MSE Pregnancy Club 20

jenapples

Hi ladies,

Can I get some labour vibes, I'm now stuck in hospital as my blood pressure is high and have headaches and so on, so I really want him out now so I can meet him and go home.

Lots of vibes to whoever needs them.

Can't remember your name, sorry- but that's a lovely scan picture you got, congrats

Jen x

Sammy_Girl

ecoelle wrote: »

Sammy_girl and Sequeena

Thanks for the replies. I was thinking or writing her a letter because then i figured that i could explain how i feel, and how i don't want her to be upset, but also i could put on the letter that it is to be opened together with her husband, and that they are to only ring when they are happy to talk at a time good for them. Because when i rang the other day i was going to tell her and then she said her husband was out and i thought well i can't ell her when she's home all alone as then her hubby might get angry with me. When they find out i suppose it would give them time to digest it and if they then thought it would be too difficult to stay with us then they wouldn't have to. The only thing is it means telling them before the 12 weeks and also telling them bnefore we have tols anyone else. I don't think they would say anything but it means they would know before family, and i don't know what to do. Maybe we should just tell everyone? I'm only 7w4d though so it seems really early, trouble is that when they come to visit i'll be coming up to 12 weeks.

Yes think its nice to put it all in a letter for them to read together. At the end of the day, you are being considerate to their situation, but you need to enjoy your own pregnancy too.

Toughie, about when to tell. Could you maybe tell immediate family only first and then do the letter and then everyone else can wait til after the 12 week scan?

ecoelle

I 'm not sure i think i'll try talking to hubby when he gets in from work, but he's had a really tough day and don't want to bother him. But he loves talking about the babs, and he keeps asking when he can tell people! I'm just worried because if anything goes wrong you've then got to tell people all over again and also, i work in a little parade of shops, with my mum in the same shop and my mil in the one next door. I really don't want to tell work until we have a decision made about the next round of promotions as though it shouldn't make a differnce of course it will:) I think i'll wait and see the mw on tuesday, then maybe write the letter to my friend, and then wait to tell other friends and family until after the scan. I think some scans get done before 12 weeks, so it might mean i can tell friends and family before my friends come to stay anyway, then by the time they come everyone will know and i won't have to lie or hide anymore!

vroombroom

evening ladies, payday has come early. As an apology for being a t*t the other day, OH took me out shopping. We bought cot and mattress from Ikea, bought the wardrobe and chest of drawers.:D He is upstairs putting them up now:D

Also bought some maternity bras - I have gone from a 34d to a 38G:eek::eek: but omg, when I put my b o o b i e s in them its like I have died and gone to heaven:rotfl:

and did someone mention takeaway....

hngrymummy

Hi ecoelle - I can only give you my perspective, and I didn't go through half as much as your friend. I was told that I would struggle to conceive naturally, and was discussing adoption with DH when we discovered I was PG. When I was told about the difficulty conceiving I got really upset whenever I saw someone who was pregnant or with a baby. It was like a reminder of what I couldn't do. When it was a stranger I saw I just got upset and a bit resentful, when it was a good friend of family I was upset, a bit resentful, but also really pleased for them. It was a difficult set of emotions to deal with, especially with one of my friends constantly telling me what a great mum I'd make.

I would try to let them know before they come and visit so that it's not a shock to them. Try to be as sensitive as you can if they visit, and don't mention the baby unless they do. Make sure they know that you understand if they need some space away from you. If they start accusing you of flaunting your pregnancy, don't take it to heart. It's unlikely that they mean it, they're just trying to sort out their emotions.

Don't worry about telling them before you tell your parents. Sometimes it's what needs to be done. As long as your friends know that it's not common knowledge and not to let on.

I hope that makes sense and isn't too rambly.

lottyxx

SusanC_2

Perdi wrote: »

Psychologically I really don't think I can handle an episiotomy, I would rather go straight for a c-section over forceps. Haven't discussed anything with OH yet but I'm hoping he will understand and back me up.

If you definitely don't want an episiotomy, I would recommend not having an epidural as the epidural meant they were able to give me one without my knowledge or consent. (I knew they wanted to do one as they were discussing it but I didn't realise they'd actually done it till afterwards.)

SusanC_2

GarnetLady wrote: »

I also had to laugh at the booklet I got from the hospital. It has a list of what to bring in your bag (or more like what not to bring!) and it has at the end - Baby clothes if desired.

I said I wanted Alice to be wrapped in a towel or blanket when she was born and then given to me or OH. When we unwrapped her, they'd put her in a pampers nappy and a hospital gown.

digitalphase

Sequeena wrote: »

digitalphase I was on 75mg venlafaxine (previously been on citalopram, prozac and sertraline). I'm not taking them currently but it's hard trying to regulate my mood, especially with hormones on top.

I wanted to cry because I got the bus home yesterday instead of walking (I live on a mountain). It's getting harder to walk up and down the hills now but why would I want to cry over it??? Crazy hormones.

Ah, I was on citalopram for about 6months. Have been feeling down, but think mine is just hormones. Could yours just be hormones as well, or were you on the tablets when you found out you were pregnant. Sorry, don't mean to be so nosey just would be interested to know what tablets they put you on when pregnant. I agree it's better to have a happy mummy than a sad one, and if you need tablets then don't feel bad. I hope they help you, as I know depression is a horrible thing x

hngrymummy wrote: »

That's so annoying

One final suggestion......With my NCT classes if I start them then go in to labour and have the baby, I'm not entitled to a full refund (only if I have the baby before the classes start). One of our class did go into labour early (although it stopped so no baby yet). I wonder if you could contact your NCT class leader and see if whether someone had their baby mid-course whether you could take their place for the rest of the course at a reduced rate? Certainly if that happens with me, you can come and pretend to be me for the rest of my course

One of my friends did both NHS and NCT and said that the ones she went to were both good, so hopefully NHS is like that in your area.

Someone please give me a jolly good kicking. I'm still not appreciating the fact that I'm having a baby in the next few weeks. I can't get my head around it at all. It doesn't seem real, and it's almost like I'm trying to pretend it's happening to someone else sometimes.

Thanks hun, that's a good idea. I hope the NHS ones will be good enough I see that the NCT ones have a price per hour, how many hours do you need or know that you need?

Make-it-3 wrote: »

DP - I only did the NHS antenatal classes and was perfectly happy with them. Didn't expect to learn much as I've done so much reading myself but they were run by our midwife team so it was good to get to know them better and of course meet couples having babies around the same time. In fact one couple in our class said they found our classes better than the NCT ones they were doing. I've heard NCT can be a bit right-on and militant in their views.

Thanks, I plan to read up as much as I can as well as going to the classes. I think the main thing for me is to meet others in the same boat, so will defo go to the NHS ones. I hope my MW is there, and the others are like her, as she's really nice

Sequeena

digitalphase I suffer with depression, anxiety and PTSD xx I had to come off the citalopram within a month of taking it as my body turned it into a sedative and it knocked me out

I think, I'm not sure that you can take sertraline in pregnancy... but again it did nothing for me.

I stopped taking my anti d's as soon as I found out x