The Giving Up/Cutting Down Alcohol Support Thread - Numero 9!

SimIsOnTheUp

Think I forgot to say on here -

About 10 days back, my Water Board Trust Fund agreed to clear my Water debt - nearly £250.

One less debt to worry about

I also cleared my BT debt of just under £50, and have stopped using my BT line virtually altogether (apart from a few 0845 calls recently to the flippin' DWP - why can't they have an 0800 number?!).

Have now switched mobile to PAYG on GiffGaff which is saving me a fortune (£7.50 for 2 months of free calls and texts).

GreyPilgrim

GreyPilgrims coast to coast charity ride thing update.

Wow. Best ever thing I've done. Ever. Fantastic. Awesome. Want to do it all again. Sore bum.

Raised about £800 for a local charity hospice / research centre. Have some pics / vids to hand which I'll post in a bit.

DecemberBaby_2

Aah yes Sim that must be it!

1 for me please Shaggy.

Had a good evening practising for a do tomorrow night

Night all,

DB x

clarabell13

Trasijocha wrote: »

Confession: I`m not AF tonight, hubby gone fishing to France for a week and although initially I thought yahoo peace and quiet !! now I`ve had the peace and quiet for a bit, i kinda want the noise and chaos back that comes with the Alf Garnet type character he is. Both me and the dog are on the blob so both feeling sorry for ourselves and just listened to all the best of Dean Martin so feeling double romantic wanting to jet away to Napoli.........oh hum its only a small blip, its gona be back to normal tomorrow being fully aware that its not a very good start to the month.

Me too Trasi. Feeling very cross with myself now for letting all that effort go to waste I'm going to try and draw a line under it and go for an AF day tomorrow. Fancy joining me?

graemecarter

Sea78 wrote: »

hi all

just a post to say ARGHHHHHHHHHH

I've been sober now for 16 months and it's crazy, but recently I've been wondering whether I'm actually an alcoholic, or whether it was just a really crazy bad time in my life that made me hit the bottle in the way I did.

So really confused at the mo

xxx

Alcoholism is a patient sniper. When you put your guard down, it will take a shot. It will wait many years for that shot.
If you want to know about drinking and feelings, go to a meeting and talk to the experts. Remember that it only works if you work it. People who don't go to meetings anymore frequently go drinking again, and they start where they left off. So for you that would be :

Well, I've now hit rock bottom. I'd managed 2 weeks without drinking during the week and was feeling positive, but then a series of absolute nightmares happened yesterday and I got beyond smashed.
I don't remember much - but it involved people coming to my rescue and helping with the kids.
I could lose my job about the fact they saw me in this state and no doubt was swearing and stuff
This has all been told to me today. Other stuff happened, but it really pales into insignificance.
I'm scared. I'm scared of losing my job. I'm scared of losing my kids. I'm just scared.

So that's your drinking.

Now your recovery is slightly different:

Been continuing going to AA meetings and haven't had a drink now since 2nd June. Not that I've not wanted one, but AA has helped me beyond belief. I have been so surprised at it, what with the stigma it holds for some and also some aspects of the programme that refer to god, but I've found that it's just not like that and is utterly fabulous!!

I've not drunk now for nearly 5 months - been going to AA meetings regularly and have now started working the 12 step programme. I know it's not for everyone to give up completely, but that was the only way for me.
My life is still pretty unmanageable though - things really hard at the mo. Work has improved beyond belief and in that respect the not drinking has helped beyond measure. I am struggling being a single parent though so am off to the family board to get some inspiration and that.

I've looking for a bit of help at the moment. I've been a single parent since Christmas and had a bad alcohol problem too - that's sorted now - been going to AA for 5 months nearly and therefore it's not a problem in my life now.

The not drinking has been easier as time goes on. I'm an active member in AA now and that has helped so much - couldn't have done it without it!! Work has improved 10 fold, directly due, I believe, to me not drinking. The house is still a challenge, but hey, aren't all domestic chores?!? It's much better than it was! My mum has been coming over as much as she can and she's helped loads with the house too

I too am thinking about quitting fags but was told in no uncertain termsnot to even think about it atfirst when giving up the booze! Excited here as it's nearly 6 months sober, one day at a time. Never would have thought it possible!! OFf to AA meeting today as I'm off work and looking forward to it!

It seems to me that you were happier not drinking, than when you were drinking.
If you want to drink, I am sure that there is nothing any one can say or do to stop you. However, I am sure you owe it to yourself and your kids to think very seriously before drinking again.
I know women at meetings who have not seen their children for years due to their active alcoholism. Now they are sober, they are trying to build the relationships again, but that is a slow process.

Whatever you decide, good luck.

Wanna_Bee_Free

clarabell13 wrote: »

Me too Trasi. Feeling very cross with myself now for letting all that effort go to waste

Me three Trasi. Although not much effort going on in my neck of the woods. I managed not to over do it at the pub work leaving do on Thursday, unlike many others. All the losing my job stress has come back in the middle of the night. This ain't no way to set myself up for a good CV polishing and sending out day tomorrow. And I'm sure that if I'd have drunk less wine then I could have had a good night's sleep instead of catching up on here. Which I've enjoyed actually. Ahh, well. I am where I am.

Hope you're all enjoying a great night's sleep.

shaggydoo

Morning All :hello:

1 AFD for me in the bag.




Shaggy

shaggydoo

Re Wanting to drink after a long period of abstinence.

I totally get this - not so much about the drink - but I haven't smoked for years. And mostly I never think about it these days but every now and again I just think I'd love to start smoking again!

These thoughts usually come into my head when I'm stressed, thinking about my weight or just generally wishing I was younger!

Usually, I tell myself they would taste horrible after all this time, cost a fortune, make me feel carp and I move on.

But after all this time these feelings still come to me. Crazy.

shaggydoo

September:-


= 7 days AF

:j = target achieved

Cazza 19/TF

DB 7/15

Diable 20/30

Fay 25/TF

Gien 19/TF

Happyshopper 21/20 :j

HB 6/TF

Jo 8/TF

Maman 13/10 :j

Marru 29/30

Miss P 16/30

Mookiepook 5/29

NRA 7/28

Randomname 16/15 :j

SianneLaz 5/AF

SOS 23/24

Shaggy 29/17 :j:D

Shoppy 7/25

SSG 7/25

Trasij 24/25

Yellow Monkey 22/TF

115K 9/TF


PLEASE PUT YOUR AFDs IN A BOLD RED FONT

shaggydoo

October:-


= 7 days AF

:j = target achieved

Cazza TF

Clarabell /20

DB 1/15

Diable /20

Fay TF

Gien /31

Happyshopper /15

HB 7

Jo 1/TF

Maman //13

Marru 1/31

Penelopedee /16

PosieFlump /20

Puzzcat /15

Shaggy 1/17

Trasij /23

Wanna Bee Free /16

Yellow Monkey 1/TF

115K /TF


PLEASE PUT YOUR AFDs IN A BOLD RED FONT