MSE Pregnancy Club 20

Teenie_D

Pixie sweetheart I am so sorry.

I have to say though that I agree with Charlie. I don't want to upset you further but I went to bed thinking/worrying about you last night (didn't want to tell you this morning, you might think I'm some sort of weirdo ) and your OH came into my head and I started wondering why he is not standing up for himself/you when it comes to his Mum. He should be doing absolutely EVERYTHING to make things a bit easier for you just now especially when you hardly see one another. Has he thought about what happens when you go into labour? How you are going to get there? How he is going to get to you? He needs to be there for you for support and if he is not willing to do that then.........:o

I really hope you sort things out but sorry he bl00dy well needs to start stepping up to the mark!

I really hope I've not upset you hun I'm just a concerned internet buddy

Charlie1978

I think he said he would get on the train to reach her for labour which was a 3 hour journey?!!! Not entirely sure so don't quote me on it. I just thought that rather strange but then again... it takes all sorts to make the world go around. My hubby will be there when I need him or he'd better have a bloody good excuse (like death - touch wood that doesn't happen but you know!) for him not being there! But then again, wild horses wouldn't keep him away and he'd move heaven and earth to be there. I guess I just got used to men being like that that I find 'oh i'll pop on a train when there is one and get to you whenever' a bit weird.

Sorry

Big hug Pixie. I know you must need one right now hun. xx

iceicebaby

Evening Ladies

29 week appointment went fine. Heartbeat was fine and I'm bang on in the middle of the range on the growth charts. Took some bloods and then I was sent on my way!

I have the same pee pot too, in fact you have all just reminded me I need to empty it and rinse, its still in my bag and I wouldnt want that falling out and rolling across the floor in work tomorrow lol. I bought a funnel from the pound shop for weeing into the pot, no mess, no wet hands lol.

I have decided on a carry cot for bubs to sleep in during the day. Just need to find one I like at a sensible price so that's my next mission!

(hugs) to Pixie, I haven't got anything to add to what everyone else has said but don't forget we are all here for you to moan/rant/generally offload.

Hope everyone is ok.

Pixiepops

Thanks all. No, he is a compulsive liar. Even things like 'what did you have for lunch?' he'll lie about. Thing is I know it can be an issue for some people. My mother was told she was a compulsive liar when she was a kid and it was something she genuinely couldn't help doing so when I started living with her at the age of 7, I grew up learning how to tell truth from lies through body language, etc and also how to find evidence. I think to some people lying gives them a rush and they get caught up in it and can't stop doing it.

I mean OH spent that whole weekend texting me saying he was at his dad's (I was suspicious already as something hadn't added up quite right). The reason I tend to get suspicious and look for clues (I sound like scooby doo) is because I'm paranoid over everything. Literally. I mean he can't even make a cup of coffee for me because I get paranoid he's put something in it. And not just him, I generally can't have people make food for me and stuff unless I 'accidentally' wander through the kitchen a few times. It's just part of anxiety and depression and stuff all rolled into one I guess. In fact, thanks to my information sourcing, I became the 'Queen bee' with my friends and actually got the nickname of Blair (as in from gossip girl) for my ability to find stuff out.

So it's not that I'm a stalker freak that sits and writes everything he says or does down, it's that I know if something's off and I have a somewhat photographic memory (it's actually horrible, I can still remember the answers to a memory test I did in Year 8 and I don't choose what I forget, if it sticks, it's stuck :S) So basically when I log onto facebook to check my notifications and something crops up on my news feed, if it has something to do with someone, I sometimes remember something related to that day/subject/piece of news etc, IYKWIM. My mind is like a library cross-referencing unit :P

With regards to OH, he has now explained that he wanted to see his friends and wasn't sure how I'd react. When I said well why couldn't I be there too that weekend like we planned he said that he hadn't told them about the pregnancy yet and didn't want them to know plus with the pregnancy making me feel sick and tired he thought I wouldn't have gone with him so he couldn't have gone. I am now giving him the cold shoulder and he's apologising profusely. I don't think he'll be crossing me again as this was his one completely thought out and apparently foolproof lie and I cracked it so he's FINALLY realised that on the lies it's a complete game over for him.

He's supposed to be coming here again this weekend so we'll see.

And yeah if I was to start going into labour the only thing he could do would be get the train. It takes 3 hours but it's our only choice really. I mean, if baby comes early he'll still be in Reading as he works there and it's pretty well paid.

madbird_2

Hugs Pixie, not sure I can add anymore, you need to talk to OH xx

Teenie how is DD today?

Pixiepops

Oh and please don't think I'm mental and think 'oh it's okay for him to just get a train whenever and all will be dandy'. However, with the distance I'm prepared for it and I'm quite happy to do the birth alone, it's not something that worries me. He couldn't find a job here that would pay him as much, let alone take him on (he's working as an I.T and networking support technician) and in fairness there's a lot more I.T work in reading than here and the company is paying for all his exams and books so I told him I didn't mind if he stayed in the job.

Teenie_D

madbird wrote: »

Teenie how is DD today?

A LOT better today thank goodness, I was getting a wee bit worried about her tbh as it is not like her to take so long to bounce back. She is still not 100% so I kept her off nursery today again but I think she will be ready to go back tomorrow.

Thanks for asking x

Teenie_D

Pixiepops wrote: »

Oh and please don't think I'm mental and think 'oh it's okay for him to just get a train whenever and all will be dandy'. However, with the distance I'm prepared for it and I'm quite happy to do the birth alone, it's not something that worries me. He couldn't find a job here that would pay him as much, let alone take him on (he's working as an I.T and networking support technician) and in fairness there's a lot more I.T work in reading than here and the company is paying for all his exams and books so I told him I didn't mind if he stayed in the job.

Please don't think we are having a go, I'm sure I can speak for the others when I say this but it is genuine concern for you. I can't stand to think of anyone being on their own:(

sparkle76

Hi Pixie glad it's getting sorted - sounds like he needs to tell friends etc so that there are no more excuses and he doesn't 'need' to lie anymore - no matter what you say to eachother this weekend, hopefully that talk you will always get the truth from him.

As to MrSparkle, I am lucky - only thing I sort of wish he would change is that on his nights for cooking he'd get food ready earlier, as by 7 I'm ravenous and don't want to east toast etc for fear of ruining my dinner appetite. I have tried hinting that by 7 I am starving, but no matter what day of the week, he'll come in and chill on the computer or read or study and I don't want to take that time away from him, so sometimes I end up cooking again. We both work similar hours so I guess I am just being cranky... ignore!

Apricot hope you work something out re how to tell your boss, I keep wondering how I will start the talk... plus we're in an open office so would need to go out with him maybe for privacy - soon as I mention needing privacy he will know something is up!

Pixiepops

Teenie_D wrote: »

Please don't think we are having a go, I'm sure I can speak for the others when I say this but it is genuine concern for you. I can't stand to think of anyone being on there own:(

It's okay. I didn't take it that way. In fact, it was nice to get opinions and I like this forum because you always feel other people's support even if you just know them as a screen name.

Thank you everybody for always being here for everyone else.

In other news, I AM STARVING. (and hiding in a cupboard now that I know someone went to bed thinking of me, the creep :rotfl:)