MSE Pregnancy Club 20

Rockinbikergal

nic2075 wrote: »

Lilian, Sam is beautiful :T glad you are feeling happier with feeding. I struggled as long as I could to bf but i was too exhausted and began to resent feeding times. The HV was more than supportive when I changed to FF. Im glad I gave them something but in the end they were happier and more content as was I.


Good luck today Due March, im sure youll pass.

Happy Birthday EA :bdaycake:

Im just back from the MW. it was my 24 weeks appointment ( im 26 weeks on Thursday though).
I havent seen this MW before and as soon as I walked in she asked me how I was, and started asking about my past and depression. Maybe she could see that Ive been struggling but I dont think I was depressed as such. Just a lot going on.
Anyway she is concerned that it may get worse and develope into more so she offered to refer me to a clinic for some councelling.

Everything is fine. Bump is measureing 26 and the heart beat was fine. She says im an ideal candidate for a home birth. She says we have plenty of time to discuss it but if I want to have one and everything stays ok then ill be having this one in my living room.

Right, im off to post all the things I sold on ebay last week (made £55 :j)

Hugs Nic.....glad you got a nice MW who was able to tell that you are feeling down...it's half the battle when you get asked the right questions this much I know. Take the offer of counselling as just going and getting it out to someone who is away from the situation will help....I found that I was quite emotional at my first few sessions and although hubby did ask what we had chatted about if I didn't want to talk about it at that point he didn't push me, he was just glad that I was talking to someone. DO talk to your OH though if you can, or if it helps get up in the night and write down on a piece of paper or in a post what is going through your head...you can then burn it or delete but I find getting something out makes it so much easier to deal with.

Sorry for the long post and HTH

RBG

xxxxxx

Pixiepops

Happy birthday, EA!!

OMG Lillian, he is sooooo cute. I want one too.

Speaking of wanting one, I will admit it. I was tempted to steal a child the other day :rotfl: There was this little boy in the shopping centre with his dad and the boy was just tottering along, it was obvious he hadn't been walking a long time and suddenly he got tired so he just lowered himself and sat down. The funniest thing is that he just sat there staring up at his dad with these HUGE innocent eyes and he also did a bit of a maggie simpson because he just replied by sucking his soother! He just looked so cuteeeee. I just wanted to take him home. But then I decided that I didn't fancy going to jail so I just walked on and decided I would wait until july when hopefully bubs will arrive.

nic2075

Rockinbikergal wrote: »

Hugs Nic.....glad you got a nice MW who was able to tell that you are feeling down...it's half the battle when you get asked the right questions this much I know. Take the offer of counselling as just going and getting it out to someone who is away from the situation will help....I found that I was quite emotional at my first few sessions and although hubby did ask what we had chatted about if I didn't want to talk about it at that point he didn't push me, he was just glad that I was talking to someone. DO talk to your OH though if you can, or if it helps get up in the night and write down on a piece of paper or in a post what is going through your head...you can then burn it or delete but I find getting something out makes it so much easier to deal with.

Sorry for the long post and HTH

RBG

xxxxxx

Thanks RGB, youve hit the nail on the head. Ive been for councelling before (4 years ago) and I was fine until she started asking some questions about my past and I was finally honest with my feelings eg bottling it all up. She had me in tears several times. I think just talking to someone I dont know will help a lot. I cant talk to my mum about things like that.

Me and OH NEVER argue. I used to think this was great, then I realised we had issues that really should be discussed and not leaving us to stew. Weve honestly never raised our voices at each other. ( well once but I explained that yesterday). Neither of us are very good at saying things. I know that its not healthy at all.

dustystar02

Growth scan was fine, although I suspected it would be.

Had a quick peek at bubs but couldn't see
Much cos he/she is so big now.

Still team yellow!! Xx

Rockinbikergal

nic2075 wrote: »

Thanks RGB, youve hit the nail on the head. Ive been for councelling before (4 years ago) and I was fine until she started asking some questions about my past and I was finally honest with my feelings eg bottling it all up. She had me in tears several times. I think just talking to someone I dont know will help a lot. I cant talk to my mum about things like that.

Me and OH NEVER argue. I used to think this was great, then I realised we had issues that really should be discussed and not leaving us to stew. Weve honestly never raised our voices at each other. ( well once but I explained that yesterday). Neither of us are very good at saying things. I know that its not healthy at all.

YW sweetie....pm me any time you want to as well, I have been through the whole lot from tablets to psychologist so I have all sorts of little tricks that help me and if I pass these on to you to help then I will be happy to. As for arguing, hubby and I never used to argue at all until I told him that was one of the things that peeved me about our relationship and it made me think he was in no way passionate about me....I know that's a bit of an exaggeration but it helped to get us talking properly xxxx

Rockinbikergal

dustystar02 wrote: »

Growth scan was fine, although I suspected it would be.

Had a quick peek at bubs but couldn't see
Much cos he/she is so big now.

Still team yellow!! Xx

Congrats on still being Team yellow hehe

annibee

hitchins wrote: »

A moses basket is just about the only thing I did keep of DD's. It's M&P's Ziggy & Parsnip so would suit either sex. One less expense. DD was in hers up to about 5 months!

Hope the scan goes ok. x

5 months!!! see thats why Im umming and arring about it. with ds1 because he was big and long he looked ridiculous in it eventually nearly 2 weeks after he was born we gave up - He also wouldnt fit in the bloomin carry cot for the pram for as long as they are supposed to so that made things difficult too lol. As they do say 2nd babies are usually bigger Im thinking we might wait until its born to see if we need/want a moses basket.

MV - Breastfeeding is one of the hardest things ive ever had to do - emotionally and physically draining for very little reward in the early days. If my mum hadnt kept going on and on about it I wouldve gave up on day 1. Took me a while to get sorted and I never really enjoyed it as much as some people do but Im proud to say I kept on for 9 months! and it did get easier. You just gotta find a pettern and position that works for you. I held ds1 like a rugby ball as having him accross didnt work for me - I bent in an awkward way which the midwife said would cause problems for my back but I didnt care. I had a tv programme to keep my mind off it whilst feeding (I really have sensitive boobs/nips ad therefore do not enjoy the feeling at all) and a drink of water to sip through sometimes something to eat - anything to keep my mind elsewhere.

I am glad I did it though it saved tons of money and the personal achievement did feel worth it.

Im not anti formula by the way and im not one to pressure to breastfeeding - Just wanted to share my story about my challenges when bf.

I intend to try to bf this time around but only for 6 months - I want to try to express more also as I didnt do it last time and sometimes I couldve done with a break.

Apricot

Agh! My best friend has just rang me to say that she's just been to the doctor and she's got shingles! I spent the whole day with her Sunday - do I need to give my doctor a call?

Rockinbikergal

Apricot wrote: »

Agh! My best friend has just rang me to say that she's just been to the doctor and she's got shingles! I spent the whole day with her Sunday - do I need to give my doctor a call?

I would call the Dr or the MW just to be on the safe side Apricot xxxxx

Evansangel

Re nappies, Lily was in size 2s within a week. Just keep them in the packet unopened and boots will usually exchange for the next size up, no receipt needed