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Pixiepops wrote: »

He lies about everything. He made me believe that his father had extended his holiday in england (his father works in dubai) and he was seeing him just before he went. And I was supposed to go and see him and couldn't. He wouldn't have told me either. Just photos turned up on facebook.

Oh Pixie, I don't know what to say. I don't know how your relationship is but if it were my OH I'd be heartbroken at that lie.

Pixiepops

He then tried to say it was a different weekend to cover up. I have a sort photographic memory. Which is unlucky for him. Means I always find out. The weekend he tried to say it was he'd been on a video skype call to me most of the evening. And he was wearing clothes that he got for christmas and only took the tags off of them on the second (he was at mine) so I figured it had to be the dad weekend. I presented my evidence and he confirmed his lies.

(PS: I am considering a career as a detective)

Princess_Coupon

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I've been telling DD (2.5yrs old) about sharing toys and stuff with the baby she said " okay mam, but it's my Daddy"! Oh dear we may have problems ahead.

annibee

SusanC wrote: »

I can't remember how it came up but I think I'd told her about expressing a few weeks earlier. (Although she does listen to and take everything in so OH and I frequently have conversations with half the words spelled so she doesn't know what we're talking about.) She is very thoughtful about the baby - when I was going to be admitted to hospital I explained to her about a drip beforehand and her first concern was whether it would be okay for the baby and when the Doctor ran through my initial treatment plan on admission she was most put out that she had only talked about me and not the baby.

aww bless The bit in bold sounds like us!!!
Shes going to love being the big sister then - its good for you though because shell be a great little helper also you can imagine she'll be reading it stories etc which will be nice bonding for them

annibee

Pixiepops wrote: »

I don't know what to do with OH. Turns out he didn't go to his father's at the beginning of the month, he spent the weekend out partying with friends. So I'm thinking that this is the end of us. Not sure what to do now.

oh hunni I cant say why he would do that obv but Just want to send you hugs ((hugs)) and say im here if you need to vent!!

Also what a **** for continuing the lie I dont know why men do that (sorry to be stereotypical but it does seem that way) they get caught out and they just continue lying!!! its so annoying :mad:

annibee

Princess_Coupon wrote: »

I've been telling DD (2.5yrs old) about sharing toys and stuff with the baby she said " okay mam, but it's my Daddy"! Oh dear we may have problems ahead.

this made me :rotfl::rotfl:

Pixiepops

annibee wrote: »

oh hunni I cant say why he would do that obv but Just want to send you hugs ((hugs)) and say im here if you need to vent!!

Also what a **** for continuing the lie I dont know why men do that (sorry to be stereotypical but it does seem that way) they get caught out and they just continue lying!!! its so annoying :mad:

I think he's beginning to learn that I always find out. Not only am I more cunning than he is but I have a weird talent for snooping and finding things out. This isn't the first lie I've worked out was a lie.

Charlie1978

Pixiepops wrote: »

I think he's beginning to learn that I always find out. Not only am I more cunning than he is but I have a weird talent for snooping and finding things out. This isn't the first lie I've worked out was a lie.

Thing is... why are you like this? Has he made you like this with his lies??? Because that's how it was with my ex. He'd lie about anything and everything and it got bloody boring to put it mildly. It got to the point where he said he was going to the shop, be gone 5 minutes, come back with a loaf of bread and milk and I didn't believe him! :rotfl::rotfl:

This is damaging you, your self esteem and now you have a baby to look after. Note I say A baby! Not two! He seriously needs to grow up!!

I'm sorry to say, because it often hurts, that it's time to find out the truth. The whole truth and nothing but the truth. If he can't handle the fact that he's about to be a dad and step up to his responsibilities and actually offer you the support you need then perhaps you are better off without him.

Sorry. I have a habit of saying it the way I see it and if you want me to sod off and shut up I can do so.

Happy endings do happen though. My hubby hates lies as much as I do so I can always guarantee the truth from him. I may not always like it... but I always get it

annibee

Pixiepops wrote: »

I think he's beginning to learn that I always find out. Not only am I more cunning than he is but I have a weird talent for snooping and finding things out. This isn't the first lie I've worked out was a lie.

probably wont be the last either am afraid men are creatures of habit. Youve just gotta figure out how damaging the lies are to you - If its things that he could tell you the truth about and youd be fine you need to tell him that theres no reason to lie. If their things that you dont want him to do and thats why hes lying then you both need to talk really about the expectations in the relationship.

It can be fixed if you both want the same things and can both comprimise.

ds's dad was a compulsive liar - still is and even when hes caught will still stand by his lie. In the end it was apparent that we both wanted different things and we both wanted different things in a relationship I was ready to settle down he wanted to go out drinking himself to oblivion and getting high.

It was the most difficult desicion to walk away from him with a baby but it was the right one. We would have never made each other happy.

So I think you need to talk to him one to one face to face about what you both want. And take sometime to think to yourself what you want Any desicion you make now theres a lo involved will be hard and unfortunatley fall on you to make but you need to do whats best for you and the baby first and foremost.

((hugs))

*hope my post hasnt come accross as telling you what to do or anything patronising like that*

SusanC_2

annibee wrote: »

aww bless The bit in bold sounds like us!!!

It's really funny because she totally copies the spelling thing so she'll turn to me and say, "Shall we give this baby" and then spout a random string of letters.