Its tough, it will get better and guess what its freezing brrrrr!

katholicos

charlies-aunt wrote: »

I think sometimes we are our own worse critics - if you need help, whether meds or therapy, to get through a bad patch - do what you need to do to make your life better and to hell with what other people think.

I had a lots of ups and downs and I'm not ashamed to say that I've had both medication and counselling on more than one occasion.

If you start to feel down, it can mean a slow slide into deep depression unless you take action before passing the point of no return. A dear friend of mine suffered stoically and silently for many years before choosing one bright sunny morning to climb over her 17th floor balcony and jump into oblivion.... I knew she had felt down but had no inkling she felt so bad.

I don't think that there is any one method for helping with depression - just do what works for you, look after your health and don't be hard on yourself! ...and keep posting here - we are all in it together

Oh my goodness, i am sorry to read this. A friend of mine killed themselves, it is terribly sad, and a waste of a life. I can't help but think 'if only treatment had been sought', or 'if only the doctors have done more etc'. Ultimately though, each person makes choices and not all those choices are based on clarity of thought or an accurate perception or understanding of their place in the world, their future happiness etc. I say this as someone who has attempted suicide, not trying to spout forth on a topic i know little about.

CA, i agree with your post 100%

BitterAndTwisted

My goodness, I have nothing but admiration for you Mrs Veg. He's a very lucky man to have you at his side, he really is.

grandma247

Congratulations to those with good news. Reading about it does make us all feel better,there are silver linings after all.
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Fruball

I just want to say that the support on this thread is absolutely mind blowing... not only for myself... but reading posts of others who are having a dreadful time for all sorts of reasons. The generosity of those who post here is so healing for myself, and I am sure all those who are having a hard time atm.

Reading all the posts makes me realise that however tough life is.... there will ALWAYS be someone who cares... even if its not someone you know well, or even if it is... but someone ALWAYS cares what happens to you.

My dear friend is coming tomorrow :eek: to help me sort out the dump which I currently call home... I don't really want her to come as I am ashamed... But she is doing it because she cares.... and I am grateful for that.

Love to all those who need it atm... and there are lots of us! (((hugs)))

Oh, and if anyone is up around 9.30am tomorrow and fancies giving me an alarm call... please PM me and I will send you my number Friend is coming at 12 and I really want to get the bins emptied before she comes even if that is all i manage I'd like to get more done if i can

NualaBuala

What a lovely post Frugal ... I agree completely. Hope you have fun with your friend as well as getting the house sorted.

catznine

jediteacher wrote: »

Sorry not been on for a while. Thank you to everyone who gave me ideas where to get cheap wool from and the encouragement for making a homemade gift.

I feel a little bad sneaking on here with some good news. Some of you will know that it's not been easy here and for a while I had to take some away time. Well, I have a little annoucement. I am 14 weeks pregnant. All not quite sunk in as had such an unlucky time before but went for the scan yesterday and all seems well. Need to wait for the blood results as I'm an older mum and I'm really worried about this. Anyway, just wanted to say a big thank you to everyone who kept checking I was ok and I can now reveal my secret.

That will probably be the last time I mention the pregnancy as I know how hard it is for some and I also do not want to jinx anything. Will be telling family this weekend.
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First of all congratulations!:) It sounds like your baby will be due the same time as my first grandchild as dil is also 14 weeks along! You can talk about it as much or as little as you wish, I am learning from all Mums, Mum-to-bes and Grandmas posts a little more about having a baby these days and loving it! I too don't want to jinx it all but know I must put bottom into gear if I want to start making anything.

