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Cheery_Daff

Gosh not shred on here too, is there no escape?? :rotfl: :rotfl:

(seriously though, I got it - it works! Although you do actually have to *do* it, it doesn't work if you just look at the box while drinking a hot chocolate :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:)

TMIF, sounds like the speech therapist thinks there's hope for your mum, which is great! :j Also sounds like she'd benefit from some kind of work - would she able to work in a local charity shop perhaps?

Dashing off for a weekend away, just popped in for a dose of cheeriness and positivity before I left - must think about 50 day challenge while we're away :j :j

Karmacat

tellmeitsfriday wrote: »

Her stroke was right at the front in the middle of her brain, and apparently, that's the bit which converts thoughts into speech. So frustratingly for her, she understands everything you say, she knows how she wants to reply, but she can't get the words out!!!! It would be driving me beserk! She can write down what she wants to say, but the speech terrorist is determined that she won't do that!

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And, the pesky panic attacks. This is the hardest bit to deal with really, and has changed her so much... from the strong person she was before to the little old lady she's become. She's not that old - only 57, but she's more frail and withery than my gran who's 85 It stops her trying to do things and makes her more miserable. They've got her on anti-depressants (a major side effect of strokes apparently) and the panic could be a bad reaction to those... so back to the Dr.

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TMIF - I hope your trip today goes well. I had to laugh at the "speech terrorist" bit, not heard that one before

Really freaked at the thought your mum is only 57 tho - she's so young for this to have happened! And she's only a couple of years older than me when Taxi got cancer, we were talking about the need for critical illness cover, and I guess this reinforces it

Its a reminder to me that all life is fragile....

Mags30

Anybody got some free time to work on MG's spreadsheeet for Dublin because I haven't had time to do it. Not sure it's even ok to post this here but I can delete it again if necessary.

Lara44

Hello everyone

I am enjoying the start of some time off. My OH is coming here on Sunday for a week, so I will be taking a break from studies. I am so excited :T We are going on safari for 3 days - hopefully we will see some animals. It will be so good to see him, a real tonic. Otherwise = things are going well. I am nearly halfway. I have had such an excellent experience so far - lots of interesting information for my work, and a new resolve to live a little differently when I get home. The way of life in Kampala is so social, people give each other the gift of time and attention. It is inspiring after living in London for the last decade!

So for the 50 days challenge -

1. Make a conference poster next week for the 10th November (eek never done this kind of thing before)
2. Write a conference paper - deadline 25th November for a small student conference 9th December (general eek)
3. Finish fieldwork - got around 5 weeks left
4. Lose weight down to around 9st, just a few lbs off but I want to stay that weight through Christmas this time

Some more fun things -

5. Reconnect with London - do some different fun things in the city, enjoy it more
6. Try on some wedding dresses
7. Meet the wedding venue lady, and do the next set of arrangements
8. Do some more sport to try to find some exercise I enjoy
9. Do another budget as somehow we are off on bills by loads

se999

Well feeling grotty today, cold has landed, so sneezing, headachey and generall blurp

Anyway the one good thing is at least the capsule wardrobe is working

Today is straight black slim leg trousers (M&S) , black ankle boots (TKMaxx) with 2 to 3" heels (I'm nearly 5' 8", so the tall look), cream cotton/cashmere sleeveless top (Bicester outlet village), indigo (denim shade of blue) kimono style fine knit merino wool 3/4 length jacket/cardie (TKMaxx) and an ethnic style indigo and blue patterned scarf with pink embroidery and brown beads from Didi.nl.

Yesterday was basically the same, but a short sleeved black merino wool fine knit top (TKMaxx), gave a slightly longer look.

So the capsule wardrobe is working, and also with travelling it's standing up well to being handwashed in hotel washbasins, and drying on plastic hangers over the bath

How are other people getting on with theirs?

scottishlass

se999 wrote: »

Well feeling grotty today, cold has landed, so sneezing, headachey and generall blurp

Anyway the one good thing is at least the capsule wardrobe is working

Today is straight black slim leg trousers (M&S) , black ankle boots (TKMaxx) with 2 to 3" heels (I'm nearly 5' 8", so the tall look), cream cotton/cashmere sleeveless top (Bicester outlet village), indigo (denim shade of blue) kimono style fine knit merino wool 3/4 length jacket/cardie (TKMaxx) and an ethnic style indigo and blue patterned scarf with pink embroidery and brown beads from Didi.nl.

