MSE Pregnancy Club 20

annibee

Teenie_D wrote: »

:whistle::whistle: who me nah!

me neither

annibee

Sammy_Girl wrote: »

Hi Ladies,

Sorry, I haven't read back yet - will do in a mo.

Hope everyone is well. I'm very excited as we finally chose and bought the cot today :j I had to take a drawer front in to the shop to make sure the colour matches and it does. It's a lovely M&P cot with changer top and drawer underneath.

And I got a fabby bargain. Went to Primark as I wanted 2 cheapie nighties and granny pants for my hospital bag. Couldn't find any suitable nighties with buttons, but looked in the sale section and they had short sleeved cotton nighties, knee length, with buttons on the front placket (good for undoing for BF'ing) for the bargainous price of £2 :money: And they're nice nighties too - not granny style at all. So I got 3. 1 which I'm wearing now and 2 that are in my hospital bag.

Also got big maternity pads from Boots, but that's not particularly exciting. But I did spend my £30 Boots points in the 75% sale, so got lots of lovely smellies for free :money:

Right, off to catch up with you chopsy lot x

I might brave primark tomorrow wanna get some cheap knickers (as then I can just throw away any that I bleed through on) and doss clothes - last year I had a dress from primark that I wore all through pregnancy and about 4 months after it cost about £4 lol so I have been meaning to go - Im going to look at the nighties now youve mentioned them as they may prove a good buy for me too

gizmodo_2

annibee wrote: »

I might brave primark tomorrow wanna get some cheap knickers (as then I can just throw away any that I bleed through on) and doss clothes - last year I had a dress from primark that I wore all through pregnancy and about 4 months after it cost about £4 lol so I have been meaning to go - Im going to look at the nighties now youve mentioned them as they may prove a good buy for me too

I bought my big knickers from Primark for after birth and I've been wearing them for the last 3 months My bum obviously got fatter and they are so much more comfy than my normal knickers!

SusanC_2

gizmodo wrote: »

I'm 38 weeks tomorrow and getting fed up with people treating me like I might pop a baby out any minute! I don't think I can survive that for a potential 4 more weeks. Anyone else experiencing the same? I know it's just that people care and stuff, I just feel a bit molly coddled and wrapped in cotton wool.

I got fed up last time with people telling me I was huge, joking that it was twins and telling me that first babies are always late so I would be. I was so glad I was early.

sharkeybabe wrote: »

I know how you feel about being molly coddled. My whole family seem to think that I am unable to do the simplest of things and keep trying to "help" I know I seem ungrateful but I am a 25 year old married women and have managed perfectly fine on my own for the past 8 months and I am able to make a cup of tea.lol.

I don't think I've made a cup of tea since about three weeks pregnant. Don't think I did in my first pregnancy either.

coops228 wrote: »

Now that time is marching on I think he's spending more time thinking about the birth etc than me!!! He's made sure my bags are packed (pretty much) and in the hall way ready to be thrown in the car and with me working 30 miles from home he suggested that I have my notes and a change of clothes (in case waters break) and other "stuff" in the boot of the car. Just in case.:rotfl:

Has he got his stuff packed though? My husband took an hour to get ready when I said I wanted to go to the hospital even though my bag was entirely ready and just needed to be put in the car and the car seat was already in the car.

Krystaltips wrote: »

My sister and SIL took pity on my houseboundness and came for a visit today which was very kind of them, but between trying to be an adequate hostess (making 2 glasses of pop, 1 bottle of formula and dd2s lunch) and trying to control the over excited monkey child... I can barely walk now, my back is agony! Definite couple of sofa days to recover I think!

Nobody visited me when I was pregnant with Alice so this time once OH is working full time I'm planning to request visits but it will be on the proviso that they make their own cups of tea. OH tells me that lots of people want to "help" us by looking after Alice but given she's almost no work and she's so lovely and entertaining, it's much better with her here than not so it wouldn't actually be any help.

Teenie_D wrote: »

EA I am shocked that they are saying that about your scan, having seen your build you don't even look like you are overweight! Bl00dy medics :mad::mad:

I had a grumpy MW complain about my lack of full bladder at my 11 week scan in my first pregnancy even though the view was put down as "good". I don't even believe they need a full bladder as both my 6 1/2 week scans have had good views even though I was very dehydrated so definitely didn't have a full bladder. I think what they say/write down partly depends on what they feel like.

