MSE Pregnancy Club 20

nic2075

chickywiggle wrote: »

do what i do when that happens - set your status too "ohhh mega tuneage, reminds me of my college/ uni/ teenage (delete as apppropriate) days. what I wouldn't give for a night out on the tiles right about now!"

I do the opposite and pretend I'm already out and having a brilliant time with some new friends. Sometimes they invite me next time knowing I still go out. But to be honest I've been invited to a handful of nights out in 6 years. The thing is most of my friends stay in Glasgow now and they assume I wouldn't travel half an hour on a train for a night out. I'm about to move 200 miles away from them all and I don't think I'll miss them now.

rach

Just popping on to say congrats to tigtag, hope you enjoy your Leo as much as we do ours!

grateful - good on you!

hospital bags - I ended up being in longer than expected and dh brought extra bits, I had a bag (change bag) for the baby and a bag for me. Snacks etc, I wasn't really able to force anything down, DH went off a few times to get himself things, to be honest I think he was glad of the break. One thing i would say is make sure your DH knows what is what for the baby, i had 2 plastic sandwich bags with 'newborn' and '0-3' labelled, in case we had a massive baby, but I hadn't explained to him what was a sleepsuit, vest etc so was trying to give instructions and everything happend fast once they decided to do the emergency section, and i wasn't really with it!

my1stbaby

Hi everyone, not sure if i am posting this ok, just introducing myself - had a miscarriage last year, very traumatic, now 22 weeks pregnant due 20/03/11, team yellow as the little blighter wouldn't open it's legs even though hubby & I really wanted know. Just wanted to say how much I have been following the forums- miscarriage, less than 12 weeks pregnant and now this thread, can I just say as a lurker how informative & positive I have found all the info I have been reading for weeks, I am 38 yrs old with my first baby I am also A rhesus negative and had the triple test, all ok. A massive thankyou for the reassurance I have felt reading everyone's stories, being a first timer is daunting but I have learnt so much from you all & have learnt to relax with my symptoms & queries.

twoflower169

Well girls, I did get a dress, but it was wasn't a maternity dress! Its was a size 12 in oasis! Very fitting, very unlike me dress with a big jewelly thing on the front! I will get someone to take a pic when I wear it and post it!

Other than that today I feel life is Poo!!!!! I actually mean that stronger but not in me to swear!

Off loading coming up.....I lost the plot with ds tonight, I've been trying to keep consisitent with discipline as recommended by charity thats working with me. But ds just would not settle to sleep and just kept pushing and pushing, I could have just backed down and let him do what him wanted to, but I know I need to keep going, anyway I lost the plot and shouted at him so bad, he sobbed, I sobbed, I think I may have finally given into the crying and let go, but ds was so upset he was sat on my lap sobbing saying please mummy dont cry, so I stopped, I was crying cos I upset him and I was so angry at this is where I find myself on my own, trying to look after him the best way I know how at the moment, whilst trying to grieve my husband. We just sat and cuddled til we both calmed down, he also cuddled my tummy, so sweet, how can I hurt my poor little boy who's world has been turned upside down by his daddy no longer being here and now mummy is being horrid, when all in his little mind all he wanted to do is sleep in my bed! I feel so awful, how do I just keep going and keep normality when I obviuosly cant do it at the moment, I just need to allow my heart to break at losing my best friend and love of my life, but something is stopping me.

I am so sorry girls to pull thread down, but I had to offload somewhere.

tf x

Make-it-3

Twoflower, I have no experience of what you are going through and don't want to challenge the advice the charity have given you, but I would have thought that letting your little boy sleep in your bed for a little while might be beneficial for the both of you. I'm sure you both need the closeness, comfort and support that you can give to each other.

Evansangel

Twoflower, you are not pulling the thread down. You need a place to talk and here is the place for it.

Im sure no-one minds you just writing everything down.

((hugs)) to you and your ds xx

CL

Twoflower - you sound to be coping amazingly well. You need somewhere to vent and here is just the place. Keep posting and let us know how you are getting on.

FairyShazza

my1stbaby wrote: »

Hi everyone, not sure if i am posting this ok, just introducing myself - had a miscarriage last year, very traumatic, now 22 weeks pregnant due 20/03/11, team yellow as the little blighter wouldn't open it's legs even though hubby & I really wanted know. Just wanted to say how much I have been following the forums- miscarriage, less than 12 weeks pregnant and now this thread, can I just say as a lurker how informative & positive I have found all the info I have been reading for weeks, I am 38 yrs old with my first baby I am also A rhesus negative and had the triple test, all ok. A massive thankyou for the reassurance I have felt reading everyone's stories, being a first timer is daunting but I have learnt so much from you all & have learnt to relax with my symptoms & queries.

Welcome my1st baby

You are due the same day as me - I had a missed miscarriage last year so know how traumatic it is and how worrying it is when you get pregnant again. I am team yellow too (through choice though). I'm 36 and this is our first baby as well and I agree it is very daunting but this thread is great for getting information

Nice to have you joining us.

FairyShazza

Twoflower sorry your day has ended so badly Please don't feel that you can't come and offload here - if you feel that is a place where you want to get things off your chest then go ahead we all understand and don't mind at all.

I also think that maybe allowing your DS to sleep in with you for a while can't be that bad as it may just be he needs to be close to you because he is upset and confused about whats happened. It is a massive thing for anyone to go through and I'm not sure how old your DS it is but I'm sure a natural reaction to the loss of a parent at a young age would be to cling on to the remaining parent through fear, upset and worry. It sounds as if you both needed a bit cuddle and crying session to help you releive some pent up emotion and tension and hopefully having that will have been a great release for you both *hugs*

sir_monster

rach wrote: »

hospital bags - One thing i would say is make sure your DH knows what is what for the baby, i had 2 plastic sandwich bags with 'newborn' and '0-3' labelled, in case we had a massive baby, but I hadn't explained to him what was a sleepsuit, vest etc so was trying to give instructions and everything happend fast once they decided to do the emergency section, and i wasn't really with it!

Rach this is so true in the recovery room after my section I had to help DH find things and tell him what they were. Another good tip if you are longer than you think make your DH's aware where you have put all the clothes for baby in case you need more as we did.