The Giving Up/Cutting Down Alcohol Support Thread - Numero 9!

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Morning all,

1 for January please Shaggy.

Pen can I put my name down for the Mon - Thursday challenge please....1 for last night.

No time to read back right now but hope everyone's doing ok.

JJ X

lotti379

Miss P make sure the bike is on its lowest resistance! (unless you want to prove a point and make it super-hard.. maybe have it on the lowest for you and whack it up for the OH?! he he he :rotfl:)

(And yes, I did see the biggest loser last night... didn't mean to watch it just got sucked in while cooking a late supper... It is more than a bit scary! I mean, why exactly does one get to 27st and then think the best way to get rid of some excess weight is to go on TV? Crazy in my opinion.)

Anyway, another evening down! So up to 8/28

maman

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

Piglet fine today after his jabs yesterday, bless him. Very chirpy. Especially at 6.30 this morning when he bounced all over me. Lovely:rotfl:

OH has challenged me to something. Did anyone see Biggest Loser last night?? Incredibly scary programme, certainly would NOT want to be on that regime, seems very unhealthy. Anyway, one of the challenges was that each couple had to cycle a marathon between them, non stop (i.e 13 miles each). OH reckons its easy and I reckon its quite hard. So we're going to give it a go tonight :rotfl:. He's dragging the exercise bike in later. Must be out of our tiny minds!:rotfl:
xx

I thought the marathon didn't sound too bad until I realised you were planning to do it all in one night:eek: I think you're mad! Brisk walking is about my limit when it comes to exercise:o So pleased to hear that piglet is unscathed from his jabs, what a brave little man:)

flimsier wrote: »

Tonight, one of the boys (and his OH) have a new flat in Bethnal Green, so I'm going there with housewarming presents - and I'm driving (I never drink when driving), so I figure that will (assuming I don't drink when I get home tonight at about midnight) make me 7/11 - a third of the way there but just slightly more than a third of the way through the month.

Getting home and not having a couple of cans of lager or a bottle of wine is actually more of a challenge than it sounds though.

Sadly I think you meant 7/21 I've done the 'I can't waste an AF night this late' thing too. I also find that visualising how lovely a hot cup of tea will be when I get in helps. If I come straight in and put the kettle on and then perhaps take the cup to bed with a book or away from where the booze is works too. I love the idea of hiding the booze so that you feel the shame if you go and dig it out. Any chance you've got a shed/store far away from your home?:D


Good luck jo.

Trasijocha

Hi everyone, Just a quick drop in to see how you all doing, must go now as I`m supposed to be working.

Although I do need advice on how to deal with stroppy teenagers.
My 16 year old girl calls me stupid and pathetic and tells me to grow up when all I`m trying to do is get her to get moving so she doesnt miss the school bus. I keep telling myself that its teenagers and thats what they do but the thing that bugs me is that I would never ever had called my mum names, yes I threw strops and banged doors etc but I never called her names, it just hurts so bad when my daughter does, it just makes me feel so c**p and upset.

Anyway on a better note 10 AF DAYS FOR ME PLEASE SHAGGY.

flimsier

Wanna_Bee_Free wrote: »

Morning all,

Flimsier, can you take the cans and bottle out of the fridge so they're warm? Or hide them somewhere so that you will have time to think about whether you really want to after getting through so much of the evening. If I put it behind the sofa or something I would have to laugh at myself getting it out which might make me think twice. BTW not saying I actually have this sussed or anything, just a suggestion. I used to persuade myself not to 'waste' a drinking day if it was late when I could start as I'd only have time for one or two before bed. I really am not sure that being good in that mindset is 'good' though.

On the "wasting a drinking day" thing; I'm more than capable of having a couple of bottles of wine and going to bed at 2am or 3am (and then getting up at 6am) - I don't feel good about it, but it being late doesn't stop me drinking.

All the alcohol is actually in the garage - but that does keep it cold!

I'll do it though.

flimsier

maman wrote: »

Sadly I think you meant 7/21 I've done the 'I can't waste an AF night this late' thing too. I also find that visualising how lovely a hot cup of tea will be when I get in helps. If I come straight in and put the kettle on and then perhaps take the cup to bed with a book or away from where the booze is works too. I love the idea of hiding the booze so that you feel the shame if you go and dig it out. Any chance you've got a shed/store far away from your home?:D


Good luck jo.

No, I mean if I don't drink tonight I will have been AF 7 days out of 11 so far in January. Good idea about the tea!

Which is 7/21 on the way to the target, but I was looking at it a different way.

It would put me "on pace for" 20 AF days over the month. So I need to do a little better than that to meet target.

daisychain35

graemecarter wrote: »

I don't know if smoking or drinking were 'habits' for me.
I know I was addicted to nicotine, and I am alcoholic.
A habit for me is marmite on toast everyday, or the same seat on the tube every morning.
I can stop these 'habits'.
Most people on here cannot stop drinking, even though many want to. This is more than a habit. I couldn't stop drinking either (or I couldn't stay stopped). I had to change myself. As a result, my habits have changed, but that has been in response to me changing, not the other way around.

I am addicted to nicotine. I have become dependant on alcohol- which is why I am seeing it as a 'habit'.
Not saying I could ever give up- because I don't feel like I could. And also I'm not commenting on others situation. This is how it is for me. I'm clearly not addicted to it- because i have got through the last 8 days without- hence being so pleased. I knew I had to change the 'habit'. My friends don't actually know how bad it had become and how much I was drinking- so I tell them I'm changing my habit.

Marru

Trasijocha wrote: »

My 16 year old girl calls me stupid and pathetic and tells me to grow up when all I`m trying to do is get her to get moving so she doesnt miss the school bus. I keep telling myself that its teenagers and thats what they do but the thing that bugs me is that I would never ever had called my mum names, yes I threw strops and banged doors etc but I never called her names, it just hurts so bad when my daughter does, it just makes me feel so c**p and upset.

Is it possible to let her miss the bus and walk? And I don't think I could resist temptation to remind her about the name calling next time she needs a favour from you. Or is there a punishment you can inflict her for that? Like doing washing up for a week for every time she talks like that to you. Or take mobile off or some other suitable threat/punishment.

maman

Trasijocha wrote: »

Hi everyone, Just a quick drop in to see how you all doing, must go now as I`m supposed to be working.

Although I do need advice on how to deal with stroppy teenagers.
My 16 year old girl calls me stupid and pathetic and tells me to grow up when all I`m trying to do is get her to get moving so she doesnt miss the school bus. I keep telling myself that its teenagers and thats what they do but the thing that bugs me is that I would never ever had called my mum names, yes I threw strops and banged doors etc but I never called her names, it just hurts so bad when my daughter does, it just makes me feel so c**p and upset.

Anyway on a better note 10 AF DAYS FOR ME PLEASE SHAGGY.

:grouphug:

Sending you this because it sounds like you need it. What I can tell you is that (having two girls myself, now grown up) there will be light at the end of the tunnel and it will pass eventually. I don't know if your DD is just like that in the morning because that can be a teenage thing. There's a school round here that was experimenting with a sort of 'flexi-time' for school hours because they recognised that many teenagers are not good early in the day. All that being said, sulking and being short temprered is one thing but I would draw the line at name calling. I know there's a tendency not to want to rock the boat when they're in an 'up' mood but you do need to talk to her about where you draw the line. No doubt all her friends speak to their parents like that and they're cool with it(;)) but you must stick to the standards you expect. She'll thank you in the long term.

It's enough to drive you to drink:rotfl: