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clairewop

I have a disc out at he bottom of my spine which sits on the siatic nerve and irritates my hip if i do anything too strenuous. Theres nothing they can do about it, only the injections.

robsmum_2

Just put my very large, cream and lined patio curtains on the line, put the prop in and it broke!:eek:All this after I debated about washing them today or Thursday. I think the Universe decided it was Thursday.

clairewop

I've done 20 mins on the wii fit and it says I lost 2lb since yesteday hip hurting now

fantasia322

Craftyscholar wrote: »

While we are waiting for MG to report back can I bother you lot with a bit of a problem?

She is my oldest and closest friend.
We have been on holiday a few times over the years, recently had two very pleasant trips (UK) through her former work retirement group.
However when next year’s location was announced she said that she was not really bothered about going to that area and neither was I.
Plus, while we always get a good deal on the hotel, it’s not all that cheap (we probably have the lowest incomes of any of the party).
So I thought fine we are not going - now she is talking about getting further info as if it was always still under consideration!


OK I should know by this time that she can decide A then announce B and swear blind she never considered A (and on occasion switch back again), but I always fall for it as she sounds so convincing and committed.


Anyway this time I took her at her word and decided that although finance would be tight I would commit to my OU course.

So now I am faced with the prospect of telling her that I am not in a position to go. I know she would not go on her own so I would be doing her out of her holiday as well.


The other way round I know she would convince me that I had always wanted what she had decided, but I am already beating myself up and feeling guilty.


I must say, before anyone jumps on her, that she would do anything for anyone and I truly value her friendship (but that does not blind me to her weaknesses)

Trying to find the right words here to express what I mean but without being overbearing. Erm ok, here go's.
You friend is most likely the sweetest person in the world, and judging by your post, it sounds as though she is used to people going alongwith her suggestions, e.g. following her lead. it also sounds as though no one has ever taken her gently to task for the constant mind changing.
It would appear though that a pattern has been established, but if you constantly accept what she does and just go with the flow it 'enables' her to continue in this vein. My guess is that she does'nt even realise she does it.
She maybe just needs to have it explained that you understood from your last conversation, that this trip was not going ahead and at the moment you have other demands on your time and finances.
As others have said, perhaps you can do something else in lieu of this holiday.
You sound like an amazing friend to have craftyscholar, but perhaps this is the Universe telling you to put yourself and your own goals 1st for once, because if this lady is a real friend then she will understand.
I hope this has come across the right way. there is no offnce intended honestly:D

susan946

clairewop wrote: »

I have a disc out at he bottom of my spine which sits on the siatic nerve and irritates my hip if i do anything too strenuous. Theres nothing they can do about it, only the injections.

If this is a steroid injection, then I have had 3 of these. The procedure is done in the operating theatre. Once in the aneasthetic room they gave me a tranquilizer and then I was wheeled into the theatre. I remember 'sliding' on to the operating table, but nothing much after that.

The outcome was quite successful for a while, but unfortunately the symptoms returned and I had to go again, etc. Eventually I was prescribed amitrpityline - an old antidepressive drug that, in low doses, can relieve some types of pain. For me it revolutionised my life and I was able to glide into church for my daughter's wedding and do my 'mother of the bride thing' without limping. Sadly I now have more pain from spinal stenosis, and have to see the consultant again on Friday.

I would say that you have nothing to be concerned about and you could find life a bit easier after the treatment. It was a piece of cake for me.

If I'm on the wrong track please ignore all of the above!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Good luck

Sue

clairewop

susan946 wrote: »

If this is a steroid injection, then I have had 3 of these. The procedure is done in the operating theatre. Once in the aneasthetic room they gave me a tranquilizer and then I was wheeled into the theatre. I remember 'sliding' on to the operating table, but nothing much after that.

The outcome was quite successful for a while, but unfortunately the symptoms returned and I had to go again, etc. Eventually I was prescribed amitrpityline - an old antidepressive drug that, in low doses, can relieve some types of pain. For me it revolutionised my life and I was able to glide into church for my daughter's wedding and do my 'mother of the bride thing' without limping. Sadly I now have more pain from spinal stenosis, and have to see the consultant again on Friday.

I would say that you have nothing to be concerned about and you could find life a bit easier after the treatment. It was a piece of cake for me.

If I'm on the wrong track please ignore all of the above!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Good luck

Sue

apparantly I might have to have them every 6 months but if it helps me get stuff done without having to sit down every five minutes all the better thankyou for explaining.

clairewop

Right off to pick up the beads that the kitten has knocked off the table and maybe make a few bits

EssexHebridean

Sorry to hear about all the "poorlies" today - plus poorly OH's and curtains. Does seem that the universe is testing a bit today.

Claire - it'll be worth the horribleness of the injection to get some relief from the pain in your hip for a while, won't it.

Crafty - I concur heartily with what others have said re your friend - don't let this minor irritation slide, otherwise it WILL disrupt the friendship in time. I will probably regret for the rest of my life letting this situation develop with a very good friend of mine. We now no longer speak and I miss her an incredible amount. And no, before anyone says it, there is no way back at this stage, I am hopeful there may be in the future. Perhaps when you talk to her about it make reference to the situation in which you had the original conversation about the holiday - so something like "I thought when we discussed it at the coffee shop / when I was round at yours / when we were out shopping for your shoes for xx event, we agreed that we were going to give this one a miss as neither of us were too bothered about going to xx?" - that way you make it harder for her to make it appear that you have misunderstood.

MG - for goodness sake get back on here and put us out of our collective misery!

JoS1972

clairewop wrote: »

apparantly I might have to have them every 6 months but if it helps me get stuff done without having to sit down every five minutes all the better thankyou for explaining.

Claire I feel for you, I have a slipped disc which has trapped my sciatic nerve, currently I'm on so many painkillers/drugs that it's stupid, I'm just waiting to see what (if anything) they are going to do about it, my left leg has been numb for nearly 3 weeks now (had to have the paramedics out as back totally went and was paraylised on the floor for 2 hours :eek:, poor DD, 11 years old, was beside herself).

Good luck xx

scottishlass

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EssexHebridean wrote: »

Sorry to hear about all the "poorlies" today - plus poorly OH's and curtains. Does seem that the universe is testing a bit today.

Claire - it'll be worth the horribleness of the injection to get some relief from the pain in your hip for a while, won't it.

Crafty - I concur heartily with what others have said re your friend - don't let this minor irritation slide, otherwise it WILL disrupt the friendship in time. I will probably regret for the rest of my life letting this situation develop with a very good friend of mine. We now no longer speak and I miss her an incredible amount. And no, before anyone says it, there is no way back at this stage, I am hopeful there may be in the future. Perhaps when you talk to her about it make reference to the situation in which you had the original conversation about the holiday - so something like "I thought when we discussed it at the coffee shop / when I was round at yours / when we were out shopping for your shoes for xx event, we agreed that we were going to give this one a miss as neither of us were too bothered about going to xx?" - that way you make it harder for her to make it appear that you have misunderstood.

MG - for goodness sake get back on here and put us out of our collective misery!

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Totally agree with what EH has said...sending positive vibes to all hopefully when I log on later they'll be some good news from MG.