Macgirl's "I Can Do Anything....If I Put My Mind to it" Diary

Karmacat

What KM said! I used to wonder a lot about this sort of reaction, but nowadays I think its simply the way some children learn the boundaries of the self ... as to why some children choose that way rather than the peaceful way your older DD has ... don't know, sorry! High creativity? Placement within the family? Who knows .... basic thing is, what KM said

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MrsMoo2U

I have a friend who says that had she had her daughter first she would never have had anymore children.
My parents always said that I was opinionated, outspoken, argumentative and generally hard to handle as a child. In the end my Dad chanelled it by debating EVERYTHING with me.He says that he learned that by questioning me back and talking to me like an adult was the only way to shut me up I was the second daughter. Maybe that has something to do with it as KC says. Oh and my parents always said that I made a liar out of them when I was out of the house. I was always the best behaved kid at parties,I am and always have been very shy in public. I say that I just had opinions and had a right to voice them and where better than at home!!!!

macgirl

Hi KC and Cheri and thanks for your input

It may well be where she is in the pecking order, but she is not one for debating (more "It's my way or the highway" :cool:) and won't use 3 words where one will do.
We've tried channelling her forcefulness/aggression into sport but she gives up (adamantly) easily. We'll see....

Sometimes I think she gets cross with me because she doesn't see me enough. I rush off in a morning and by the time I collect her from After School Club, we're both tired and I'm trying to make dinner as quickly as I can I'm sure things will improve, I'm always trying a different approach and sadly couldn't give up work even if I wanted to!

Hope everyone's had a good day. Mine was busy but productive, got lots done at work and felt quite invigorated. Was going to go for a run tonight, but by the time I can go it'll be too dark and quiet and I don't want to miss out on the kids, so I'll do Pilates instead

sashybo

Oh mac - funnily enough my sister (the 2nd daughter) was always a lot more headstrong and "my way or the highway". She still is to some extent but has always been very funny and loving when she wanted to be. To be fair we are both stubborn as mules but she is the worst! She absolutely will not do anything she doesn't want to do.

I was a very well behaved child (eldest) and my mum said everything was always easier with me. My sister always seemed to feel that she was in competition with me for attention and that I was "loved more" because I was naturally quite docile and happy to do as I was told (most of the time). She always called it middle-child syndrome although she wasn't actually a middle child until she was six and she had always been a stubborn mule. :rotfl:

I think that she is very similar to my mum in a lot of ways which led to them clashing a bit more than I did with my mum. You sound like you're very patient with little DD so keep up the good work. :beer:

macgirl

Thanks Sashy :A

Keeping_Motivated

Kids eh your damned if you do and damned if you don't. There are days when I sooo look forward to seeing mine and then the minute I see her I give her a huge smile and she says 'get off me' as I go to give her a cuddle :eek: or she starts asking for food the minute I clap eyes on her I think ggrr whens bed time but on the flip side I get the most amazing cuddles some days that it makes it all worth while Kids :cool:

If you think little DD misses you do you think one to one time rewards would motivate her? ie if she gets 4/5 stickers through the week she gets 2 hours one to one mummy time at the weekend while dad looks after oldest DD?

macgirl

Yes, that's a good idea - I'll do that, thanks KM

My friend said he went to the shop with his DD (13) and put his arm round her shoulder on the way out and she shouted "Get off me you Peado!!!" How Awful :eek::rotfl:

Keeping_Motivated

macgirl wrote: »

My friend said he went to the shop with his DD (13) and put his arm round her shoulder on the way out and she shouted "Get off me you Peado!!!" How Awful :eek::rotfl:

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gilligansyle

Wot they all said ^^^

Better that she's a 'house horror/street angel' than the other way round. Yet she can probably be wonderful in other ways, she is just pushing the boundaries, she sees her sister being nice, but that just isn't her way.

Keep up the good work.

macgirl

Thanks for your support Gill. Most days are ok, but when she's bad she's really really bad and yesterday was just one of those days.
Better go, she's just hugging/strangling me

Back later after pilates :A