Stopped Paying

diabolical_2

Just a few more details.
Husband and his ex split when little one was 2 yrs old. She left him for another man, moved from the north down south over 300 miles away. Husband and i met, her and her new partner split, she wanted my now husband back, was told where to go. Jealosy set in, she stopped all contact. We went to court, won access, she denied it, court again, denied again. and again and again, thousands spent on lawyers and in courts but she would just not comply.

If she's in the mood then hubby can call his daughter, has taken her weekends, he has never bad mouthed the mother infront of his wee one, but the wee one does know its her mother being mean as she calls it.
That little girl knows her dad loves her and that its the mother who stops the contact/calls ect and like someone else said she has even returned gifts we have sent.

As far as im aware nothing ever bad happened in the marriage, infact she used to write letters to hubby telling him what a good guy and father he was and she was sorry for the hurt she caused!!!

speedster

Becc4 wrote: »

wow wow a minuite it is the OP business, she is married to the father of this child she sees the heart ache that no contact with his daughter is causing him, I agree with the OP, (shoot me down in flames too). all you PWC have no idea what us SECOND wives have to go though to, sometimes I feel like i'm jumping through hoops, and yes i am happy if hubby is happy, but when he gets let down last min, guess who has to pick the pieces up, that right us. aaagggghhhh.....
sometimes it's about more than the money. the OP has already stated she and the father have offered to fly back to visit etc, but no eveybody feels she's playing games. I dont agree. why should PWC always play the martyr, it really annoys me.

(sorry OP hope you dont mind me ranting a bit)

carlsberg don't do forum posts, but if they did............. :beer:

my wife can relate to this in oh so many ways. she has been by my side through thick and thin for the last 8 years and is my rock.

she's picked up the pieces when contact was cut, through all the mind games, the CSA fiasco, the false allegations, the sick vendetta my ex has against the pair of us, the court process. you name it, she's been through it with me.

i would have self destructed years ago if she wasn't by my side. she is literally 1 in a million.

just take pride in the fact that you have made a difference, not only to your partner, but to the child as well.

my daughter has a greedy, vile, venemous, acidic, scum sucking bottom feeder for a "mother", but on the other hand, has a wonderful stepmum! :T

DX2

diabolical wrote: »

I dont mind atall, feel like im being slaughtered here.

How else did you honestly expect people to react to your posts? There, there love your doing the right thing by stopping the child support and expecting lots of (((hugs and kisses)))

Catch a grip a minute and see your actions for exactly what they are.

speedster

DX2 wrote: »

How else did you honestly expect people to react to your posts? There, there love your doing the right thing by stopping the child support and expecting lots of (((hugs and kisses)))

Catch a grip a minute and see your actions for exactly what they are.

works for the aussies. contact blocking PWC get f00k all.

diabolical_2

One more thing, if she just could agree and keep to some kind of routine for hubby and his daughter to talk on the telephone each week then there would be no problem at all giving her her payments, but He is refusing now to even try and call as he knows the call will be rejected.
For now were leaving it, the mother has our numbers to call if the wee one wanted to be intouch but like i said, for now, WE are so flippin fed up, and for his sanity, its stopped.

And by the way my husband does have a pair of balls, but he also has a heart, and its breaking.

DX2

speedster wrote: »

works for the aussies. contact blocking PWC get f00k all.

But at this moment in time we aren't talking about the Aussies! We are talking about a "step mother" who thinks neeerrr ner nerner she can't get child support because we are in Saudi.And she still can't see how childish she comes across as.

DX2

diabolical wrote: »

One more thing, if she just could agree and keep to some kind of routine for hubby and his daughter to talk on the telephone each week then there would be no problem at all giving her her payments, but He is refusing now to even try and call as he knows the call will be rejected.
For now were leaving it, the mother has our numbers to call if the wee one wanted to be intouch but like i said, for now, WE are so flippin fed up, and for his sanity, its stopped.

And by the way my husband does have a pair of balls, but he also has a heart, and its breaking.

Aye much easier to walk on by.

AnxiousMum

You may feel you've been given the sharp end of the stick here Diabolical.....but......if his ex came on here saying how she was blocking contact, making it difficult to maintain a relationship etc. etc., she'd be reamed big time and personally, I'd like to give PWC's like that a new orifice or two Nobody - not the mother, not the father.......have the right to stop a child having a good and healthy relationship with the other parent, but neither do either of tehm have the right to make a child go without financially.

I hope that things can get sorted for you all, but mostly for your step daughter. Do right by her, and you will go a long ways to ensuring a life long loving relationship with her, no matter what her relationship with her mother will be.

DX2

speedster wrote: »

carlsberg don't do forum posts, but if they did............. :beer:

I never had you down as a forum cuddler! Yay forums are great as long as everyone sings for the same song sheet.

speedster

DX2 wrote: »

I never had you down as a forum cuddler! Yay forums are great as long as everyone sings for the same song sheet.

nah. i don't do fwuffy wittle bunny posts!!

i just know what it's like for a NRPP with a venemous ex on the scene.

they can (and do) cop it from all sides. they get all the grief from the ex and then get used as a sounding post for their other halves.

it takes a special woman to take on that kind of baggage. :beer:

i know, i've got one sat next to me making me type this!! :D:D