MSE Parents Club Part 15

weezl74

r.mac wrote: »

weezl - I know that feeling. My friend suggested that because I was worried about being a good parent and if I wsa trying hard at being a good parent then I probabaly was a good parent

thank you r.mac, she sounds like a good friend and I think that is true. I think my biggest self-criticism is that I'm very aware I get a lot of help and STILL don't feel I'm coping well. Which makes me worry why I have such different resources to other mums.

I hope you all have a fantastic meet today. xx

got-it-spend-it

I totally relate to that Weezl, but I think we adapt to our circumstances so I'm sure if we had to do it without that support then we would adapt to that.

We're all doing a good job!


On a different note Henry got one of these for his birthday and he loves it! I worry slightly though as it has a Henry engine button, but pronounces it Hennery! I hope H doesn't start copying.

r.mac_2

I agree with GISI - we adapt to our circumstances. And everyone is different. And everyone also has different breaking points too. And it also depends on what you mean by help. So, to sum up, it just really depends!!!

weezl74

thanks aless, gisi, and r.mac.

r.mac, yes I see that (intellectually) and I'm trying to let that be adequate for me emotionally as well. I think having overly high expectations of myself is something I always live with and am trying to relax my own rules about.

r.mac_2

weezl - my GP and HV have spoken about this very thing. FWIW they said they saw a high incidence of PND (not in the slightest suggesting that you have PND, just putting their comments into the context in which we were discussing them) in over-achievers which was something that was a defining character of our generation. As women of our generation we are told we can have it all and we can do it all and life has never been do easy or good. Plus we are constantly bombarded by unhelpful images of celebrity mums/parents by the media.

IMHO I think that all we have now are more choices - we can't realistically have it all, but have the choice to have things that previous generations did not. This does not necessrily make life easier, but rather more confusing as we are constantly trying to make choices/worrying about those choices/reviewing those choices.

Just my take on things This and the chapter 'am I about to get divorced?' are the chapters I'd like to see included in the pregnancy/new baby/new parenting books.

weezl74

r.mac wrote: »

weezl - my GP and HV have spoken about this very thing. FWIW they said they saw a high incidence of PND (not in the slightest suggesting that you have PND, just putting their comments into the context in which we were discussing them) in over-achievers which was something that was a defining character of our generation. As women of our generation we are told we can have it all and we can do it all and life has never been do easy or good. Plus we are constantly bombarded by unhelpful images of celebrity mums/parents by the media.

IMHO I think that all we have now are more choices - we can't realistically have it all, but have the choice to have things that previous generations did not. This does not necessrily make life easier, but rather more confusing as we are constantly trying to make choices/worrying about those choices/reviewing those choices.

Just my take on things This and the chapter 'am I about to get divorced?' are the chapters I'd like to see included in the pregnancy/new baby/new parenting books.

I don't mind you suggesting PND r.mac, I have done the edinburgh test a few times now and always come out in the clinical population, so that's accurate. I'm aware i need a whole-life strategy and am trying to work it out this week.

Good chapter headings suggest also 'don't shave your legs for 18 months and other self-care sacrifices' and '10 things to consider doing instead when you want to sell your baby on Ebay'

If you'd like to write the text, I will do photography and layout

got-it-spend-it

Can we also have a chapter heading 'You are doing a great job' and 'How to lose friends and alienate people- becoming a baby bore'....we should totally write a book between us, featuring a combination of all our parenting styles .

Evansangel

10 things to consider doing instead when you want to sell your baby on ebay.

1. "accidently" leaving it at the shop isn't an option either

MadDogWoman_2

Morning all,

Interesting night here, I was up to silly o'clock watching a film, then Katie woke us coughing in the almost being sick way, so I didn't really settle after that, so a very tired MDW this morning.

Katie's OK, she's got a bit of a runny nose so it's probably linked to that. She's gone to toddler group with mum.

Plans for the day, finish the washing, talc the swimming pool and put away, take Katie dancing.

Hugs to everyone.

weezl74

EA how did it go at the consultant meet?