Its tough, it will get better and guess what its freezing brrrrr!

ceridwen

kidcat wrote: »

AM in major clean up mode tonight as my mum is in full mourning for someone she knew and has died, she has commandeered his funeral arrangements from his wife (am not predicting this ending well) and is in full and fixed mode, means that nothing else even gets a look in with her, its funny in one way but a slight problem as she is supposed to be babysitting whilst I attend a Governor meet (followed by my PTA fundraising meeting ) tomorrow, I called to remind her and she had forgotten, I offered her dinner when I get back and she accepted - I dutifully planned dinner, then she has called back and announced she is bringing the widow with her :eek::eek: (not someone I particularly get on with I might add) as she doesnt trust her not to mess with the funeral plans while my mum is here:eek::eek::eek:, and can I make sure everywhere is properly clean and tidy and having had no kids the widow has a palace that is spotless!!!! Thankfully I dropped a plate and smashed it in shock - so was able to end the call before I responded - I swear if I wasnt so wrung out I would throttle her.:rotfl:

Crikey...I'd be on full alert in your position for things "not ending well" as you put it as regards your mother trying to organise that funeral...my jaw dropped open with astonishment at her trying...

I can only imagine that if I was the widow concerned JUST how much there would be in the way of ructions in those circumstances...

The only funerals I am due to organise are my parents - whenever the time is...and my mother has already instructed me to the effect that if anyone even tries to sit in MY seat in the church (ie front row, most prominent) that I'm to throw them out of it - not that it was necessary to make that plain (as I would do so anyway....politely but firmly). Its been made VERY plain to me that I am the one who will make all the decisions - which is what I was expecting to do anyway...

So - good luck with dealing with that situation - and have the tissues ready...

FRUGAL - Sorry about the burns...oh dear. Safety precaution folks - make sure candles are really thick, heavy type ones or else (if they're thinner) then they are firmly wedged into a suitable container. There are candle snuffers available that can be used to put out candles - instead of blowing them out (but 'fraid I cant remember where I bought mine...). Please dont anyone leave them burning unattended. Of course there is the thing I managed myself many years back - which was to think it was okay to leave a candle to burn right down in a wooden candlestick (my thinking being that "its a candlestick - they're meant to be okay for that" - errrr...<cough> not if they are made of wood it isnt....errrr....<cough>).

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Re the poster who wondered what indoor temperature should be - if my memory serves me right then 16C is the minimum temperature houses should be for "safety" (though I'd imagine its okay for a bedroom to be a bit lower than that - unless the person sleeping in it is vulnerable in some way - eg a baby or old person or something).

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ceridwen wrote: »

It IS in...cre...dibly slow today and yesterday. Seems to be down to MSE trying to find ways to deal with the spammers who've been sending us out spam PM's.

My computer diagnosis came up with "this website is having firewall problems" or summat to that effect. So MSE is obviously trying to fix up firewall to deal with these characters and we are feeling the effect whilst they sort it out..

EDIT: KITTIE - I sent you a PM - but with the current MSE problems am not sure if it even "transmitted" - so can you let me know if it did purlease?

No Ceridwen, nothing there, just one a general one from mse

I have decided to light that very special big candle just for those who want to get good energy from here. It will be on the whole of today, until about 10 tonight and it has been transmitting the most lovely calming light in a fairly dark hall. There is a gorgeous glow from that candle, which is a deep red colour and is called home sweet home and I have already lit it. Since I started using it, three friends and family have been in touch and this weekend I have visitors 3 days on the trot. Very unusual for me.

This new house of ours has the most amazing good vibes and energy and I have only put things into it that also have good energy. There are no outside cables and we are surrounded by peaceful apple orchards and have 2 excellent and kind likeminded neighbours and I count my blessings

rosieben

congrats stiltwalker, another OS baby :j

Frugal, ouch! hope it eases soon

mardatha

I dont think cold on its own harms tiny babies - look at times past, houses used to be cold everywhere apart from the livingroom with the fire, central heating is new. As long as the baby is well wrapped ( like a properly posted xmas parcel lol) and well fed then it should be fine. But damp is very bad.
When I was preg it wasnt done to touch anybody's bump and I still think it sounds a very weird thing to do..
North of Scotland affected by snow and ice this morning, roads bad. Here we just have pure white frost and well into the minuses. Taking ages to defrost the car.
I have put on 2lbs just THINKING about xmas !!!

jackieglasgow

I have hidden the Christmas chocs I have been buying every week. At first they were in the boot of OH's car but he's put them in the loft now, as I can't get up there. I just don't trust myself

kidcat

Frugal - if its still sore this morning, there is a anaesthetic type cream you can buy or a spray that really works. (spray is called something like burneze)

Ceridwen - As an only child when my parents go I will have total responsibility for their funeral (well the last one standing as it were!!) and I have decided that next week I am going to write down how I expect my funeral to be and ask my parents to do the same, as for it ending badly, this is my mother all over, she has spent years ignoring most of her family other than us ( and still us at points) as she seems to be able to do one set of relationships at a time - work was her priority, but she retired recently and seems to expect to pick up family relationships without missing a beat (seems to believe they should be grateful for her deigning to visit them etc) but also as I predicted she is starting to get bored and also feeling a little put out that she is no longer in a position of authority, but even I couldnt have predicted this. When it ends badly then I am steering clear she can deal with the fallout without me, as the woman involved is from the group my mum worked for - same group that treated me badly some time ago (my mum included) I will just keep clear. Thankfully I dont have anything much to do with any of them unless its on my terms so will be easy to do. Feel sorry for dad though, he is not a happy bunny as it were. BUt again he needs to learn that if he doesnt keep an eye on her she will cause all sorts of bother.

Jack Frost has been out here this morning, having had little sleep (DD4 was up most of night again) it was not a good surprise to discover I had to defrost the car too!! Thankfully the de-icer was in cupboard ready (thanks to the winter prep), and as I keep it in the utility room that can was freezing to touch as it was last winter cos I kept it in the car.

Have scrubbed kitchen to within an inch of its life, but am struggling with the stupid stainless steel appliances (kettle,bread maker etc), they still look smudgy and not very pleasant, whilst I know its clean it doesnt look good, any suggestions ?? (Would never have chosen stainless steel - they were birthday/christmas and anniversary presents off my mum!)

maryb

If they are small appliances it's not too much work to polish them with Autosol from Halfords. They do come up looking lovely

bees**knees

Use baby oil in a mist/sprayer and use a soft cloth to rub over stainless steel. This was hint given to me by people who installed stainless steel appliances. You do need to clean the surface occasionally with a stainless steel cleaner and reapply oil.
HTH Val

furndire

Hi, hope you all don't mind me butting in now and again, I've been reading this thread for a while.

Kidcat, Have you tried using vinegar to clean stuff like that with - works pretty well?

greent

I just water and a microfibre cloth on mine s/steel appliances. Sometimes a spray of vinegar/ water first - comes up a treat