Its tough, it will get better and guess what its freezing brrrrr!

jackieglasgow

Congratulations jediteacher, I am delighted to share your good news. Don't you dare hide that baby away, if you want to talk about, you talk about it, there is nothing nicer in the world than a baby, and we are all pleased for you xx

Margaret54

Just remembered to say. I was in town yesterday and walking past one of those payday loan shops? On the door it said in very large letters"If you have a debit card we can let you have £20" Those places are a rip off from what I have heard, would never go near one. My dh and I have been saving with the credit union for many years and we really are glad we did so. They are great places. Even a little amount each month still adds up. Gailey talking of baby clothes for your little boy, have you ever tried the charity shops? Over the years I have bought lovely stuff from them for my children and also another wee baby of a friend. They were all like new, some even had the label still on. I was in one yesterday and came out with some lovely little things to freshen up and put away, for when they are needed. There was a big basket of brand new childrens hats and mittens with label still on from M&S for only 50p each set Got also a mans navy scarf brand new M&S £1 and a dear little cord pinafore for baby girl brand new only 50p.:) Little babies and small children really don't wear out their clothes and it seems a shame not to buy them, as it saves so much money needed for other things like shoes. There was also a beautiful pram and a carrycot to match like new for £100 in total, and I have seen the same one for £500 in a shop.

kidcat

The thought occurs gailey that if I had known you were having a boy when we were on holiday your way I could have passed a few bags of boys clothes to you!! If we end up your way next year for hols will see what i can sort - assuming I dont have a mad day and ebay the lot.

Have had to switch heating on full blast, radiator in living room is not warming at all! Added to boiler no longer heating water am not happy.

Pitlanepiglet

Congratulations Jediteacher :T

Don't hide your news away, life is full of good news and bad news, don't be afraid to share the good stuff xxx

Rosanna79

MrsVegplot
So sorry to hear of your dreadful discovery. There is little else as undermining to a relationship as the 'progressive revelations' of the other partner not being totally honest regarding financial problems. The support and advice of the women on the thread is so sensible. So often I see women really are stronger, more often than not because we seem to be the only ones who actually grow up! If your OH sees there is a very real possibility of losing you and your kids through this perhaps it may as an incentive to be completely up front? I certainly hope so. Here's wishing you the strength and wisdom to deal with what lies ahead.

Has anyone found their car insurance renewal this year up to 30 % plus more than last year? I have just renewed online like for like at £175:70 LESS than the quote my old insurer offered. Outrageous!!

katholicos

jediteacher wrote: »

Sorry not been on for a while. Thank you to everyone who gave me ideas where to get cheap wool from and the encouragement for making a homemade gift.

Big, big hugs to all especially those dealing with ill parents and OH's. My fabulous granddad died two years ago next sunday and I understand all the issues that some of you are going through with hospitals and care. It was a real rollercoaster of a ride and in some very small way it was a relief when granddad passed away as it meant he was at peace and so was my grandma as she no longer had to worry about how to care for him. Of course we miss him every day but we lost the real him a few years before he died as he had dementia - although he remembered his grandchildren right to the end.

I feel a little bad sneaking on here with some good news. Some of you will know that it's not been easy here and for a while I had to take some away time. Well, I have a little annoucement. I am 14 weeks pregnant. All not quite sunk in as had such an unlucky time before but went for the scan yesterday and all seems well. Need to wait for the blood results as I'm an older mum and I'm really worried about this. Anyway, just wanted to say a big thank you to everyone who kept checking I was ok and I can now reveal my secret.

That will probably be the last time I mention the pregnancy as I know how hard it is for some and I also do not want to jinx anything. Will be telling family this weekend.

On a more MSE note we're going to try and eat our way through the food we have at home before getting any more. The freezer is full of frozen meat and needs to be eaten. Will have to get fresh fruit and veg as my little girl eats sooooo much of it.

Well I better get my bum in gear and start the meal planning.

Sweetie, you must never feel 'bad' about sharing good news! Congratulations to you on your good news, I pray you will have a healthy pregnancy. Take care of yourself now

katholicos

Rosanna79 wrote: »

I grew up with a mother who didn't like Christmas on account of her mother having died 4 days before Christmas when she was a kid and my older sister having died 4 days after Christmas aged 2 1/2. She did her best for us but the overwhelming sadness she felt inevitably transmitted itself to us. I began to associate Christmas with family bereavement. Mother herself died extremely suddenly 22 years ago this month. It doesn't seem possible so much time has passed . When my brother developed secondary cancer in 2006 he was the last member of my immediate family to die in Feb 2007.

I'm very thankful for OH who's amazing and yet a lot of mornings, especially at this time of year if I take the time to sit and think too much it's easy to feel overwhelmed.

I try to keep busy and engaged with other people which helps.

Last year because of the horrendous weather and mobility problems I could hardly get out of the house so was unable to buy the usual 3 wreaths for the local family graves which go up in price every year.

