MSE Pregnancy Club 20

nic2075

im having a rubbish day so far. I dont have anyone close to talk to so sorry if i go on.

As you all know I move house in a week. This morning my DD was so sad as she will miss all her friends. She was so upset she didnt even eat breakfast, which it totally not like her. She is only 5 and has loads of friends. Everyone keeps saying, oh shes young she'll be fine once she moves etc, but it doesnt take away the guilt.


I also lie at night and get so upset as i dont really want to move either but I feel we have to for the sake of keeping the family together. Im just going to be so alone up there. I know absolutly no one. I have no help with the baby, no one to take the kids when im in labour etc. I know im being silly worrying about these things now, but I have loads of support here and I have to leave it all behind.
My oh goes to work 7am and isnt home til after 6 at night, so he wont be around much.
Everyone keeps saying I need to join every club going and make friends, but im no good at meeting people. its taken me 2 years to finally talk and go for coffee with the mums from school here.

Ive also just called the Anti natal clinic to try and see when my scan date is. Aparantly im not even booked in yet as they are so busy. So I will have to wait until im in Aberdeenshire. im gutted as they dont tell you the sex. i was hoping to travel down for it, but thy said I need to register with a GP up there. I have no idea long that will take to get a scan then.

Im having other issues with paperwork and companies etc with moving house. I just want to cry all the time.

2girlsforme

Afternoon ladies, not long home from my GTT and scan - relieved to say that everything is ok.... thank goodness - had really started to worry about it all being so rushed! Baby is on the large side - probably about 2 weeks ahead of dates - which is fine given my previous DD. Has a large tummy! just like mum!! and is lying transverse which is quite possibly why I am measuring 5 weeks ahead. GTT has come back more or less as before - still impartial - which is fine, and I am booked in for another scan and GTT in 4 weeks time - am now becoming a pro at this GTT business! Sonongrapher also stuck to her guns with it still being a girl

Krystaltips wrote: »

Pile of bull... Some people find that sometimes the baby gets affected if they eat foods known to make you particularly gassy (cabbage, sprouts, curry) and some people find they need to cut out diluting juices because of the artificial sweeteners and additives... But generally, most people don't need to change their diet in any way...

LOL Krystal - I love your way with words! It is so lovely having contact with someone who is such an expert in the world of BF! I wish I had known you with DD2!!!!

Teenie_D wrote: »

Oh that's good to know, I kind of thought I might tear again in the same place

Does anyone else still feel the original tear spot?

No idea if I tore in the same spot - but tore with both girls and have never felt any discomfort after the first week or so.:o

Charlie1978 wrote: »

My hubby wouldn't ever say anything like that to me. If he did I really wouldn't be held responsible for my actions! I don't even know how men can justify saying things like that to be honest. What would possess you?!

Mine too - he knows waaaaay better than that! To be fair he is very supportive - his weight fluctuates too! Would end up with a sore nose and black eyes if he told me I was fat! (and too be fair it would be true :o)

Sarahangel - What a git he is!! I hope he see's sense and apologises to you - with everything else you are going through your weight is so not an issue! huge bear hugs from me.

dustystar02

ema_o wrote: »

Silly phone, not sure why it's putting an ' after me, it either does that or changes it to mr?!

Mine does that too, the iphone is it? Course it is - you are me...!!!
I have no idea how to change the predictive text though

ema_o wrote: »

Dusty, ha I am determined not to like the zoom now . Still, things wouldn't be normal if I wasn't copying you .
Don't worry about lack of movement, I had that for the last couple of weeks and was stressing, but now movements are back with a vengance! At least you don't have long to wait now

As for me I'm just stressing about whether everything will be ok at this scan. Am just used to stressing now tho and have accepted I'll be doing it for the next 20 years +

Friend of mine just told me she is pg, she's been trying for years, had mc'd before 6 weeks twice bless her and has only just found out, so worried it'll happen again. Send some sticky dust her way please!

Sticky dust to copy cats friend

I honestly don't mind if you like the zoom, I can cope. . It is good and a bargain at the minute. Remember the wheels can come off and you can get the footmuffs from the Sola to brighten it up. P.S our next door neighbours have just put their house on the market - are you interested? :rotfl:

Sarah - I don't know what to say that others haven't already. I would say though i have had my own issues with my OH lately which even caused me to move out for a few days. He saw the error of his ways and I realised I had my own faults too. You need to spell it to him clearly how much he is upsetting you. Remind him that being pg is not being fat - you are growing his child !!!!!!..!! :mad:

Charlie1978

I agree Dusty. Posts like this make you value your hubby all the more! Mine is an angel in comparison! :d

Teenie_D

nic2075 wrote: »

im having a rubbish day so far. I dont have anyone close to talk to so sorry if i go on.

As you all know I move house in a week. This morning my DD was so sad as she will miss all her friends. She was so upset she didnt even eat breakfast, which it totally not like her. She is only 5 and has loads of friends. Everyone keeps saying, oh shes young she'll be fine once she moves etc, but it doesnt take away the guilt.


I also lie at night and get so upset as i dont really want to move either but I feel we have to for the sake of keeping the family together. Im just going to be so alone up there. I know absolutly no one. I have no help with the baby, no one to take the kids when im in labour etc. I know im being silly worrying about these things now, but I have loads of support here and I have to leave it all behind.
My oh goes to work 7am and isnt home til after 6 at night, so he wont be around much.
Everyone keeps saying I need to join every club going and make friends, but im no good at meeting people. its taken me 2 years to finally talk and go for coffee with the mums from school here.

Ive also just called the Anti natal clinic to try and see when my scan date is. Aparantly im not even booked in yet as they are so busy. So I will have to wait until im in Aberdeenshire. im gutted as they dont tell you the sex. i was hoping to travel down for it, but thy said I need to register with a GP up there. I have no idea long that will take to get a scan then.

Im having other issues with paperwork and companies etc with moving house. I just want to cry all the time.

Nic I am so sorry you are feeling down Your friends are right your DD will settle in just fine although I understand how you would be feeling guilty.

It is a very big step you are taking and I admire you, especially with a wee one on the way. I don't think you are being silly worrying about these thing, it's what I would be worrying about too.

I really don't know what to say to you to make you feel better, I don't suppose anything will.

I know it's not really a consolation but I will be less than 30 miles from you, so if you ever need company or to go for coffee with someone you know where I am xxx

sarahangel

Ladies,

I don't think I've ever laughed and cried so much in one day reading your posts! Thanks one and all.
My mum has just phoned and had another good cry.

I think the problem with OH is that he has his own issues with his body image and this hissy fit has probably come out of folks actually complimenting me on how well and blooming I look whilst I'm pregnant and in his mind he probably feels that I will want to keep the baby weight after I've had the little chap. He couldn't be further from the truth but instead of talking to me about it he goes all quiet and assumes things. He was complaining that he was eating too much chocolate because I am pregnant the other night!
He did regret saying things about my weight all those years ago because he has told me on numerous occasions but I feel it's a stick to beat me with when he gets like this and I'm sick of worrying about the next time he might throw it in my face.

Personally, I don't think he is very happy but I don't know why. He is probably as worried about the baby as I am but doesn't know how to express his feelings or he has a bit of "the grass is greener" syndrome with his best mate being newly single and the weight thing was something to chuck out there so I would go ballistic and tell him to leave so he can go and be a "lad" with his mate. He is a hopeless perfectionist and never happy unless he is striving towards the next thing he has in his mind, all I want is to be happy.
Whatever the reason he shouldn't want to make me feel like this at this stage in my pregnancy and all I want is the support of my partner, isn't too much to ask is it?

I will get to the bottom of it later but I have a feeling that its not going to be good whatever it is.

BTW - I was a size 12 last Christmas when I stopped taking the pill and was size 14 when I got pregnant in May and I've only put a stone on so far and I'm 30 weeks on Saturday and I'm still in some of my pre-pregnancy tops/PJ's so I think all the weight is all baby.

Grateful - I'm 5'4" so I'm about average.

Teenie_D

Nic have PM'd you x

DueMarch11

Hi All

Sorry to those having sh!tty days, chocolate all round, !!!!!! the weight and what the OH's think, there are far worse things in the world than carrying a little extra weight, you only have to look at one of our posters to see that.

Nic, I know what you mean about feeling guilty, my dd is changing childminders after Xmas as mine is going on maternity leave and even though there is nothing I can do about it I feel so bad. But unfortunately thats part and parcel of motherhood, guilt and worry will stay with you forever, yay lol. Your dd will be fine and Im a great believer in everything sorts itself out.

Do you ever get those days where youre in a take no !!!!!! mood?? I would actually like someone to take a pop at me just so that I can throw some verbal about, god whats up with me lol.

Had a driving lesson this morning where we did a mock test, and I failed spectacularly. In fairness though, my instructor did take me on the hardest route so at least if I get that I know what to look out for down that route in particular. Is it Krystal who has her test the same day as me?? Hows it going?

Big mugs of (decaff if youve gone down that road) tea and big slabs of chocolate (if it doesnt give you too much heartburn lol) all round xxxx

CL

I have another question for those who have already done this. I have packed a bag for me and a changing bag for the baby. Someone has told me that you won't be allowed to bring these both with you to the delivery suite and maybe I should rearrange and have a changing bag with stuff I'd like in the delivery suite and everything else in the other bag. What do you think?

gratefulforhelp_2

sarahangel wrote: »

Grateful - I'm 5'4" so I'm about average.

Yep, pretty normal, in fact on the small side of average if size 16 is your size at 30 weeks.

Do you really want to be with him if he's game playing like that? He has maybe forgotten all the hassles of the single scene and he's a Daddy !!!!!!, not that it means that much to all men.

Maybe we need to think of something funny you can say to diffuse the anger and just laugh at him when he does it again, if it loses it's power to upset you he might lose interest? In saying it I mean.

nic hugs for you, I had a major meltdown this weekend, its all part of being pregnant and having a lot to cope with.