I have had reason to learn a bit more about power cuts! That is the reason I am up typing at this time in the morning! Power went off here at 4am - the noise of various electrical items suddenly "closing down" woke me up!:eek: Yes really must go round and switch off the stand by buttons! The power stayed off for half an hour and boy did that seem like a long time! At first I enjoyed the wonderful sound of silence. Soon though I started to really, really crave a cuppa!:rotfl:(which is why I am up now and have just filled the thermos with some hot water!!!) I realised that I had my wind up torch to hand but that is a pain to use at night as it is noisy and my dh was, believe it or not, still sleeping through the whole incident:). Note to self - keep a battery powered torch by the bed and fill thermos with hot water every night (not a waste as can be used to wash the morning dishes with!) It was also starting to get very cold (we normally have the heating on but set very low) but luckily had a fleece blanket folded at the bottom of the bed. While all this was running through my mind I also realised that our little portable gaz stove is still in a box up in the loft!

So a few lessons learned tonight! Thought it might be worth while getting a little car kettle in reserve as well.

(((hugs))) to those dealing with depression - been there and know it is all to easy to slip down that slope but such a long and difficult haul back up again - but it can be done so don't give up!

Someone asked me about cfs - It took over a year to get a diagnosis and then that was through a referral to a cfs clinic in our area and they were very helpful. I was offered cbt, physio and ot all of which I took. I have improved hugely (don't need my stick anymore!) but still have bad days so now only work 3 hours a week. Looking after our home (or not looking after it on bad days|) takes all my available energy. I now attend our local MS centre as they support all neuro illnesses and have been fab. Facilitating on the next cfs course will be my way of saying thank you.:T

Right back upstairs to try and get a little more sleep!

Catz x

ceridwen

'morning all...

Sammy - are you around lass? Things going okay?

Having had my check-in here - will resume my food-centred weekend in a minute.

- limes drying away in the dehydrator
- homemade bread in the breadbin again as usual
- homemade apple spread in the fridge
- I loved jack in the hedge when I found it precisely once. Well I might be able to find it a lot more readily next year if I'm lucky - as I've been planting jack in the hedge seeds everywhere suitable nearby:D (judging by the number I've planted - if even half of them come up the local residents will be wondering how come we have gone from zilch to loads of it growing everywhere:rotfl:)
- off to plant some ramson seeds this afternoon in one of the two locations I have chosen to start that up in this area (no idea if I'll like that - but as I love everything else garlic-y - I probably will.) That'll be another thing the local residents will be wondering about - as to where that suddenly appeared from..:rotfl:

- In between all the matters food-related I must try a catch-up a bit on those various small tasks that keep cropping up. I find it difficult to get myself to do these things and the housework generally - in a low mood I really have to push and shove myself to do these things. So - I've got a list of mini-tasks up and a new resolution that I must make myself do at least one of them each day. I was brought up in a family where my parents are both HUGE believers in "stiff upper lip" and carry on - though I think maybe these days we have "relaxed our stance" a bit and admitted that 2 of us DO have a lot of "low moods" to deal with and have to work out strategies to make ourselves carry on...so back to my little tasklist and then that ramson seed planting (being in the countryside as much as I can manage being one of my own strategies for carrying on...).

jamanda

I'm really sorry to hear so many here are having such a dreadful time. Not been posting much as I'm struggling to get everything done since starting back to work, but I have been reading the posts and sympathising and rejoicing as appropriate. To those who are feeling low, just remember you don't know what is around the next corner and sometimes the only way is up. You will get through these times and I also have nothing but praise for the lovely people on this board who really do care.

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It looks like yet another grey day today so I am thinking that I will have to do something positive and have a singalong cd on, as the weather isn`t going to do anything to uplift the spirits. Maybe I`ll straighten a chest of drawers or something like that. Its the worst time of the year I think so yes I`ll get myself going---- in a minute

mardatha

Same here kittie - the dark gloomy days really get to you when they come along in a wodge of a week at a time. I'm thinking about getting off this couch. Just thinking... I'm very "canny-be-bothered" just now.:D Mind next weekend is to be much colder and snow for the east - get ready now because that might bring powercuts.
Am wondering why we don't hear of all these council job losses- when is that to happen ? I hate it when govt goes quiet cos you know they're upto something.. Wonder if they're going to get xmas out of the way then hit us with a load of hassle.