MSE Parents Club Part 15

vwelsh13

ooh bless little love will get the hang of it eventually!

ladybirdintheuk

Ibuprofen has kicked in, that's better. And I'm hungry... that must be a sign I'm on the mend surely

Always have you called up to go see doctor/midwife yet? I know it is different everywhere - do you have to have a doctors appointment to then get a midwife one, or can you just go straight to getting a booking in appointment with the MW? If you are starting to worry yourself with thinking about it it might be a good idea to get an appointment booked so you can talk it through with someone. I don't know about you, but for me being in denial is all very well on the surface, but then I find myself not sleeping because I'm thinking, so sometimes it is better to tackle things head on than to ignore them iyswim. That might just be me though. How far gone are you anyway? You will have lots of time to think about your options

mrsa

Congratulations on the new baby. All sounds completly normal!
Small babies don't need much stimulation, what you are doing is more than enough.
As for the sickness, it could be reflux but it is still early days, keep an eye on it and if he in no better in a few weeks mention it to the hv. But don't worry, he will still be getting all he needs. (From a mum of 2 out of 3 of my babies had severe reflux)

Also the evening cluster feeding is totally normal, he is just increasing your milk supply as he grows. Just go with it and enjoy the early days!!

Only thing I would say is that I not sure advise to give a dummy is correct, it can interupt breast feeding.

mrsa

threemuttleys wrote: »

yes, I do alternate (but I admit with sleeplessness I have forgotten which one we used last on one or two occasions) I have tried squeezing some out...but makes no difference to him struggling with one or his hunger.

I use a hairband on my wrist that reminds me which side to feed frrom first next time. just remember to switch it when you feeding! !

aless02

Always, :eek:! You can't be preggers, you had a baby just before I did! :eek: :eek: How's work going, are they going to freak?

(actually, I'm secretly jealous because if we had the means, I would totally be there with you right now )

Sami_Bee

r.mac wrote: »

grrrr :mad:- sami that makes me mad. Having silly opinions is one thing - but putting chris at risk like that is totally uncceptable.:eek::mad:

SusanC wrote: »

Sami I'd be pretty mad about something like that too. Some things might be personal preference but aside from the legal aspect not putting a child in their car seat properly is very dangerous.

Its not the first time either. When he was a baby, still rear facing she managed to completely forget the million times she'd seen him R facing in our car, my verbal instructions AND the bl00dy pictures on the car seat and fastened it in Fwd facing :eek: !!!!!!?! She wonders why he only stays there about 4 times a year!!
My mum would never do something like that, she organised to come to the carseat place with me to see what fitted her car and learn to put it in, has read the instructions and re reads them when she has to put it back in :A
the old times MIL has looked after C as a baby I had to write instructions on postits and stick them on the thing they related to and a written timetable of when to do things because she does doesn't listen to instructions.

do you like how my mummy is perfect not that she feeds my boys faaar too many sweets, something MIL would never do

CAFCGirl wrote: »

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And my personal favorite

"HECK OFF YOU DEPLORABLE WOMAN!!!"

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:rotfl::T

SugarSpun

Many congratulations always!!! :j :j :j

ethelsmum

Congratulations Always.

Kitkat - grrr at MIL. Mine isn't too bad really but then I don't see a lot of her (and neither do the kids).

Just picked dd up from school and she was crying, says she's got tummy ache. Don't know whether she's telling the truth as she always says that when she's actually upset about something. She does look a bit pale though so she's tucked up the settee with a blanket and a bowl!

strawberrypud

My 5 month old has a dummy to help her get off to sleep but it is creating more problems than helping. While she is trying to fall asleep she constantly puts her hands to her mouth and knocks it out and she is too strong (and dislikes) being swaddled so I have to keep popping the damn thing back in for daytime naps and nighttime sleep. Also I am up upto 20 times during the night to replace it. I am actually being referred to a physio and am on painkillers for chronic neck/back pain because of this very problem!

I tried putting her down for her nap this afternoon without it and just a favourite toy but she screamed for an hour until I relented and gave her a dummy.

If I carry on with this how old will she be when she stops knocking it out of her mouth/can replace it herself or how do I go about breaking the habit?

Any advice would help x

Chakani

mrsa wrote: »

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Only thing I would say is that I not sure advise to give a dummy is correct, it can interupt breast feeding.

If he's already successfully breastfeeding, which it sounds like he is, then I shouldn't think it would make a blind bit of difference - what baby is going to give up mummy in preference of a bit of rubber. They work for some babies and not for others, but either way I don't think they do any harm. My first was a very sucky baby and a dummy was an absolute lifesaver from about 1-4 months, for those times when he wasn't hungry, just fancied something to suck on. It didn't take long to recognise the difference.

OP, you sound like you're doing a great job, and yes, DS had a favourite side, but it didn't last long. Infacol was really good for him too as he was very gassy and sicky. I do remember the feeding marathon growth spurts too - they seem never ending, but they pass quite quickly.

Also, it's natural to feel guilty if something goes wrong, but it's important to forgive yourself and not to go on feeling guilty for too long. He is not damaged, it's not done any harm, so let it go, and remember all the times when you got it right - they far outnumber the mistakes, and that's the important thing. (I do remember the first time DS cried til there were tears on his face - it was very harrowing, but it's only me that remembers, he doesn't).