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Real life MMD: 'Should singles pay more than couples?'

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Should singles pay more than couples?
I have a group of friends and all but one has a girlfriend. Everyone is turning 30 this year, so we're doing big joint presents. When the email goes around it says 'please pay £30 per couple'. So should the single person only pay half, or the full amount?

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  • Evilm
    Evilm Posts: 1,950 Forumite
    I would say paying half would be acceptable. I certainly wouldn't be annoyed if a single friend paid only half.
    Is each person receiving a present or each couple?

    Assuming they are sharing one present between two, while you will get a present to yourself I think it's fair that you pay the same amount.
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  • bogwart
    bogwart Posts: 117 Forumite
    You should pay up. Presumably each couple gets one present so you'll get a present for two.The extra £15 is hardly going to break the bank, I imagine.
  • gamboller
    Its only £30 You'd feel like a right tightwad if you handed over £15
  • determined_new_ms
    I disagree, if things were tight financially then I'd give £15
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  • pensionernige
    The single should pay half as when it is time to receive then throught the year he will only get one present.
  • raisen
    raisen Posts: 21 Forumite
    gamboller wrote: »
    Its only £30 You'd feel like a right tightwad if you handed over £15

    Only?! wow, you must be richer than me!!
    If you have some to spare.... ;)

    I'd like to just pay half but in reality you will be made to feel guilty unless you pay the full amount.
  • scoobydoobydoo
    Just email back and ask!

    It does make me smile when I read some of these "Dilemmas" that could be easily solved with a wee bit of communication!

    "Hi guys! Do you mean £15 per person? Cheers from X"

  • ayayay
    ayayay Posts: 97 Forumite
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    Of course you should pay £15 since you will only receive one present - they will get two. (Whoever heard of a joint birthday present for couples with birthdays at different times)
  • avgjoe
    avgjoe Posts: 73 Forumite
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    People forget the option of not paying anything because yu are not a couple :P

    But I'd say whether its 15 or 150 it is the principle, not the amount that matters. And if 1 person will be buying all presents from the big fund or not as well as if it is 1 present per person or couple.
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