MSE Pregnancy Club 20

lwcus78

Hugs Sarahangel,
My hubby has issue with weight. I'm normally a size 10 but have put on nearly 2 stone this pregnancy. I've been told good job that the baby coming in Feb, I've got a month or two with baby then can start going out running to loose the baby weight!:eek: My legging wearing days are over apparantly, my thighs are too fat!:eek: He always says comments like these and I'm quite used to it, its got to me a bit more though whilst being preggers. I'm more sensitive. I normally realise that its him with a problem, he obssesses about his own body (going to gym and watching what he eats).
Anyway, I told a girl in work about this and she said that he sounded very much like her hubby. What she did was, when they were doing it she asked him "are you in yet?" and made him feel paranoid about something. Also started saying after they'd finished "was that it?!" She could see that after a while he was getting really paranoid and then pointed out to him that this was what he was doing with her with regards the weight issue. He never commented again! I might try it and let you know how I get on haha!
xx

CL

lwcus78 wrote: »

Hugs Sarahangel,
My hubby has issue with weight. I'm normally a size 10 but have put on nearly 2 stone this pregnancy.

I was a size 10 before I got pregnant and have put on 3 stone. Don't worry about it, it's not excessive. My DH keeps saying I haven't put on weight anywhere except my bump. DH's friend'd wife put on 5 stone with her first (she was about a size 10 before) and she got it all off. BF helped her greatly.

Metranil_Vavin

..ha yes..maybe start picking a few faults with him physically..see how he likes it!

lwcus78

Thanks CL, I'm quite comfortable with my weight, these men need to realise it them that have a problem! Bloody men :mad:x

Teenie_D

lwcus78 wrote: »

, when they were doing it she asked him "are you in yet?" and made him feel paranoid about something. Also started saying after they'd finished "was that it?!"

:rotfl::rotfl:Nice one! Although my hubby would get absolutely nowhere near me if he made comments about my weight!

You know I was whinging on here last week about DH and how upset I was with him over nothing really, but when I read posts like these I realise how lucky I am to have a man who loves and supports me, he really is an angel (don't tell him I said that though ). I think I need to stop taking him for granted and start showing how much I love him

Metranil_Vavin

Teenie_D wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl:Nice one! Although my hubby would get absolutely nowhere near me if he made comments about my weight!

You know I was whinging on here last week about DH and how upset I was with him over nothing really, but when I read posts like these I realise how lucky I am to have a man who loves and supports me, he really is an angel (don't tell him I said that though ). I think I need to stop taking him for granted and start showing how much I love him

You don't need to do the do with him, just make the odd comment when he is undressing/dressing...'I never realised you were on the conservative side' :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

gratefulforhelp_2

sarahangel wrote: »

I'm not good today, OH is being a ***** (enter your own explective here!)

1. This is clearly emotional abuse.
2. You do not have to accept it.
3. You may choose to accept it if everything else about him is perfect, but remember he is setting an example to your children of how they expect to relate to their adult partners when older.
4. From experience I can say that it is better to be a single parent than to live with a man like this.
5. Where will this abuse stop?

How tall are you? Size 16 is normal in this country. Hugs.

hngrymummy wrote: »

You nearly made me choke on a grape with that.

Sorry.

Some people are just sooo rude when it comes to parking. We were parked at the hospital, just got back to the car and a woman came up and parked behind us in a way that meant we coukdn't get the car out (and it's a little car). we asked her to move and she just laughed and said "surely you can get your little car out of there" so DH offered her the car keys and said "You have a go" "Oh no, I might drive into my car" ermmmm..... yes.

She was obviously very important:rotfl:

Guys, not all men are rubbish, and you don't have to put up with a crap one, though I am all for working at marriage and seeing it for the long term, you don't have to put up with abuse.

Metranil_Vavin

Grateful has nailed it. It IS emotional abuse, and should be nipped in the bud as soon as possible.

It is NOT acceptable.

lwcus78

He is brill in every other way. Its just this weight issue thing he's got. He's a fatist. He's an amazing dad too which I love. He's lucky that I'm quite confortable with my weight otherwise I think it would be a real issue. Stil i'd love to bring him down a peg or two!
x

gratefulforhelp_2

And is he a perfect specimen of manhood??