The Giving Up/Cutting Down Alcohol Support Thread - Numero 9!

DecemberBaby_2

shaggydoo wrote: »

That's horrible DB!:(

Thanks Shaggy. Still no word.

Thanks for scoring for September and October too! :A

Hope you are all ok tonight. Aiming for an AF night here.

DB x

Marru

Feeling better today, trying not to get myself all stressed out. Going to see a house tomorrow

Day no 1 done please Shaggy and thank you so much for sterning scoring job :T

365days

Sim
'I haven't felt happy in years though, and I've always drank on that.

Do any of you guys drink on the loneliness / just to feel happier?'

Yep. Didn't work though.

'More than that I don't have a wife and family.. This made me pretty low.'

Are you in the right place to have a healthy marriage at the moment? Braver to be single and sort yourself out than trying to find a relationship to sort it out for you IMO.

'I think that, in a nutshell, even though I'm now 2 weeks sober - probably BECAUSE I'm now sober ('cos I can now see things as they really are), I just can't see any purpose for me being around in this life'

Maybe it's because your 'life' at the moment isn't so great.
When you get the life you want you will definitely see a purpose for being there.

'Have any of you ever felt the same? If so, how did you overcome it? ' Yes i've felt the same still not sure how to overcome it but I now don't block my feelings good or bad out with alcohol.


'Should be happy.'


Says who? Wise person once told me that calm is the opposite of depression not happiness.



DS back from his residentail with a suitcase of mud!! Kittens eyes opening. Telly's turned black and white-can see a very unwanted at this time of year purchase coming up!

Marru

Ok Sim here is a challenge for you:

I am aiming now for the next 31 days to be double AF. With this I mean that I won't drink and also that every day I will Achieve something (even if it just folding clean washing away) and every day I will do something Fun.

Day 1:
- my A will be: doing the washing up
- my F will be: watching SCD with a cup of decaf tea

Why not do something like that yourself?

Trasijocha

Confession: I`m not AF tonight, hubby gone fishing to France for a week and although initially I thought yahoo peace and quiet !! now I`ve had the peace and quiet for a bit, i kinda want the noise and chaos back that comes with the Alf Garnet type character he is. Both me and the dog are on the blob so both feeling sorry for ourselves and just listened to all the best of Dean Martin so feeling double romantic wanting to jet away to Napoli.........oh hum its only a small blip, its gona be back to normal tomorrow being fully aware that its not a very good start to the month.

jo1972

1 for me thanks Shaggy xx

yellowmonkey

1 for me please Shaggy

SimIsOnTheUp

Hiya 365days,

Hope you're enjoying your evening with your son.

I like what you say about 'calm, not happiness, being the opposite of depression'. Spot on.

365days wrote: »

Sim
'I haven't felt happy in years though, and I've always drank on that.

Do any of you guys drink on the loneliness / just to feel happier?'

Yep. Didn't work though.

'More than that I don't have a wife and family.. This made me pretty low.'

Are you in the right place to have a healthy marriage at the moment? Braver to be single and sort yourself out than trying to find a relationship to sort it out for you IMO.

'I think that, in a nutshell, even though I'm now 2 weeks sober - probably BECAUSE I'm now sober ('cos I can now see things as they really are), I just can't see any purpose for me being around in this life'

Maybe it's because your 'life' at the moment isn't so great.
When you get the life you want you will definitely see a purpose for being there.

'Have any of you ever felt the same? If so, how did you overcome it? ' Yes i've felt the same still not sure how to overcome it but I now don't block my feelings good or bad out with alcohol.


'Should be happy.'


Says who? Wise person once told me that calm is the opposite of depression not happiness.



DS back from his residentail with a suitcase of mud!! Kittens eyes opening. Telly's turned black and white-can see a very unwanted at this time of year purchase coming up!

SimIsOnTheUp

Marru wrote: »

Ok Sim here is a challenge for you:

I am aiming now for the next 31 days to be double AF. With this I mean that I won't drink and also that every day I will Achieve something (even if it just folding clean washing away) and every day I will do something Fun.

Day 1:
- my A will be: doing the washing up
- my F will be: watching SCD with a cup of decaf tea

Why not do something like that yourself?

Hiya Marru,

I like it.

But, what is 'SCD'?! :cool:

My A was that I rearranged my spare room / office, and got two job applications off this evening :T

My F was that I'm now playing on my Mac and eating potato wedges and barbecue sauce (a freebie from Domino's Pizza yesterday that they owed me!) with a cold glass of 7UP.. I am quite tempted to call Perfect Pizza and order a pizza (just a small, cheap one!), but am more tempted by their Ben & Jerry's chocolate ice cream :rotfl:

It's a good plan Marru.

Often, I've found it hard to even take time out to have 'fun'. Sort of as if I didn't deserve it.. All tied in with the self - esteem / depression I think.

We need to as you say, achieve something on a daily basis, AND have fun on a daily basis too :T

Cheers,

Sim x

SimIsOnTheUp

Aah - Strictly Come Dancing?!