MSE Parents Club Part 15

SusanC_2

honeypop wrote: »

Induction was one of the reasons I was thinking of not having a VBAC, the intense pain from last time put me off, but when I explained this was one of my reasons for possibly wanting another CS, she said they will never induce me this time. Nearer the due date, they will assess how I'm doing, decide how many days overdue they may let me go (if any) and if not arrived by then, it's straight to a CS rather than induction.

This is in no way a criticism of you but I really hope that is not how they worded it as it is you who are in charge of your care and who decides how many days over you will go before accepting their offer of a CS. I'm not suggesting you don't take their advice/recommendations - just that they should be presenting them as such rather than telling you what you are allowed to do.

SusanC_2

CAFCGirl wrote: »

Thing is we got G when we lost first baby as a kind of replacement, so its creating all sort of emotional turmoil and i'm now in tears....:(

I remember you saying that was when you got him - it must make it a really hard choice to make. :grouphug:

Sami_Bee

The_Next_Verse wrote: »

CAFC - I second the Jumperoo. We got ours second hand from eBay.

This is Kai in his...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8_54U_ezq3k

He doesn't stay in it very long as he's not quite interested enough in toys yet for it to be really fun for him but does the job... even at his age!

Sorry to hear about your dog though

aww cuteness, Edgar got very excited when he managed to bat the blue thing he clapped :T

Honeypop - Linda mentioned in the story on this site runs VBAC info & support, she's a mum of 9, 2 x C/S, Hosp VBA2C, C/S, Hosp VBA3C, 3 x HWBA3C, Hosp WBA3C:T

Krystaltips

CAFC, I had a dog from a 6w old puppy, he was my baby replacement from when I was told I couldn't have children naturally, he was very much my little boy and I loved him to pieces... I rehomed him when Aimee was about 9 months old...

It had reached the point where I just couldn't cope with the 2 of them... He was getting less and less attention and he deserved better than I could give him at the time... I'd had him 8 years by then and was gutted when he went...

But the relief that came afterwards was unbelievable! No more worry about fitting in walks (he wouldn't walk with the pushchair) or coming home to puddles on the kitchen floor... No more guilt that he wasn't getting enough attention...

I do still miss him sometimes, he was a lovely dog and in better circumstances I would have kept him... But I know he went to a home that would care for him and love him and he would be much happier...

honeypop

Sami_Bee wrote: »

the not inducing is a policy that varies by pct

I just want to highlight this bit of your post "decide how many days overdue they may let me go (if any) and if not arrived by then, it's straight to a CS rather than induction." 'They' cannot make decisions for you YOU decide what YOU want to do, 'they' must allow you to make an informed decision (something 'they' seem to forget often!)
There are lots of women who have successful VBACs, I know of a woman who had a home birth after 3 previous CSs. I thin Susan posted some links the other day to some of the many support websites, do visit them I hear good things about them.

its 'just' my opinion but I think something that seems to lead to a successful VBAC is having the self belief and confidence that you can do it

This bit in red, I totally agree. After seeing the consultant, she pretty much advised me to go for a CS as after getting to fully dilated last time and still not being able to push him out (inc with forceps) then it's unlikely I will this time. I was resigned to the fact it was another CS for me, why bother trying etc... then when I saw my midwife again she made me feel so much better about a VBAC and said there's nothing in my notes to indicate I would be able to deliver 'naturally' especially after getting to fully dilated last time and I came out of there feeling more empowered over the whole thing.

I didn't realise the not inducing wasn't a rule everywhere, sorry for that mis-information!

I will take a look at those links, the problem is the more I read or people tell me, the more confused I get about what I should opt for.

tiamai_d

CAFC, we had to rehome our dog last year and it is heart breaking. But you do have to decide what is best for everyone involved. (((hugs)))

You can have an induction after a C section, you just have to push for it. They will discuss it with you and come up with a plan. For me it was gel/pessary only, max of 3 doses, no drip. And if after 12 hours nothing was happening, C section. However, if it's been less than 1 or 2 years since yoru last C section they are more reluctant and I do understand why, the C section scar does take a long time to completely heal up. You have the right to have everything explained to you, the risks involved and for you to make up your own mind.

But an elective C section is nothing like an emergency c section. It really is up to you to decide what you want to do, they can only advise they can't tell you or bully you. And like Sami said, things will go better and easier if you know what you want and have a clear plan with the backing of everyone involved. The medical team and your partner. It's important that your partner can be your voice, so if say you decided if after so many hours of labour and thinsg were not progressing, you wanted a C section sooner rather than later, your partner has to be able to voice that for you, because you won't be in a fit state too.

SusanC_2

Sami_Bee wrote: »

I thin Susan posted some links the other day to some of the many support websites, do visit them I hear good things about them.

Here's my post with the links.

bexta

CAFC, that's so sad. I remember you saying that's the reason you got Gordon. It's a tough decision, but living with your mum and dad means you know that he's going to a good and loving home, where you'll still see him. Unfortunately, as much as pets are part of the family, the safety of L has to come first.

CAFCGirl

thanks all

i know its the right and best thing to do....i think i just needed to make a decision, as the constant umming and ahhhing just made it harder emotionally.....
And you're right Bexta, knowing he's with my parents does make it much easier, as they adore him... and kept asking if we needed them to have him LOL

I feel better now the decision is made,and ive asked my parents....and thankyou to everyone for the support....

and of course now G is behaving LOL

weezl74

hi honeypop ,

a lot of it for me would probably relate to the circs of your first c/s. Do you know how long you were pushing for, were you in lithotomy position (on back knees bent) were you able to be active in labour, how heavy was baby honeypot 1, (also what was your own birth weight), what position did he/she present in, was there fetal distress that triggered the C/S?

All of these things would affect my decision re VBAC based on what I have read.

edit: in addition to all tia, sami and susan have already said-they were quicker than me!