MSE Parents Club Part 15

Sami_Bee

gill_81uk wrote: »

Is the rocker worth getting Sami? T is 7 months now and sitting up so I'm thinking bouncing chair days are numbered!

sorry I wandered off. I like the rocker, Chris still fits in it and likes a rock every now n then but it was only down to £35 on amazon. I think I paid that when I got it from kiddicare ages ago

ClareEmily

building_with_lego wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
I fed DD for 16 months and Ds for 28months and I was just dying for someone to get a bit uptight about it so I could change their attitudes, had loads of lines ready and everything! Noone said anything *at all* about extended BFing, and actually since DD I've seen lots more friends feed for over a year.

To your best friend and step mum I'd just laugh, hard, then change the subject. To your friends who'd like to send you upstairs I'd just say 'no, thank you, we're comfortable here'. To the several strangers I'd smile sweetly and say 'that would appear to be the case'! (Or 'DUH' depending on their demeanour ) I found the men in my family were a bit uncomfortable at first, but my confidence overruled them; I think a big part of it was that I was now undeniably a grown- up, and they had to see me differently. Look them in the eye and be bold!

Enjoy your time breastfeeding, it'll be over before you know it.
BWL xx

Thanks for this all duly noted

Evansangel

We need a rocker, is there a link?

jillie1974

EA ^^^ is the link

we have thhe 'portable' version and we still use it

Evansangel

Its only £5 off so not worth me turning the laptop on for it lol.

Chakani

I am so sorry you're having all these problems, CE.

I have only ever once had someone suggest I go into another room to feed (it was in the house of someone I didn't know well, and baby was tiny, so latching on was a bit hit and miss. Plus he was taking ages to feed, and I knew her husband would be uncomfortable). On that occasion I went along with it, but like you, I found myself sitting in silence, listening to other people enjoying themselves. I found that the more confident you are, the less people will comment.

I did feel a bit uncomfortable at first, and OH's brothers were definitely uncomfortable with it and didn't know where to look, but they soon got used to it and stopped really seeing it.

After a while, I stopped even mentioning it, just quietly got on with it wherever we were. I never particularly felt the need to cover up, baby covers most of what your clothes would anyway. The more I took this approach, the less people seemed to notice what I was doing. I even on one occasion, fed him in a motorway service station, surrounded by two coach-loads of soldiers. Not one of them looked twice, and I'm not sure any of them even realised what was going on.

Get a cover if it makes you more comfortable, thank interferers for their suggestions, smile sweetly and just get on with it. You are doing a wonderful thing for your son, be proud of yourself and don't apologise for doing something that is completely natural and inoffensive. If you are confident, they won't feel so inclined to challenge you.

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Congratulations ClaireEmily:)

You are doing a great job:T

I had my first daughter when I was 18 and I wanted to breastfeed but my parents didn't approve so I gave up after 6 weeks.
When I had my 2nd daughter I had more confidence and fed her everywhere, in the park, in restaurants, in front of anyone but I was discreet, I would breastfeed in front of a mirror to make sure nothing was on show I fed daughter No. 2 til she was 10 months and my son til he was 11 months.
It really annoys me people's attitudes especially family and friends who are supposed to be supportive.:(

I think breatfeeding is great for both of you it is so relaxing and you don't need to get up during the night to heat bottles.

Keep going and everyone on here will give the support you need
Well done

zoesmummy_2006

I bf my dd for 6 weeks and gave up cos of lack of support and midwives said she wasnt gaining weight accordingly. Shes 4 now and to this dsy i regret giving up. With my son i decided to hell with everything, i bf him for a year, refused to weigh him too often as i have little babies, they take after their dad. I fed him anywhere and evefywhere and didnt give a damn what anyone thought! With my dd my dad was uncomfortable and made me go upstairs. With my son i think he realised i wasnt gonna do that and it got to the stage where i was sat in a local pub having dinner with mt dad and my son needed feeding so i fed him then and there, my dad never batyed an eyelid in the end, just kept my glass filled! I bf my ds for a year and loved it, we fed in the park, in cafes in the carpark at supermarket-i never had anyone say anything to me. I was sooo hoping they would lol! If i ever have another baby (need a decent bloke first!! Please santa!) I would happily bf again for long as bubs wanted it!

my_gorgeous_ellie-belle

OMG!!!!! Well to be honest my reply would have simply been ''F*#k off!!!!'' to anyone who ever dared tell me to do otherwise. But thats just me

I b/fed both of mine, dd till she was 8 months and i am just 'finishing' with DS and he is 6mths. I used to be a bit conscious while out so used to go into those mum & baby rooms (but they are usually smelly and no cleaner than a toilet). Now with two children that is hardly going to happen so i feed whenever wherever just discretely (even when family are around i use a blanket or muslin cloth over us, because i now have come to the conclusion this is my house and i'm not going to hide upstairs to naturally feed my son. If anyone disagrees they can go sit in another room, lol, but nobody ever has so it can't be that bad. I think with this new attitude others who were a bit funny at first in the family have come to accept it and now don't bat an eyelid - even if they get an accidental flash

I have the attitude that it's perfectly natural and i'm being thoughtful enough to be entirely covered whilst i feed. If anyone has a problem then it is just that their problem not mine. I'm not sure which part of the country you are in but everyone seems to be ok with it down here so that might be why i'm more of the what-the-hell-i'll-do-it-anyway attitude :P

I hope it doesn't sway your decision to B/feed though!

I saw someone mention they were made to feel guilty they bottlefed - thats really crap, seems like we can't ever win! I'm pro-breastfeeding, but i'm more into do whats right for you and your baby, breastfeeding isn't right for everyone and i respect that completely x

alwaysonthego_2

zoesmummy_2006 wrote: »

I bf my dd for 6 weeks and gave up cos of lack of support and midwives said she wasnt gaining weight accordingly. Shes 4 now and to this dsy i regret giving up. With my son i decided to hell with everything, i bf him for a year, refused to weigh him too often as i have little babies, they take after their dad. I fed him anywhere and evefywhere and didnt give a damn what anyone thought! With my dd my dad was uncomfortable and made me go upstairs. With my son i think he realised i wasnt gonna do that and it got to the stage where i was sat in a local pub having dinner with mt dad and my son needed feeding so i fed him then and there, my dad never batyed an eyelid in the end, just kept my glass filled! I bf my ds for a year and loved it, we fed in the park, in cafes in the carpark at supermarket-i never had anyone say anything to me. I was sooo hoping they would lol! If i ever have another baby (need a decent bloke first!! Please santa!) I would happily bf again for long as bubs wanted it!

The centile charts that MWs use are for bottle fed babies who do put more weight on because the fomula milk is more fatty, whereas breast fed babies tend to put on weight at a slower rate.

I BF both of my DD until they were 2.5 years and never really had any problems, or I did not notice