The Giving Up/Cutting Down Alcohol Support Thread - Numero 9!

MotherT

:TShaggydoo Just had to de-lurk to congratulate you on your achievement, that would be my ideal scenario!

I am on day 24 AF, log my days and how much I've saved in my diary, and realized that I have been AF for 11 out of the past 12 weeks (just the weeks holiday got in the way!)

Feel like I could go for the 100day challenge but started a day late so would be 99 for me!

Good luck everyone, stay strong.

Txx

Marru

Declaring 9 please Shaggy

honeybear_2

Hello me darlings

Been a bit strange over round Bear Towers; I have genuinely been out & about doing lots of stuff in the real world (inclduing meeting Cheery Daff :j) & I have joined Twitter (sadly v.addicted already ), so have been busy one way or another.

Equally, I have a couple of friends with health issues that I'm worried about & part of my worry is that neither of them eat well at all. One of them was previously hospitalised for food problems years ago. Now, neither of their issues now are food related but neither of them are as well as they could be due to lack of eating or thinking crisps are a food group! Sorry, I know you lot can't fix it, guess I just needed to get that out of my system

So, anyway, I feel I'm carrying a lot of worry atm. On top of that, I have stuff weighing on my mind & cos they both have problems I don't feel/want to go to them with my stuff so I'm carrying it on my own. I know that's not healthy but god, at times, it's just so much easier

My wine drinking is also really off the scale. I am overweight & missing my cheekbones. Think I'm looking at [STRIKE]a couple of weeks[/STRIKE], [STRIKE]a week[/STRIKE], several days sober (today already a write-off). Thinking maybe I could look it as less of a detox more of a cheekbone & waistline finding expedition? :rotfl: (nothing changes, always joke when unhappy!)

DecemberBaby_2

Hi HB,

Sorry you are feeling down. I'm feeling much the same about the lack of cheekbones and waistline and that's another good reason to add to the hundred other reasons cutting down drinking!

Good luck this week with it. You obviously care a great deal about your friends but everyone has problems and sometimes people don't mind chatting about someone else's for a change.

Take care ((()))

DB x

Sending a PM

ETA: Shaggy that's fantastic - well done you

honeybear_2

Thanks, DB

SimIsOnTheUp

Hi Ladies and Gents,

Hope you're all ok.

After nearly 3 weeks sober, I ended up drinking for 3 days solid last Wed, Thurs and Friday.

Got through £400 +

Am at the end of my tether.

Life has been lonely, pointless and empty for the last 10+ years.

Can not see a way out

Sim xx

Puzzcat

A few unhappy peeps over here today... is that allowed on a sunday...? I thought Monday's were reserved for days.....

Hey HB are you going to join in Pen's weekday challenge...? assuming Pen's running it again and will allow me in as I keep abandoning thursdays...!!!!!

Hope you all have a nice evening planned.. if nothing else its the first boot off on x factor...!!!

Have a good one, whatever your doing...:)

gien

Sim, big, big, hugs for you. you seem to be stuck in a cycle of being sober for a few weeks, feeling great, positive, organising your life. then you wobble a bit, cancel a few appointments.....then bang, bender, massive self sabotage, blow a load of cash.....come out at the end full of remorse and self loathing.

that must be truly exhausting.

the question I would ask myself (have asked myself) is 'what is so frightening about the change I am going through that makes self sabotage and three days drinking seem like a good way of avoiding it?'

I am really glad to see you back here, keep posting.

Myself , well, I have to 'fess up. this weekend I have had four social functions (this is not at all usual, honestly). on Friday night I drank nothing at all, twice, last night I had a glass of champagne (it was a birthday party), tonight I have had a glass of red wine (aperitif with friends). interestingly, this afternoon I noticed that my guests ( I was host) drank very little, but got ever so slightly drunk - clearly not used to it, last night and Friday everyone was drinking like fishes, it got a little silly.

So I have failed the 100 day challenge.

I have drunk like a 'normal' person drinks, one drink to be sociable, and then stopped. I can feel though that there is a lure to drink more, not so strong that I would go ahead, but just a little finger beckoning. i am being very vigilant.
to be honest, I have such bad hangovers and have so enjoyed waking up feeling fine, that I am very wary of drinking more.



But, I'm still up for a 98 day challenge! so I shall be abck on the wagon tomorrow.

Off to watch a recorded version of SCD now.

honeybear_2

Sim, I wanted to say something like Gien said, who put it so much better than I could right now. Good luck, mate - this is a big tough thing, seek & get help wherever you can that works for you *hugs*

Gien, enjoy SCD

Puzz, (is that name ok?) thanks for mentioning the challenge, think I will see how tomorrow goes before I decide anything. I know that's a bit cop-out ish, I just am working stuff out in my head before I commit to anything out loud or in type

budget_babe

:wave:Hi Guys,

I need to be very quick, as its the X Factor results show and I too haven't picked my favorite .......................

Just wanted to say that I have been af all weekend

Whch in turn means that I have gotten through alot more things this weekend

Ms Honey B, you don't have to tell me sweetheart about the missing cheekbones and being overweight. I have gained 2 stone :eek: its since I stopped my gym membership to save money all that hard work............ Re: your friends, I can understand your concerns but as DB says you cannot worry about everyone, (I know what thats like ) Be kind to yourself and above all be happy Btw your debt is going down, down, down :T really well done and I am so pleased you are getting out alot more, but twitter Hugs (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Btw my Ds did get his offer accepted :j I shall be visiting soon me thinks

DB Hugs sweetheart and I have pmd you (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Sim matey I don't know what to say, your are clearly upset with yourself and I can only send you a hug (()) and to say: don't stop trying mate one day things will be better. (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxx

365 hope the grumpies leave you soon, big hugs and thankyou for all the support you give on here. (()) xxxxxxxxxxx

Gien, Pen, Puzz, Marru, Maman, Sos, Random and anyone else about tonight,all of you hugs and take care (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Special hugs to you all (())xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Budgie's gone its time for the resultssssssssssssssssssss :j
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