Yesterday was basically the same, but a short sleeved black merino wool fine knit top (TKMaxx), gave a slightly longer look.

So the capsule wardrobe is working, and also with travelling it's standing up well to being handwashed in hotel washbasins, and drying on plastic hangers over the bath

How are other people getting on with theirs?

Can I have your capsule please? With regards to the shred dvd I have heard it mentioned but wasn't to sure about it...it would now appear that my cheeky offer has been accepted (they didnt think it was cheeky - damn) and its been dropped of in a few hours so now need to go get some money.

se999

Scottishlass - the capsule wardrobe is definitely a work in progress.

What's emerging is for me the 'smart casual' it's going towards the classic french looks, just with odd accessories to lift it, like the outfit above. For jeans/casual it's the american look, of white leather 'tennis'/deck shoes or tan ankle boots, with smart jeans and classic american style shirts - a bit towards the Ralph Lauren/Tommy Hilfigger look.

Still needs some tweaking, and there are gaps. But as you can tell from where I'm buying, it's also looking for bargains so sticking to the mse ethos mainly.

thriftyscotslass

So been giving my 50 day challenge some thought and have come up with the following two areas:

1. Tell me about Shred - I'm 5'7"; 12.5stone - will my front room complete with glass fronted china display cabinet cope? I'm thinking elephant impact here :eek: - this is the only room where I could do the dvd.

2. Last year I successfully eliminated a person who was very toxic to me - the relief has been immeasurable.

There is one remaining person in my life who is toxic to me. Despite my very hardest efforts, this one person can send me into emotional tail-spins that I cannot climb out of. So this morning I've been thinking - what is the universe telling me? KISS: This person is damaging you - stay away from her completely.

The problem is this is a close family member - has anyone else been in this situation? It is getting to the point where I am going to cut ties and I really don't care what anyone thinks.

So what is holding me back? It is guilt - the old blood is thicker than water (is it really, truly?) and families should stick together (why? if it is not healthy for all concerned).

Thoughts and advice gratefully received, as always,
Thriftyxxx

clairewop

Good morning

Been lazy today didn't get up till 11 :eek: Well I got up at 4.30 1st time, 7.30 second time and had to go back to bed cause I was feeling very sick and shaky. (that will teach me to take painkillers at 4.30 without eating :eek: ) I'm feeling better now I have eaten

Today I'm going to concentrate on the website I think, If I can get good enough pictures (the natural light isn't that good)

And have a general Tidy and de-clutter (was naughty and ordered new furniture for the living room ) A lovely unit with drawers that will fit between my settees and a coffee table Now the boys have grown up and I don't look after children no more there is now room for one . So the corner between the settee's need sorting in the next few days ready for the new stuff

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psychopathbabble

thriftyscotslass wrote: »

So been giving my 50 day challenge some thought and have come up with the following two areas:

1. Tell me about Shred - I'm 5'7"; 12.5stone - will my front room complete with glass fronted china display cabinet cope? I'm thinking elephant impact here :eek: - this is the only room where I could do the dvd.

2. Last year I successfully eliminated a person who was very toxic to me - the relief has been immeasurable.

There is one remaining person in my life who is toxic to me. Despite my very hardest efforts, this one person can send me into emotional tail-spins that I cannot climb out of. So this morning I've been thinking - what is the universe telling me? KISS: This person is damaging you - stay away from her completely.

The problem is this is a close family member - has anyone else been in this situation? It is getting to the point where I am going to cut ties and I really don't care what anyone thinks.

So what is holding me back? It is guilt - the old blood is thicker than water (is it really, truly?) and families should stick together (why? if it is not healthy for all concerned).

Thoughts and advice gratefully received, as always,
Thriftyxxx

Not sure if it's a similar situation but I have no contact with my biological mother, I moved out when I was 19 and cut all contact by the end of that year. That was 2004, I haven't seen her since although I finally accepted her friend request on facebook. I don't talk to her when she messages me except to acknowledge information about family members (my aunt has recently been diagnosed with widespread terminal cancer). This is the best way for me as she is incredibly toxic for me, and I have changed quite a lot in the past 5 years. I still have a bit of a temper but nowhere near as bad as I was and my life is a lot more peaceful and predictable, instead of the turbulent, unpredictable life I grew up with.

To be honest, the best she ever did for me was to be the person I don't ever want to be. I guess in that respect she did me a favour.

So, don't feel guilty about need to cut a family member out of your life. You need to do what is best for you, not always easy but healthier in the long run. xxxx