Teenie_D wrote: »

Are any of the ladies who already have children done anything yet in preparation for this one? I just feel I'm too laid back this time and really apart from starting to stock up on nappies haven't actually done anything. I don't really need to buy anything big as we kept everything and I will need to go up to Mums loft and see what clothes are there ready to be washed but don't plan on doing that for at least another 9 or 10 weeks. Wont even look at packing bag probably until I'm on ML, 2.5 weeks before EDD. Am I pushing things do you think or is that plenty time?

I've been buying odd bits and pieces I knew we were short of when I've seen good deals for the last year and a half and then anything we still need I'll actively seek out to buy around 5-6 months. I'm rather an extreme plan in advance kind of person though.

dustystar02 wrote: »

anyone else feeling a little bit sick at how fast they are moving up the list...............:o

I just feel sick.

Make-it-3 wrote: »

Unfortunately, I can't try your trick of keeping the lights off in the loo, as I don't want to wipe in the dark and possibly miss my show.

I doubt you could miss it - mine woke me up in the night.

janinie7 wrote: »

Just in need of a quick rant!!!!!!!

A couple of weeks ago I bought some Pampers from Boots online and used the free changing bag code, which went in fine. I made my shopping up with other things to make it over £45 and free delivery (although I am overseas I use a BFPO address and benefit from the same as UK deliveries), checked my basket and the code was there for the changing bag... went through and paid for everything... then when the confirmation came through there is no changing bag on there!!! I contacted Boots and they said I could go into a Boots store with my coupon and copy of my order and pick the changing bag up... to which I replied saying I am overseas with the forces so not able to do that. They said that then my only option would be to send the order back and re-order, or make a new order for some Pampers. Last night I put another order through Boots and got some size 1 Pampers for the early days with baby, and again bought some more things we need, put the code in, all ok... paid for... then no changing bag on confirmation!!! I have contacted Boots again but waiting for their response.... SO annoying!!! I have asked that they send me the bag anyway, so will see what they say! TBH I feel a bit conned into spending money with Boots when I could have ordered the same nappies on Amazon for cheaper. Grrrr! We dont even need any more nappies now as plan on using mostly reusable ones.

Anyway... rant over!!! Just wanted to share my frustration, I guess nobody else has experienced this as I dont think any of you are overseas. But thanks for reading I know its not the end of the world and worse things could happen... but grrrr!

I have a Boots Parent Club change bag I'm not going to use which you could have if you wanted. It's against the rules for me to suggest giving me your address through MSE but I'm fairly easy to find in the non secret facebook group.

gizmodo_2

SusanC wrote: »

Has he got his stuff packed though? My husband took an hour to get ready when I said I wanted to go to the hospital even though my bag was entirely ready and just needed to be put in the car and the car seat was already in the car.

I didn't think of this. Does hubby need stuff? What would you guys recommend?

Should I be keeping my maternity notes in the car and my bags in car now? I spend a fair bit of time at my parents during the week and I wonder what would happen if I went into labour at their house? Could I drive home in early labour? Or is that a no? I had in my mind that if I did go into labour somewhere other than home that I'd want to go home, so therefore would be able to pick up my notes and bags.

Sammy_Girl

Congratulations Twoflower on the birth of Darcy. Lovely name. I hope you are keeping well x

Lilac - I hope everything is good for you. Sounds like things are starting to move. Are plans still on for a home birth? Good luck.

Lots of hugs needed all round it seems. Hope everyone has a better day tomorrow.

Teenie_D

gizmodo wrote: »

I didn't think of this. Does hubby need stuff? What would you guys recommend?

.

DH is taking a rucksack with t shirt, juice/water, loads of snacks to keep up his energy and he wants to take wipes so he can freshen himself up.

SusanC_2

ema_o wrote: »

Managed to talk to OH about him taking time off at 6 months. He wasn't joking but I'm not sure he wants to do it - he was trying to sell it to me as a financial benefit, but I pointed out if that was the case it'd be better me going back to work and kid going to nursery. I ended up in floods of tears, was very hormonal that day anyway, so probably didn't help. I'm not quite sure whether these are proposed or actual changes, but whatever, I'm not hugely impressed at the govt making changes that affect people who are quite pregnant and hugely hormonal... :o I have enough trouble keeping my emotions under control as it is!!

