Is it too soon?

shegirl

hethmar wrote: »

I do hope this isnt another wind up

That's what I thought when I first read it!

kjmtidea

hethmar wrote: »

I do hope this isnt another wind up

I was kind of hoping that it was, poor kitty

dizziblonde

Until you actually manage to figure out HOW the kitten ended up in the washing machine (you didn't know where it was, you THINK it might have been in the quilt - you basically weren't paying any attention to the animal at all) - no I don't think you should get another pet at all. You posted wanting the softly softly pat that you did the right thing - sorry but no, you didn't have a clue where that poor animal was... and you want us to tell you to get another one?! (And don't even TRY the emotional blackmail about your children to get us to tell you it's all ok to get another one)

It was an accident - but it was an avoidable accident and I don't think you've learnt anything from it at all. However I've got the strong suspicion you're down a pet shop right now getting another little kitten anyway... hell if you can't keep an eye on it - get an adult cat or are they not fluffy and cute enough for you?

Teach your kids animals don't matter, they're infinitely replaceable if you wave some money around, there'll be a new one along in a day... seriously sickening.

My cat's disabled, she's an adult and unlikely to get into a washer... I still check I know WHERE she is before I close the door on it.

nikki702

Samhuzz sorry about your kitten

You and your family are clearly upset and some of the comments on here are uncalled for.

If you and your family feel ready for another kitten then go for it

What a sad thing to happen! :A

dizziblonde

nikki702 wrote: »

Samhuzz sorry about your kitten

You and your family are clearly upset and some of the comments on here are uncalled for.

If you and your family feel ready for another kitten then go for it

What a sad thing to happen! :A

Why are the comments uncalled for? By her own negligence she killed one innocent animal... and she wants to replace it a couple of days later. It's a sentient being - not a toaster!

Disgusting - especially the "oh drip drip drip I need to buy another one for my children they're so upset" garbage - they wouldn't be upset if you'd actually supervised it so it didn't end up dying in agony in the first place.

No I'm not telling you it's ok to buy another one until you learn how to look after an animal.

penguingirl

I'm really sorry to hear about your kitten. We got kittens when we were 11 and I will never forget before school coming downstairs to find my mum hysterical in the kitchen and the washing machine draining and my kitten no where to be seen with the other one running to the machine constantly. Fortunately as we all stood in the kitchen in shock/ tears my dad heard a miaow and discovered that the cat had fallen into the flip top bin (she'd obviously stood on it and fallen through). Luckily ours had a happy ending, but my mum still frequently talks about how awful she felt when she'd put the cat in the washing machine... the reason I'm saying this is because the cat could have quite easily have been in the machine. It didn't make my mum a bad person- probably just demonstrated how busy she was with a job, husband, 3 kids, 2 cats etc. and since that incident all her children have made it into their twenties and both cats are both still alive and well.

I'm sure the OP has learnt the hard way how cats get everywhere. Personally I would wait a good few months before getting another cat as it does seem a bit soon and kids do need to learn how to grieve.

notakid

I think people are being very harsh.

I can't imagine how sam is feeling. It was an accident.

My cats too, try and get in the tumble dryer, I worry that one day I won't check before switching it on.

Regarding getting another pet, its horses for courses, Sam clearly is an animal lover who has successfully looked after over animals. If she wishes to replace her pet its up to her. I've just had my much loved rescue Lab (aged 15 years) put down, he died in my arms, at home. If I could get another dog like him tomorrow I would. And don't anyone dare say I loved him any less because of that urge. The need to love and care for something does not mean replacement.

samhuzz

Thanks everyone for the kind words on this thread. You've really restored my faith in how kind people on MSE, and people in general can be. To the rest though, I sincerely hope that for whatever reason you are not in a similar situation as I was in Saturday night, whether you are to blame or not. It is the worst thing that has ever happened to me. I certainly didn't post on her to get "oh dear, poor you", I wanted to get an impartial view on whether I ought to get a new kitten, not immediately, but in the future. The only person/pet I feel sorry for is Benji, I let him down and I won't ever get over that, nothing I can do will change that fact. I wake up every day thinking that it was a bad dream and didn't really happen, but of course it did and I can't take that back no matter how much crying I do.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

I'd leave it, as it does almost seem to suggest 'never mind, one's dead, let's get another one and it'll be alright'. You'd probably be racked with guilt and unable to enjoy the new kitten because of it as well.

I live in a two bedroom flat, my 3 have never been out (but they will soon as I'm moving to a house with a nice little enclosed garden this month ), and sometimes I can realise last thing at night 'Where the $&%* has Mog 1/Mog 2/Mog 3 got to?'

This sets off a chain of events which usually culminates in the cat I am imagining to have fallen out of a closed window/dropped dead under the bed is found at the very last minute, blinking and swaying slightly because they've been having a lovely sleep in some remote corner that I still haven't found after 12 years, whilst I am on the point of collapse, dreading what has happened to them.

Personally, I load my washing machine in one go straight from the linen bin, then stick my hand in to check it's not overloaded. If one of them got in (they'd have to get in right in front of my eyes though), I would most likely find them. It might be coincidence, might be instinct, but apparently 'my' cat when I was 3 used to sleep in the washing machine, so I may have subconsciously remembered you have to check it.

The fact that the cat treats are right next to where the washing machine is, means that the cats are usually waiting behind my feet to make sure they don't miss a chance in any case.

If you feel as bad as I think you do, don't let anyone persuade you that you'll feel better if you get a replacement. If nothing else, it lets the family know that it is a big deal and they may learn how important it is to you.

EmptyPockets

notakid wrote: »

I've just had my much loved rescue Lab (aged 15 years) put down, he died in my arms, at home. If I could get another dog like him tomorrow I would. And don't anyone dare say I loved him any less because of that urge. The need to love and care for something does not mean replacement.

I'm really sorry to hear about your dog, notakid - I know how it feels to lose a dearly-loved pet and my thoughts are with you xxx