Its tough, it will get better and guess what its freezing brrrrr!

starsandmoon

Thats whats great about this thread. If your having a tough time, want a moan or whatever you get loads of support. My marriage ended 3 years ago and I rented a flat and had 2 binbags of clothes and a telly:eek: Last year I managed to get back on the housing ladder (literally got paid to live in my area as its rough) and am buying a house and getting back on my feet and now my job looks dodgy. Lifes a battle isnt it?

Ive been preparing for winter with lined curtains etc etc and am quite OS due to living with my nan when I was little and she was very OS so Im sure Il cope. I used to be a hairdresser so could maybe retrain in that if I got stuck. I was rubbish though so god help any customers :rotfl:

parsonswife8

In days long gone by, I used to have to take a five minute drive down the road, fetch my son from his nursery and take him back to work.

I then used to carry on posting on a Burroughs machine, in a bank, with him sat on my lap.

This was in 1972 and in another country.

I kid you not.

I've had my daughter sat in her pram at work, when her unemployed father refused to look after her. And I was working in a high profile job.

That was in 1988.

It is no wonder that I am now the way I am, after such traumatic times, where I had to cope, with no support from ANY family.

Well, I did my best. My two kids have good jobs, but my health has suffered. It has just been to much to cope with.



Life can be a real bi!!!.

I apologize for my post, but this darkness is really getting me down.

Lindy_-_Loo

Gailey, we bought a second hand double push chair. It lasted fine for 6 weeks then walking into town the thing snapped. Thankfully OH works in town and we were right by his store. It was hard holding a new born, a two year old plus changing bag etc, also had to take the raincover off. Had to go and buy the cheapest one there and then and use a credit card. It cost £100 for the new pram which needed to be re adjusted after 11 months which was free and they also tightened it all up for us in the store. The second hand pram cost £30. It was good while it lasted but not practical as we had no guarantee. DS2 has a lightweigt fold away mothercare stroller that was £5 at the car boot, lasted months and its only for heading home from school and if it breaks then so be it.

katholicos

Hardup_Hester wrote: »

Hippeechiq wrote: »

One of the signs of being an alcoholic is denying you have a drink problem.

Sounds like my Dr, she insists it isn't possible for someone to drink as little as I do.

I don't drink alcohol at all but the specialists etc who i see and nurses etc look positively gobsmacked when i tell them I don't drink. It's because i am and in need of meds so much of the time but in truth i prefer a cup of tea anyway.

katholicos

parsonswife8 wrote: »

In days long gone by, I used to have to take a five minute drive down the road, fetch my son from his nursery and take him back to work.

I then used to carry on posting on a Burroughs machine, in a bank, with him sat on my lap.

This was in 1972 and in another country.

I kid you not.

I've had my daughter sat in her pram at work, when her unemployed father refused to look after her. And I was working in a high profile job.

That was in 1988.

It is no wonder that I am now the way I am, after such traumatic times, where I had to cope, with no support from ANY family.

Well, I did my best. My two kids have good jobs, but my health has suffered. It has just been to much to cope with.



Life can be a real bi!!!.

I apologize for my post, but this darkness is really getting me down.

Life can indeed be an itch. Hopefully there are enough light days to balance out the dark days, but it doesn't always seem that way does it?

(((hugs)))

kidcat

Gailey - re prams, I bought a very expensive double pram when my youngest was born as I needed it to be fit for newborn and toddler, get in and out of house/ shops etc and fold and fit into both cars (one is small hatch other is MPV with almost no boot space) and also fit into my dads car too (big car very unreliable and regularly ended up calling dad!!) a few weeks later it was stolen from the car!! Was absolutely livid but resorted to using the second hand one I had used when child minding. There were major differences in both style and practicality - and having had the luxury of testing a few types I was able to make a informed decision - I would suggest contacting your local childminders support group - they will have tried all the double prams under the sun - and they can help you choose the type. Whether you buy second hand or not - well that has to depend on your finances and if you can find the right model in the right condition.
Ironically I went on to purchase a replacement for the stolen pram (which I think shows I had made right choice in first place) and it was used very little!!
If you want any help on picking PM me and I can talk you through some of the ones I tried and the problems/good points.

The only thing I would say is - will you really need a double pram? I ask because I often ended up taking the single pram and using a buggy board or a baby carrier, because no double buggy is ideal when shopping. (In fact near Christmas shops deliberately squash up their displays and that prevents any idea of getting a double pram round)

On a OS note - have made a mental Christmas list today and will be committing it to paper later when all kids in bed. Means I can hit sales and bargains as I find them, rather than impulse purchasing for the kids - I always mess up when I impulse buy and find I have bought too much for one and not enough for the others!!! Funny how each year its a different child I find it easier to buy for - last year was youngest daughter who was 3, this year is DS 12. Could spend a fortune on him - but am struggling with the others ! (Needs confused smiley )

Off to Blackpool tomorrow to see the lights and taking my parents with us, should be interesting as any outing with my parents usually costs a bomb, but I have said its strictly see the lights and stop for some fish and chips. Taking drinks and snacks too!!

Hippeechiq

parsonswife8 wrote: »

In days long gone by, I used to have to take a five minute drive down the road, fetch my son from his nursery and take him back to work.

I then used to carry on posting on a Burroughs machine, in a bank, with him sat on my lap.

This was in 1972 and in another country.

I kid you not.

I've had my daughter sat in her pram at work, when her unemployed father refused to look after her. And I was working in a high profile job.

That was in 1988.

It is no wonder that I am now the way I am, after such traumatic times, where I had to cope, with no support from ANY family.

Well, I did my best. My two kids have good jobs, but my health has suffered. It has just been to much to cope with.



Life can be a real bi!!!.

I apologize for my post, but this darkness is really getting me down.

We all have days like than hun, so don't you be apologising for how you feel. We can't be chipper and stiff upper lip all the time, not with some of the c r a p that life throws our way.

Sometimes you just have to go with the flow until you come out the other side....but you clearly have before, and you will again :grouphug:

jamanda

Parsonswife, you've had it rough and I hope things are better for you now. I sometimes look back and wonder how I coped with everything. I think I'm struggling a bit now, but looking back I'm glad I don't have to do it all again juggling kids, work, no money etc. Things are not so rough now when I really think about it.

bluebag

starsandmoon wrote: »

Thats whats great about this thread. If your having a tough time, want a moan or whatever you get loads of support. My marriage ended 3 years ago and I rented a flat and had 2 binbags of clothes and a telly:eek: Last year I managed to get back on the housing ladder (literally got paid to live in my area as its rough) and am buying a house and getting back on my feet and now my job looks dodgy. Lifes a battle isnt it?

Ive been preparing for winter with lined curtains etc etc and am quite OS due to living with my nan when I was little and she was very OS so Im sure Il cope. I used to be a hairdresser so could maybe retrain in that if I got stuck. I was rubbish though so god help any customers :rotfl:

I have had the same mobile hairdresser for 14 or so years, she does exactly what I want, not anything trendy, just a simple short cut and keeps the grey at bay.

She has enough work to earn a living and does a few old folks homes too, shampoo and set/perms.

I wonder if you re-trained, if the flexibility of being your own boss would help with the childcare situation, that is assuming the worst, you never know your job may be OK. Hoping so for you.

zarazara

A quick post to say many,many THANKYOU's to all who have offered such encouragement and advice on here and via pm's. None of you will realise just how much this support means to me and I am VERY grateful indeed. I'm off to early bed now. Goodnight and God Bless you all.