I haven't been following the proposed changes as we wouldn't use them but I would expect if they're announcing it now, it wouldn't apply to people who are already pregnant. I know when they increased the paid part from six to nine months they announced the change date before I was pregnant and I was in the first month of the change.

Pixiepops wrote: »

I realised last night the thing I'm most scared about in regards to labour is the possibility that I might....*ahem* defecate during it as I hear that some people do. I mean what will the midwifes do if that happens?! Sorry... it's a bit of a TMI question.

When I was in hospital over Christmas the labour ward was busy one day so they had people in labour in the antenatal/postnatal ward. The lady in the bed next to me was beyond 6cm before she got to go to the labour ward and just before she went she pooed herself. She was on her fourth child and hadn't had it happen before so was worried about whether it was normal and the midwives were very matter of fact about it and said it was very common.

jojo1978 wrote: »

Our gas and elec is a combined payment and its currently at £98 per month. I don't know how you other ladies have got it so low.

Ours is on average £80/qr for gas and £120/qr for electricity which works out around £67/month combined for a well insulated two bed semi. Since we moved house and have gone from a gas cooker to an electric one our gas usage hasn't changed significantly but electricity is about an extra £160/year so an electric cooker makes a significant difference. Also do you have good insulation, a relatively new boiler, a thermostat and double glazing? What kind of house do you have - a two bed terrace or a flat is going to use far less energy than a big detached house. What company do you use? We have used EbiCo (a non-profit Christian power company) since 2006 and I've checked prices roughly once a year since then and always found them to be the cheapest. Also electricity prices vary by region regardless of what company you are with so it's possible you happen to live in a more expensive electricity area.

Make-it-3 wrote: »

Just updated my maternity and baby budget and we have spent £2 shy of a grand so far on stuff :eek: Given that doesn't include two major items - we got a free travel system and still haven't bought a cot or indeed decorated a nursery that's a lot of dosh.

Nor have we got any bottles, sterilisers or feeding paraphenalia - cos mw's are very keen that you give breast feeding a good shot first.

It doesn't feel like we've bought a lot, anyone else keeping a spending tally and want to share/compare??

I haven't kept proper track so far this time as I've been buying odd bits and bobs for ages but last time I did and spent around £500 pre birth and by the end of the first year had spent about £1500. That includes the increased electricity and food bills resulting from having a child.

I know lots of breastfeeding supporters aren't keen on recommending expressing but I'd totally recommend having bottles and a breastpump. From ten days I expressed and OH did a 10.30 pm feed of EBM and I'm sure without that small daily break from feeding in those early days I would have found breastfeeding much more difficult and may have given up.

SusanC_2

gizmodo wrote: »

I didn't think of this. Does hubby need stuff? What would you guys recommend?

Should I be keeping my maternity notes in the car and my bags in car now? I spend a fair bit of time at my parents during the week and I wonder what would happen if I went into labour at their house? Could I drive home in early labour? Or is that a no? I had in my mind that if I did go into labour somewhere other than home that I'd want to go home, so therefore would be able to pick up my notes and bags.

Just asked OH and he said lots of food that's easy to eat like snacks/sandwiches and drinks.

I don't know about driving as I was too ill to drive anyway but with first babies you generally get plenty of advanced warning. Last time I had my show at 6.30am, light contractions from then on throughout the day and set out for hospital at 10pm.

Krystaltips

SusanC wrote: »

Nobody visited me when I was pregnant with Alice so this time once OH is working full time I'm planning to request visits but it will be on the proviso that they make their own cups of tea. OH tells me that lots of people want to "help" us by looking after Alice but given she's almost no work and she's so lovely and entertaining, it's much better with her here than not so it wouldn't actually be any help.

To be fair, it was my SIL who suggested coming to my house... My sister wanted to meet her at Ikea which is about 2mins down the road.. She never visits me so it would not occur to her to come here...

No midwife has ever poked a finger up *ahem* there... Although after the many stitches DD1 caused I did get a pain killer suppository... Felt like I'd been kicked up the behind for hours after...