Any SAHMs have "help"?

blackcoffee

I have an ironing lady, I normally pay her £15 a week. (thats for 30 items) I did tell myself it would be for the summer holidays only, but my husband says she irons his shirts better than me!!!

red_devil

i didnt have one but each to their own!
My mum never had one and was working part time with 3 children.

my mum has only got one recently thats because she is older now and in bad health and cant manage everything and house is quite big they wont downsize!

Savvy_Sue

clairibel wrote: »

To the above posters who have nothing better to do than pick at my posts rather than answer the thread....again making assumptions on a pathetically small titbit of information i have provided.

I would have thought helping with their grandchild was one of importance...i can clean my own home, i needed help with the grandchild as i have had ill health for the last 8 years and also managed to work albeit part time, a little help is not to much too ask, i don't think.

Without picking, some grandparents want to help and are there before you've delivered the placenta, and others don't. The difficulties start when we expect or assume we've got one kind of grandparent, and get the other.

We only asked for help a couple of times. The first was when I was going into hospital for day surgery when the youngest was about 8 months old, and his parents came down for the day. At the time I was a bit surprised and hurt that they rushed back early that evening, even though I had to unexpectedly stay in overnight and DH had to juggle getting the older two into bed and babe to me for breastfeeding overnight, BUT I realise they have their own lives to lead.

I was even more upset by the fact that DH went back to work the same day I came out of hospital, and had to be away overnight before the end of the week! Because if anyone had a responsibility to help me out, it was him, not his parents!

When we went to stay or went on holiday with them, his parents never offered to babysit while we went out together. (That's no longer needed, btw.) So I never asked, because I thought if they wanted to do it, they would offer, and if they didn't want to do it, I didn't want them doing it!

As for my parents, they would come to visit for some school events and help out with things like that, but we wouldn't have wanted to leave the boys in their care for any length of time, for a number of reasons, and they didn't offer either, so again, I never asked.

If it upsets you, you could always try asking why it is they don't seem to want to help out, at a time when you don't actually need it, IYSWIM.

mummyslittleboy

clairibel wrote: »

To the above posters who have nothing better to do than pick at my posts rather than answer the thread....again making assumptions on a pathetically small titbit of information i have provided.

I would have thought helping with their grandchild was one of importance...i can clean my own home, i needed help with the grandchild as i have had ill health for the last 8 years and also managed to work albeit part time, a little help is not to much too ask, i don't think.

It would be lovely to have grandparents that would help occasionally but unfortunatly this is not something that I have ever had the sad thing about it is the kids are getting a lot older now and ask to go to there grandparents but get annoyed when they are fobbed of with some lame excuse as to why they can't go or let down at the last minute.