MSE Parents Club Part 15

emlou2009

Is this hair dye thing something I could still sign up for?

Pee stick came up invalid, no ruddy control line! I give up. Will try again in a few days...

OH doing my head in today, he's working a night shift tonight so stayed up til 2am last night, is moaning about how tired he is, snapping at S and I and moaning that he wants something to eat. I made him porridge which he picked at and less than 2 hours later he moaned he's hungry again and needs something meaty to eat! I'm not making him a ruddy fry up which is clearly what he's angling for, as I do one tomorrow when he's been at work all night and comes in starving! Grrrr!!

jillie1974

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Somnium

Krystaltips wrote: »

I think it would be lovely to have a friend to rely on and be able to do bedtime... But... It gets a bit wearing having to rely on people IME... Eg, Aimee gets picked up for school every day by my friend and I in turn walk her daughter home... Now my friend is late, every single day she makes Aimee late for school... And sometimes, like when it's raining, or when I'm feeling rough or when Caitlyn's still napping I know 3 other parents at the school I could ask to grab Aimee for me to save me going out but I can't because I have to fetch this other girl... I can't see a way to get out of the arrangement either at the moment so I'm finding it all a bit wearing and wishing it was back to just doing it all myself... So in your position, I would probably forgoe the bedtime for the working days and just keep willing people as emergency cover, say if OH gets stuck in traffic, or has to work over etc...

Thanks Krystal I'm really in two minds! it would be great to be home for bed time but at the same time as lovely as my friend is and she is totally reliable I worry what I would do if she were sick or on Holiday too. OH stuckin traffic is not an issue either as he also only works 5 minutes from home too.

aless02

Som, I'm inclined to agree with Krystal that while a lovely thought, I don't think friends doing favors is a good long-term solution. This is stupid, but didn't some ladies up north get busted by OFSTED for doing that and not being proper childminders or something? I can't remember the details. I would tell her thank you so much for the offer but you don't want to burden her every single week and you would love instead if she could babysit occasionally instead.

SS, loving the Molly photos on FB *thumbs up*

SugarSpun

aless02 wrote: »

Som, I'm inclined to agree with Krystal that while a lovely thought, I don't think friends doing favors is a good long-term solution. This is stupid, but didn't some ladies up north get busted by OFSTED for doing that and not being proper childminders or something? I can't remember the details.

They were two women who worked opposing shifts doing civilian stuff at a police station - it was completely ridiculous IMO.

Anyway, I agree with the others - better to keep a friend for emergencies only.

And thank you Aless for saying nice things about my baby

Em, pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease pee again for us today. I can't manage a third day of this! SOMEONE MUST GET PREGNANT TO MAKE ME HAPPY AND EXCITED.

gill_81uk

Can I have some advice on behalf of my friend who had a really traumatic birth? She's still feeling really angry about it all, which couple with a lot of other carp she's gone through recently, is causing her a lot of problems. She wants to see her notes and then possibly take it further. I think she would benefit from seeing someone about it too.

Can anyone tell us how to go about doing all of this, starting with seeing her notes? I'd be really grateful

jillie1974

aless02 wrote: »

Som, I'm inclined to agree with Krystal that while a lovely thought, I don't think friends doing favors is a good long-term solution. This is stupid, but didn't some ladies up north get busted by OFSTED for doing that and not being proper childminders or something? I can't remember the details. I would tell her thank you so much for the offer but you don't want to burden her every single week and you would love instead if she could babysit occasionally instead.

SS, loving the Molly photos on FB *thumbs up*

it was 2 police women. after it was in the news, they said it was ok for the women to look after each other children as there was no money/gifts changing hands. But by that stage they had found child minders.

its ok for a few hours but no money can change hands.

Somnium

Thanks ladies, your always the voice of reason I still need to see what shifts are available at work so this may be a mute point.

Gill - I think your friend needs to satrt by talking to a HV, our PCT has Birth Reflections which gives you an opportunity to go back over everything and talk about it.

tiamai_d

cazscoob wrote: »

3 Charlie does this to me and i feel really stupid! he did play up a little when we met Tia and had his teeth on me to bite a few times but all in all he was really good!
However at nursery he is an angel, they love to tell me how good he has been and i really hate it! When i take him he is such a little ratbag and plays up terribly!

Caz he was very well behaved. Especially since they were ALL playing up once they got together! The boys loved the grass though!

gill_81uk wrote: »

Can I have some advice on behalf of my friend who had a really traumatic birth? She's still feeling really angry about it all, which couple with a lot of other carp she's gone through recently, is causing her a lot of problems. She wants to see her notes and then possibly take it further. I think she would benefit from seeing someone about it too.

Can anyone tell us how to go about doing all of this, starting with seeing her notes? I'd be really grateful

http://www.birthtraumaassociation.org.uk/

Great website which can talk you through each step.

pdf info leaflet regarding notes

She should do everything by letter, sent recorded delivery, keep copies and shove it all into a file.

First steps are seeing your notes, whether in hospital or getting them copied (fees apply for photocoping). Then you must complain to your loal PALS and follow the guidelines for that before taking it further. When dealing with PALS, you have to ask very specific question so they have no room to wriggle. If you ask a specific question then they have to answer. If you ask what happened you will get a very general run down of what they say happened but nothing explaining the decisions.

If you do take it further you need a copy of those notes. Mine were £40 5 years ago. That was 2 very full box files and a smaller file of DS2's.

Evansangel

Lily had a 45 minute nap at 11am, and now she's gone back to sleep after a bottle.
I feel sad when she's ill