The Memorygirl Matrix

redsquirrel80

Hi Thrifty

I don't know how close you're talking but if the person is having such a bad effect on your life then I wouldn't feel guilty. I have as little contact as possible with one of my relatives because I simply can't deal with the negativity that she brings - unfortunately I still have to deal with the fall-out where it concerns other family members at times.

More "aargh" moments at work today.. deep breaths...

se999

thriftyscotslass wrote: »

There is one remaining person in my life who is toxic to me. Despite my very hardest efforts, this one person can send me into emotional tail-spins that I cannot climb out of. So this morning I've been thinking - what is the universe telling me? KISS: This person is damaging you - stay away from her completely.

The problem is this is a close family member - has anyone else been in this situation? It is getting to the point where I am going to cut ties and I really don't care what anyone thinks.

So what is holding me back? It is guilt - the old blood is thicker than water (is it really, truly?) and families should stick together (why? if it is not healthy for all concerned).

Thoughts and advice gratefully received, as always,
Thriftyxxx

We've been in the situation, and it isn't easy. You have to do what's right for you.

troglodyte

Claire I can send you (your son) some strawberry runners if you want to have another bash with those, we have reasonable results (although my DD eats most of them before they get to the house)

se999

Lara44 wrote: »

5. Reconnect with London - do some different fun things in the city, enjoy it more

Some ideas on London, firstly just spotted this on the BBC website, it definitely looks like fun:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-london-11647853

Have you been to see the 'Ceremony of the Keys' at the Tower of London, it's really special

Last time we were in London we went to TCKTS in Leicester Square, for the discount theatre tickets, and went with a 'long list' and basically saw a few different things we wouldn't have done. The highlight of the week was 'The Thirty Nine Steps'., we're back in London for a week in November, and might have to see it again

troglodyte

Talking of strokes, a friend of mine had one a couple of years ago, he was only 40 and an active person, worked for a conservation organisation in an outdoorsy job, now all that has changed in an instant. You never know what is around the corner.

fantasia322

I love the idea of eliminating toxic people along with all the negativity they bring. I have a sister (5 actually) that i have none or little contact with.
Long story shortened, we were jealous of each other as children, it grew, whatever I had she had to have. We had phases where we were very sisterly, but continuously point scoring blah blah.
2 years ago, she said she was diagnosed with ductal carcinoma insitu (we have a family history of female breast cancer and both go for yearly mamograms). My consultant suggested that I get tested for breast cancer gene, which basically meant that as sister was su[pposedy having weekly bloods done, it just meant me going to hospital with her to get a test done too. And she refused :huh::huh:.
Ok fair enough, not much I could do about that although I was hurt because I would have done it for her etc.,
She then decided to tell me that 25 years earlier when I was pregnant with my 2nd child, she slept with my then husband:eek::eek:.
Now he and I split and divorced in 1996, very amicably and he is still one of my best friends. So I just laughed it off and mentioned it to him jokingly. He sputtered and stuttered and said 'yes its true'.
It didnt make any difference after all that time (would have if I'd known at the time).
I just couldnt understand why after all that time, she had decided to unburden herself.
SO now I keep my dsitance, she is 25 minutes drive away but I dont visit or vice versa. Don't need the hassle.
I still am friends with ex though. Weird but I cant live my life competing with my sister, so its easier not to have contact.
It simply means that I have taken back the power.
I still don't see why people need to be like that, life is too short.

kavics17

My 50 day challenge:

1) Sell 50 items :eek:
2) Train 28 times (London marathon here I come)
3) Get Lloyds debt down to under £9500
4) Get all Xmas presents under £50 (that's 5 children and 6 adults)
5) Sort out WILL!!!
6) Sort out life insurance
7) Make a list what I need to buy on the sales at Xmas time
8) Reconnect with cousins
9) Book flights for February, Easter, May Bank holiday and book holiday for next June or September- for 4 flights for 2 people and one week holiday half board alltogether under £1000.
10) Lose 8 lbs to get down to 8st 8.
11) Chose the right charity I want to run London Marathon for and set up a justgiving page
12) Give up energy drink and chocolate bar addiction

All practical but a must!

clairewop

troglodyte wrote: »

Claire I can send you (your son) some strawberry runners if you want to have another bash with those, we have reasonable results (although my DD eats most of them before they get to the house)

Aww thankyou Yes Please, what do we do with them?? He won't have his greenhouse till xmas.

clairewop

Well I'm showered and dressed, but not much else sorted yet

So I'm going to pop off now and clean my newly painted living room livingroom I still can't beleive how much cleaner the walls look

Helen105

Craftyscholar wrote: »

50 Day Challenge

1. I will do 1 hour language study every day
2. I will finish at least three of my craft WIPs
3. I will do some exercise every day (not putting a figure on this as I intend to work through a programme I have which builds over time)

What language are you studying? I would really like to be able to speak another language fliently.