We foraged in the garden for some greenery which dried out, sprayed gold and tied with gold ribbon made very presentable arrangments at a fraction of the cost. This year OH and I have also collected cones of various sorts and plan more ambitious wreaths.

Does any one else ever try this?

Thinking of those who're struggling at present and again for your amazing support on this thread

Rosanna, it is sad to lose family members at any time of year of course, but to have them pass away around times that would normally be considered celebratory times, is doubly painful.

I'm so peased for you that you and your dear OH are there for one another to offer companionship, love and support to one another.

About the homemade wreath, this is a very good idea indeed...we usually take one to the grave of my DD's father and me and Mum take on to the grave of Mum's parents and we usually buy them, but i do like the idea of making our own. I'm sure anything we make would be so much nicer and more meaningful than one's that are bought. i wonder how near to Christmas the foliage can be gathered without berries dropping etc?

I suppose gold spray adheres things together as well as making it all look nice though, so i think i will enlist the help of DD in gathering in wreath making foliage. I have just the place in mind too :-)

Thanks for the tip!

katholicos

Mrs_Veg_Plot wrote: »

You might remember that Oh recently admitted to 21K of debt that we sorted out by remortgaging the house. Sitting here in despair as have just found a letter to him from building society discussing the shortfall this month on a loan payment which brings the total owed to £11.690.33.
I know he is depressed and is dealing with things by ignoring them but I have no idea how I am going to sort this one out. OH is out at the moment so will have to tackle him about it later this morning. As far as I was concerned this loan had finished and he had closed his account last weekend.

Feeling very very let down by him at the moment. Has this man got no idea about finance? How have I not realised over the last 19 years that he has these problems and why the hell did he not tell me about this when he owned uo to the other debt? I hope to god this is the last of it because I just could not cope if there was anymore. I don't know how I am going to manage to sort this out. Can't think straight about it at the moment, too angry.

Sorry for the rant but if I don't let off some steam about it now I won't be able to approach him reasonably. I know marrriage has its ups and downs but this is starting to push me beyond my limits.

On a lighter note Mardatha the best place for cabbage is disguised in a veg soup.

Oh dear, Mrs V.P i do so feel for you. You must feel so upset that your hubbie has deceived you in this way. Depression isa terrible thing and i'm sure it felt more than he could handle to admit this debt openly, but he must have known it would have to be paid at some point and so i do see why this would anger and ipset yu.

Do heed the advice previously given, to seek professional and objective advice from outside sources (namely CAB) as talking things through with a debt advisor would probably reassure you that there are ways of dealing with this and that it is not insurmountable.

Do also consider getting a free or inexpensive credit check. i recently went through Quidco and got £20 just for trying out Credit Expert at no cost to myself at all. I cancelled with them within the month so was not charged a penny and still got my £20. I was able to see all my credit and store cards and for an optional small fee could have accessed my credit score, but that was not something i was interested in so didn't bother.

All the best

BB1984

Aaargh! I think my boiler is broken! It's suddenly started making the most god-awful rattling sound when the heating's on, it's so loud. We only had it installed 2 years ago, so I'll be seriously hacked off if it needs any major work doing. Of course, it's just outside the parts warranty.....!

Will get ripped off if I call the plumber now/tomorrow, so will have to wait until monday. Tempted to wait until tuesday though, when my mum and step-dad get back from holiday, as he's an electrician and has a plumber friend or two.

Fingers crossed it's nothing TOO serious!

Rosanna, I don't own a car, but a few of my friends have commented that their premiums have gone up, not sure why that would be, though - more fraudulent claims, perhaps?

Margaret54 - I passed one of those shops today, only they were offering £200!! :eek: The sign was really shoddy as well, hand-written on a bit of day-glo card, you'd have to be really desperate to trust that lot of sharks. Sadly, there are always several customers in there though...

I've been working all day, bar the odd bit of nosing on here. Fed up, cold, bored. DH has been basically playing PS or watching TV all day, apart from a little bit of pottering and doing one load of washing. I envy his ability to sit back, relax, and ignore the state that the house is in and the DIY to-do list, I really do! :mad:

Off out this evening for a new members "do" at the sailing club. Not as posh as it sounds! Will prob be rubbish but thought we should make an effort, plus apparently there's free food so who am I to say no?! :rotfl:

Right, I'm off to hoover or do something useful....

BB

jediteacher

Thank you all very much for your lovely words of congratulations. Due to things not going well before I'm just very weary of what is going to happen this time. I have passed the time when I lost my other pregnancies but the worry and fear never goes away. Next scan in 2 weeks.
I wasn't afraid of sharing good news I just know that for some it is hard (as it was for me) to hear about these things and I was just trying to be sensitive.
Anyway, haven't told the family yet and I am not looking forward to one of those calls as my brother and his wife have been told they cannot have children.
Thank you all again for your kind words. :A