MSE Pregnancy Club 20

GarnetLady

Perdi wrote: »

Whaaa? Are you allowed to leave them naked? lol

I think I might jump on the Chinese band wagon. I've already said to OH it's take out tonight!

I know, seems a bit odd really, but that's my local hospital for you. Still gutted that I'm going to miss out on using the new hospital by a matter of weeks.

I'm sooo tempted to drag DH to get one tonight, but Asda it'll have to be instead.

ecoelle

I am a bit worried about something. Everything with me seems to begoing fine, i haven't had any MS but i'm not worried, just hoping i'm a lucky one. My tummy muscles are still stretching, which can be a bit uncomfortable and my bo o bs are still really sore. Also does anyone elses lower tummy really hurt when they sneeze?

The reason i'm worrying is this. One of my very best friends has been TTC for the last 5 years. And after lots of tests and being told it'll never happen naturally, and that they should carry on with the fertility treatment found out she was pregnant in January last year, about this time i think. The baby was due last September, but at 11 weeks she started to have bleeding and intense stomach cramps, so much so that she ended up calling 999 and being rushed into hospital. She had to take medication to terminate the pregnancy as it was ectopic (sp, sorry), her husband had to sign the forms as she was so out of it, anyway, she almost died. I really feel for them as they would be wonderful parents. Since all this happened she has been in and out of hospital and has had to have a couple of small operations as the doctors can't understand why she isn't healing properly.

Well, i got married last year and she was one of my witnesses, and she had an awful time even looking at one of my other friends who was pregnant at the time. She told me that she really resents people who have childrena nd can't stand to be around parents and their kids because it makes her so angry and upset. I spoke to her last night and she is only just coming to terms with what happened, Her and her husband have been seeing a counsillor which i think has helped but i don't know how to tell her i'm expecting.

I am due to see the mw on Tuesday for my first appointment, then i guess a scan will get booked but she is coming to visit on the 19th Feb to stay for the weekend, as it's another one of friends birthdays, and she lives a long way away. I can't decide if i should tell her over the phone before they come to stay, or tell them when they are here for the weekend, but then i might spoil my friends birthday, or tell tehm after they leave, but what if they see something around the house that gives it away and ive not pre warned them.

I just don't know what to do. I have never lost a baby, i have never had to see my partner go through something like that, and so i can't possibly understand how long it takes to come to terms with, but i can't hide the pregnancy forever and i thought maybe someone on here may have experienced something similar?

I don't want anyone to worry about any of the things i have said. My friend has a genetic condition which meant it was almost 100% that she would never even concieve so to conceive and then find out it was ectopic was even more rare. I am not wanting to make anyone else worry about their pregnancy, i just want a biot of advice.

babyboysmommy

All the talk about blankets/sleeping bags...

DS wouldn't sleep with any of them! I tried a sheet, sheet & blanket, sleeping bags & he hated them all. He slept far better with nothing on him just the clothes he was wearing. I thought it might be because he was a summer baby & it was hot that year so often he just slept in a nappy & vest.

Now (age 4.5) he will use a duvet if it's really cold but otherwise has nothing on him, he just kicks it off. I worried when he was little that he would get too cold but he thrived none the less The house was never that cold & if it got really chilly in the winter I put the heating on low over night just in case.

I kept all the cot bedding for this baby & the blankets still look new! LOL I also have sleeping bags that again still look new. Hopefully this baby will like to be snuggled up warm so I wont be worrying about another one getting cold in the night

Sammy_Girl

dustystar02 wrote: »

manic in work today so not had chance to read back

but keter bath support now £4.99 in argos

http://www.argos.co.uk/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/Search?storeId=10001&catalogId=1500002451&langId=-1&searchTerms=KETER+SUPPORT

catch up later...xx

Thanks Dusty. Have reserved the last one at my local. Has good reviews as well

Sequeena

ecoelle I answered you on the other thread x

Sammy_Girl

Ecoelle - So sorry to hear about your friend It is a tricky one, but like you say - you can't hide it for ever, and nor should you. I personally would probably tell her before she came to stay to save any awkwardness or upset if she found out whilst staying at yours . Could you maybe write it in a letter?

(((Hugs)))

PS _ Don't worry about your symptoms. I didn't have any MS, only some nausea early on and bubs is doing well

gratefulforhelp_2

annibee wrote: »

yeah and they dont advise reusing teeth

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

SusanC wrote: »

I think it's ridiculous that some hospitals won't provide formula - if an adult or child is admitted to hospital they are provided with food so why should a newborn baby be any different? I also can't see how it encourages breastfeeding as surely it encourages people to buy formula and bring it with them just in case which increases the likelihood of them using it.

Better that than them pretty much forcing you into using formula as they did with me, it was basically "Give your baby this or she will die"

SusanC wrote: »

That's what I did - I fed and OH did almost everything else.

And did it work?

Sammy_Girl

Nic - Can you make your move please. Lol

lilian1977

lottyxx wrote: »

looks like i might have to buy something like this.

http://www.boots.com/en/SMA-First-Infant-Milk-Starter-Pack-12-x-100ml_955186/

Ah - these are the ones I saw in hospital so maybe one of the mums had just brought this with her.

chickywiggle wrote: »

just popped in to say i'm still here (but can't keep up with this thread).

- milk --> I used SMA with DS1 (cause thats what my mummy told me to use)........ after the 1st tin I moved him onto cow and gate as it was cheaper (ever little helps). If your babies are sicky it's not always the powder - just to bear in mind. My DS suffered from reflux but it took us months to work that out, as he didn't cry or anything after feeding he was just sicky. It was only by someone suggesting we try her baby gaviscon and it stopped it instantly that I went to dr and got him diagnosed. Well I say diagnosed I went in said "he's got reflux - baby gaviscon seems to do the trick, 1 half in each bottle, can I have some" a voila no questions "ohh aren't you a clever mummy, here's a repeat prescription if you need to come back do if not don't!". (have kept a leftover box incase this one is the same).

Thanks for this - I might ask the doctor for some.

SusanC wrote: »

Your hospital should have some kind of afterthoughts service where they can talk through your birth with you and any questions you have about it so I imagine that would probably be a good place to ask about something like that. I don't know the details of your birth but I do know someone on the parent thread who had problems with the birth and was told that she would be able to have an elective CS next time so it is not unheard of but would presumably depend on the individual circumstances.

Thanks Susan - it's not that I don't understand why what happened happened because I do, I'm aware that his heartbeat was dropping, that they had to get him out and that forceps and episiotomy were the only way to do this as it was an emergency. But I just know I couldn't go through that again.

ecoelle

Sammy_girl and Sequeena

Thanks for the replies. I was thinking or writing her a letter because then i figured that i could explain how i feel, and how i don't want her to be upset, but also i could put on the letter that it is to be opened together with her husband, and that they are to only ring when they are happy to talk at a time good for them. Because when i rang the other day i was going to tell her and then she said her husband was out and i thought well i can't ell her when she's home all alone as then her hubby might get angry with me. When they find out i suppose it would give them time to digest it and if they then thought it would be too difficult to stay with us then they wouldn't have to. The only thing is it means telling them before the 12 weeks and also telling them bnefore we have tols anyone else. I don't think they would say anything but it means they would know before family, and i don't know what to do. Maybe we should just tell everyone? I'm only 7w4d though so it seems really early, trouble is that when they come to visit i'll be coming up to 12 weeks.