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tellmeitsfriday

MatyMoo wrote: »

I love that way of explaining it :rotfl:

And no, I wasn't very fond of what was left behind either......... But honestly? It is better than not having them there at all

Yeah you're right...

I'm sorry about your mum xx

I'll learn to appreciate her more while I still have her... the funny old thing

clairewop

tellmeitsfriday wrote: »

Yeah you're right...

I'm sorry about your mum xx

I'll learn to appreciate her more while I still have her... the funny old thing

I can relate to that, My dad was diagnosed with Cancer on the 1st Dec 2006, 7th of Dec 2006 he died, he just gave up , Today was one of the day'd I wish he was here, He would have come down and papered the wall for me And now I've got myself upset again I'm off to bed

Night

MrsMoo2U

My can you lot natter

TMIF - this isnt quite the same but I do understand your feelings of being a bad daughter (despite this being untrue) When both of my parents were diagnosed with cancer I found it very difficult to deal with, so avoided going to visit. What could be said. I discovered from both of those experiences that I am a practical person and I deal with things by being practical. Somebody (I did thank you) said perhaps you could do something practical. I started t go along with my Mum to see her consultant, not much but she really appreciated it. My Mum and Dad were divorced but very good friends, when my Dad was told that they could do no more for him and it was a matter of weeks, my Mum stopped talking to him, refused to answer the phone and would not visit, it broke his heart. I got angry with her and she said it was because she didnt know what to say to him. I relayed this to him and he said that he didnt want her to say anything but just to sit with him and be there would be enough. She never did that and regretted it later. You are being a fantastic daughter because, despite your grieving (and that is exactly what it is) you are going and doing things for them. I agree that you could speak to a counsellor, even a grief counsellor as I know from experience starting to grieve the loss of a parent before they have gone can be harder than grieving an unexpected loss.

OO - my OHs Mum has just been diagnosed with alzheimers, as Cheery says I think it has hit my OH quite hard and he misses his Mum.Thanks for mentioning the book I have looked it up and will be ordering when paid tomorrow. Knowledge is power.

Scottishlass, (MG) that post made me cry all over again.

Claire - (Sideways look and big tut). You, young lady, need to take care. You have time on your side to come off benefits, making yourself ill will only delay the process. Cheery is right be honest. I for one prefer honesty and if I had ordered from you and then got an email to update me with expected deliver times that would be ok by me.

Everybody else looking for help with self assurance, confidence etc. I suggest that you read back through your posts and see just how far you have come. Just recognising that you need to work on this is a big step and means that those opportunities will open themselves up to you. Just say YES! I do presentations all the time and I am always worried, stressed, nervous and the least confident just before. Preparation is the key. If you are prepared, know your audience and confident that you have learned and practiced the material then you will handle it. I always say I will get back to somebody if I dont know the answer (and make sure that I do). See my reply to Claire. People appreciate honesty.

Wow, sorry for the long post but thats my contribution for the day.

Marru

Challenge for today was to find somewhere to live and not to come back without keys to new place. I have failed

I have now applied for the property that should work for us but won't be ready before mid November (I should be able to move on the same day that MG has the Leeds seminar) and booked a storage space and hired a van. Now I just need to find somewhere to live temporarily. I was thinking of caravan parks with these permanent caravans. Does anybody know a good website for finding these before I start googling tomorrow?

Too much to catch up, my brain has switched itself off, better get some sleep as I have only one day left to pack all the contents of this house.

Helen105

Relaxing in bed with a cup of tea after covering the christening cake with marzipan. I'd made the marzipan earlier and then realised I'd forgotten to get any apricot jam for the glaze so nipped out to Asda to get some.
It was harder than I'd remembered to get a smooth finish on the marzipan. It's been a long time since I've done a traditional iced fruit cake. I remembered that the last time was about 18 years ago & my partner in crime then was my Mum. She died about 8 years ago but for a minute or two she could have been alive and full of life at the end of a telephone not as she was in the last year or two of life.
To OO & TMIF and anyone else in that horrible situation you have my sympathy.

Cheery_Daff

((((marru))))))) you poor thing No idea how to go about finding caravans, sorry I can't remember where you're moving to, we've got a friend looking for a tenant (short term is fine) but she's in Sheffield - any use to you? PM me if so! Otherwise, good luck xx

((((hugs to everyone tonight))))))) sounds like a few of us are in need of them xx

MatyMoo

Marru wrote: »

Challenge for today was to find somewhere to live and not to come back without keys to new place. I have failed

I have now applied for the property that should work for us but won't be ready before mid November (I should be able to move on the same day that MG has the Leeds seminar) and booked a storage space and hired a van. Now I just need to find somewhere to live temporarily. I was thinking of caravan parks with these permanent caravans. Does anybody know a good website for finding these before I start googling tomorrow?

Too much to catch up, my brain has switched itself off, better get some sleep as I have only one day left to pack all the contents of this house.

Sorry your plan failed today and don't have any useful suggestions, sending you hugs though

ETA Just googled Park Homes Midlands and got a fair few results but what about holiday lets too if it is only for a couple of weeks - may be some deals now the school holidays are over.

clairewop wrote: »

I can relate to that, My dad was diagnosed with Cancer on the 1st Dec 2006, 7th of Dec 2006 he died, he just gave up , Today was one of the day'd I wish he was here, He would have come down and papered the wall for me And now I've got myself upset again I'm off to bed

Night

Gosh Claire that was quick, doesn't give you a chance to get your head around it at all. I miss Mum most when I feel poorly or when I need her advice. But I have found over time that if I ask her what I should do I get a moment of clarity not long after. Another way the universe works? Possibly....

tellmeitsfriday wrote: »

Yeah you're right...

I'm sorry about your mum xx

I'll learn to appreciate her more while I still have her... the funny old thing

It's been four years but I miss her like it was yesterday. But I didn't always appreciate her when she was here sadly. One of her sayings was I always love you but I don't always like you. Very true and we all still say it at times.

She called herself the Old Bat :rotfl: Nice to hear you call your Mum a funny old thing

DedicatedDFW

Hi Everyone - I am not up to date on the thread so am going to try and catch up. Been absent with flu, work and started my own thread so can focus on financial / personal goals. Will post again later x

susan946

Marru wrote: »

Challenge for today was to find somewhere to live and not to come back without keys to new place. I have failed .

Tut, tut, tut Marru............We don't do failure!!!!!!!!!!!!

You have actually been really successful. You've eliminated the unsuitable options, found somewhere and applied for it - admittedly it doesn't quite fit your planned time line but if something's right it's worth waiting for. You also have a plan to move forward. Your next goal is to find a temporary place to stay.

All in all I'd say you've been pretty successful. The final part of the jigsaw will fall in place and all will be well.

Amethyst68

Morning all,

Second day of my course,Harm reduction,enjoyed yesterday very interseting.Rang and left a message for feed back for my interview,hope to have a call on Monday.

Have a good day.xx