MSE Parents Club Part 15

ladybirdintheuk

Mel I'm glad everyone is (very slowly maybe!) on the mend. I can't imagine how hard it must be with 2 poorly little ones Enjoy your chocolate!

I'm off to bed too. Night all

newmoneysaver_2

Hey SM - Yeah, he's such a little character. He's developed a little chuckle which comes out when he's upto mischeif. Sorry to hear J keeps crying - can you keep a pot of fruit he can di into to keep himself occupied - I do this sometimes for L and he usually seems more interesed in the pot than the food.

CAFC - christmas cards! This reminds me I need to get L into his reindeer outfit and get some piccies taked for our cards.

Mel - Aw, glad your OH made you smile. You def. deserve the choccies. I hope the little 'uns feel better soon x

Evansangel

newmoneysaver wrote: »

CAFC - christmas cards! This reminds me I need to get L into his reindeer outfit and get some piccies taked for our cards.

Sainsburys have one for £7

I've done our photos but still need to do some card mock ups to test which one i like best

newmoneysaver_2

Thanks hun, we have one from quality save (a bargainous £2.99) and I've got the cards to slip a photo in - just need to actually get them done. Christmas is creeping up rather quick. I thought I was organised, now I'm not so sure!

searching_me

i wish i could do that nms but he'd continue to eat til hes sick ... or he gets bored of chewing but still wants the food so just shoves it all in and then throws up, he knows how to try our paitents it is only with food everything hes pretty good oh and iggle piggle taught him how to wave goodbye x

Evansangel

newmoneysaver wrote: »

Thanks hun, we have one from quality save (a bargainous £2.99) and I've got the cards to slip a photo in - just need to actually get them done. Christmas is creeping up rather quick. I thought I was organised, now I'm not so sure!

I was going to get the cards to slip a photo in, but i found a programme on my laptop take makes xmas photo cards. So im printing them onto photo paper and folding in half

I might buy a box of cheap xmas cards though so i can have the envelopes

My_Fathers_Daughter

Big hugs hun, I am trying to read all the responses but TBH they all make me feel very and that I am a crap mum because I work full time. So whatever anybody says we all have our achilles heel that would make us cry if someone poked it IYSWIM.

weezl74 wrote: »

thank you MDW and GISI edit and always too

yes those sort of things are very helpful. I think maybe also an idea of what you would all consider as a good amount to feel you have done in a day, on a day where you'd feel 'yay I rock at mothering!' but maybe also on your lowest energy level days too.

Like
amount of time you are able to sit playing entirely with your child because I go out to work 5 days a week I make sure that the time we have when we come home is purely fun time/together time. I don't often cook or do anything before Benjamin goes to bed on a weeknight. My time with Benjamin can range from 2 hours on a good day to 45 mins on a bad day (depending what time I pick him up and how tired he is).
If by 'able' you mean how long would I do it if I could...at weekends I would happily spend all day just playing and being with Benjamin...but who knows a mummy who is able to forget everything else for a day?
amount of time they do their own thing and you read mse/pay bills/read a book
My being on the computer whilst Benjamin is around is pretty much no go these days! He used to sit on the table in his bumbo playing / chatting / singing whilst I was working on the lappy when he was teeny but he is too demanding now. I can grab some lappy time whilst he eats now he is feeding himself but I feel bad about it.
amount of time you put the telly on and do stuff like cleaning/cooking/or also being on the internet
If he is completely engrossed I can cook or clean but more often than not he wants to be in with me helping. Incidentally, Benjamin's cooker is a great help because he runs between me cooking in the kitchen and him 'cooking' in the dining room, bringing me food to 'taste' etc.
amount of groups you feel comfortable going to
I only go to my Saturday morning toddle group these days, and to be honest I don't manage that every week a) because I have to leave the house at 9.30am on a Sat morning, which seems impossible some weeks despite us leaving at 7.50am mon-fri! and b) I feel guilty that I am depriving Benjamin/hubby/dss of some of their time together.
However, I would happily go anywhere with Benjamin and feel comfortable just the 2 of us. So I would go to tons of groups if I had more time at home.

....but I only have 1 babba and I work so I am not sure how we can compare...

....no help at all

skintchick

ClareEmily wrote: »

Ok this is really just a moan....

My baby is now two months old and I am breast feeding on demand, he is growing well and is happy and contented. I also feed very discretely.

I have so far had the following:

Best friend - "He is awake during the day because he is hungry and if I was you I would change to bottles and give him a dummy".

Step Mum - "Give him a bottle at night to make him sleep through".

Several strangers - My goodness you are STILL breast feeding.

Friends send me upstairs to feed as they don't want me to get my "baps" out in front of them. Happy for me to change smelly nappy in front of them though?

Step Dad - Gets all embarrassed when I feed and my mum was a bit weird to begin with to.

I haven't even attempted to feed in public, I honestly cant say if breast feeding women bothered me before I had my son, I really don't think so.

Anyone else found this?

I followed this in from where it was moved

I'm feeding at 16 months, and if anyone dared to say I was 'still' feeding I'd be very cross! The World HEalth Organisation recommends you breastfeed for AT LEAST TWO YEARS. How on earth is two months 'still' breastfeeding?!?!?

Keep at it! It's daunting feeding in public at first but after about 3 months I was happy to do it anywhere, without any shawls either. Baby's head covers it all once they're on.

To make you laugh, my MIL did ask at 12 months how long I was going to feed for. She was feeding at the time (in a zoo at a sealion display) and I was sooo tempted to say 'ooh about 5 minutes'. What I actually said was 'I dunno. Haven;t thought about it'.

searching_me

skinty darlin long time no write ... hope you're ok and your little lady is doing well xxxx

Becles

CAFCGirl wrote: »

Are there particular parents who you dont feel you "match" up to in your life, or is it your minds "ideal" parents who you feel you're not living up to, or is it the idea you had of yourself as a parent that you're not "achieving"?

I think like that

I come home from work mid-afternoon, take my tidy clothes off and this weather I'm walking the dogs in jogging bottoms, a storm proof walking jacket and riding wellies as the field is waterlogged. I get home and clean the dogs up, the go along and collect Charlotte from school. That means I'm standing at the school gates in muddy wellies and mud splashed jacket. People look at me and they must think I'm a right minger, but I can't be arsed to get changed again just to walk along to school and back

I count chores I do with Charlotte as time spent with her. When she came in from school, I gave her some potatoes and foil and helped her wrap them and I put them in the oven. Although that was part of our tea, I count it as time spent with her.

Even when I'm doing cooking that she can't help with (like putting gammon steaks on the griddle which we had with the spuds) she still stands on a stool step at the bench and chatters away to me while I'm busy.