 2 years and although I'm going to be lucky because my parents have just moved house so they are 15 minutes from me...I still have no friends, and there are some things you don't want to tell your mum.

I've joined a scrapbook club, but it's hard going and they are all considerably older than me, so not sure anything is going to come out of that. I am hoping to have the guts to try and go to some NCT coffee mornings when baby is born. Is that something you could try?

Maybe we can try and help encourage each other to do something about making friends?

What issues are you having with paperwork? Anything we can help with?

@lilian - my soap nuts arrived today! Oh and thanks for the PM - didn't get round to responding, but thanks, you are a star.

coops228

PC,
Where abouts are you?? I wanna come, it sounds just fine!!!
I went into town (Aberdeen) today to pick some stuff I'd ordered online up from Mamas and Papas and use up a £5 code I had and they had lovely black coats reduced from £50 to £25 so I got it for £20!!! Winner.

coops228

I'm the same as you Nic and Giz. I don't have any close friends where I live even though I've been here 4 years.
Hopefully a new baby might just get me a few coffee loving friends!!!

Here's hoping for us all!!!!!

CL

Princess_Coupon wrote: »

I took in hoards of stuff, 2 big weekender bags packed out, and I still ran out of mat pads and nappies god knows what I took.
I didn't know they still had wards in maternity, we don't have them in my hospital and since it's a pretty bog standard North East hospital i had no idea we were a bit posh. At mine you are in the same private room for your whole stay unless after the birth they know you'll be in a few nights like I was, then you are transfered to another private room which has a proper soft bed otherwise you sleep your 1 night on the delivery bed they just make a few adjustments and add sheets.

Lucky you! The wards in my hospital have 4 women & babies per bay and the side rooms are for those who have unfortunately had something happen to the baby.

Krystaltips

My hospital is like yours CL... You have your own room for delivery (with a shared bathroom between 2 rooms) and then onto the ward with 4 beds to a bay... Side rooms are generally for CS ladies...

I lived in my house for 4 years before I had DD1 and I knew nobody... It's amazing how many doors children open for you, once you start going to toddler groups etc

I also started going to my local church, which isn't everyones cup of tea, but the support from the people there is fantastic and limitless

nic2075

gizmodo wrote: »

Oh nic. It's much easier to make friends when you are 5, so I wouldn't worry about your daughter. She'll fit right in in no time.

As for you not knowing anyone and making friends I can totally relate to that. I actually have no friends I can call up and go for a cup of coffee or ask help or favours from. I've lived here for 2 years and although I'm going to be lucky because my parents have just moved house so they are 15 minutes from me...I still have no friends, and there are some things you don't want to tell your mum.

I've joined a scrapbook club, but it's hard going and they are all considerably older than me, so not sure anything is going to come out of that. I am hoping to have the guts to try and go to some NCT coffee mornings when baby is born. Is that something you could try?

Maybe we can try and help encourage each other to do something about making friends?

What issues are you having with paperwork? Anything we can help with?

@lilian - my soap nuts arrived today! Oh and thanks for the PM - didn't get round to responding, but thanks, you are a star.

I just find it hard making friends when everyone seems to know everyone already.

I was going to try and join the parent council and hopefully meet some mums from the school that way. My DD will also be starting dancing soon after we move so ill have to ask the other mums there a few questions.

I did notice an advert for a workshop for quiltmaking. ive never tried it so i might try and join. They might be all elderly though.


re the paperwork, I was just having issues with the moving company and the council. The company havnt sent back certain forms to get them paid etc. i think its getting sorted now but I was worried they would cancel.

ive just had an emotional day and could cry at the drop of a hat. Ive never thought I was that hormonal when pregnant but I take it all back :rotfl:

thanks for all the words of support. Im trying to look for the positives, like getting the xmas decorations up as soon as we move in and enjoying having a houseful over the whole xmas week.

Make-it-3

Can one of you second (or more) time mums let me know if you think I have enough clothes for a basic starter kit:

7 long sleeve vests (up to one month size)
7 sleepsuits (up to one month size)
7 socks (size 0)
2 hats
2 mittens
All in one knittted snowsuit

I also have received one newborn velour track suit as a pressie already. I don't want to buy too much more as don't know the sex and also everyone keeps saying we will be gifted lots of clothes.

I usually put a wash on at least twice a week.

Princess_Coupon

coops228 wrote: »

PC,
Where abouts are you?? I wanna come, it sounds just fine!!!

Sunderland, after hearing peoples comments I shouldn't moan sounds like I am in luxury. Only thing is despite being refurbished a few years ago there is no water birth facilities. How is this possible I asked the midwife? she said they did put several in but as they were designed by a man they were built too deep and so are not safe in emergencies as they couldn't get the lady out without getting in themselves! I mean !!!!!!!!! who signed off on the design?
You do get a bath though, but have to come out once things get moving.