MSE Parents Club Part 14

workinmummy

hammyhunter wrote: »

:j I hope last night was good too

It was:j

He woke twice but no crying just decided to play with his alfie bear toy "i'm a happy alfie bear i'll teach you 123" so i left him to it. Can hear him waking up now.

Hugs to poorly Hammy and David and for an exhausted Bruno.

ladybirdintheuk

Morning all

Gill - yay for flexible hours (and your super business case writing skills

AF- we were looking for nurseries, not cm, but i think it was about 3 months before I went back to work.

Sami we had a gift list at http://www.thegiftlistcompany.com/ for our wedding.

Michelle - Izzy was 8 months when she started nursery, so not quite so tiny, but she was fine.She used to cry a little bit when I dropped her off but I knew she was trying her luck, because when I got round to the main door she was fine.

beccles, I hope you are feeling a bit better today .

ladybirdintheuk

Bruno, we did controlled crying with Izzy in her bed - we had a stairdgate, and just kept putting her back into bed until she was too tired to bother getting out, and just moaned from there until she dropped off.

BrunoM

So LB, you did go in and physically put her back in bed? How long did you give her each time?

got-it-spend-it

Bruno- obviously H is a lot younger, but what previously he needed resettling 5-6 times an evening and what worked for us is just resettling him in bed rather than picking him up for a cuddle. I didn't really have the heart for much real CC, but we just lie him back down and rub his back until he calms down. Through this he often doesn't need resettling at all now, or does just once.

Hugs for poorly Hammy and David, I hope you're both better soon.

:j or sleep WM.

:mad: at mosquitoes SS.

:mad: at DH MDW!

weezl74

BrunoM wrote: »

Gaaaah sorry to rant so early. Just very tired when I hoped to catch up, horrible visions of FIL's stay, horrible horrible visions of situation when number 2 born potentially as soon as 2 months away or even sooner...

:grouphug: awwww bruno have a hug.


As I read about E wanting lots of affection in the nights, I was wondering whether he's getting a bit less physical affection in the day perhaps as your DW is feeling more tired and encumbered? And maybe trying to 'top-up' his affection banks when you are around?

This is probably not useful but it popped into my head as I read it and so I thought I'd post.

You must be unspeakably tired. :coffee:Have a coffee.

edit: Hugs too for MDW xxx

ladybirdintheuk

Bruono I was going back, doing what I needed to do to get her to calm down (depening on how upset she was either a cuddle, or some milk), put her back into bed, then leg-it! For the first night I could hear her climbing out of bed as I did the stairgate shut (I pulled the door to as well) then tried to leg it into the living room with the door adjar before she got to the gate. After the first night she very rarely bothered to get out of bed. I still have to go in sometimes to resettle her once, but never more than that now. (Well not unless she is poorly)

At night time she started sleeping through when I stopped BF, and it only took 3 nights before she got the hang. I don't know if maybe you stopped giving him what he wants (cuddling?) when he wakes in the night that would help.

You would have to be very strong (and patient!) - I think it is a case of remembering who is in charge and not giving in!

aless02

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

You would have to be very strong (and patient!) - I think it is a case of remembering who is in charge and not giving in!

I think this is most important point. At E's age, it's becoming a power struggle and he can sense it. Also, just know that it WILL be hard, there WILL be tears from both sides but that it's for everyone's good. Remember you're helping learn how to sleep independently, a vital development skill, NOT abandoning him or similar emotions. The longer you leave it, the worse it will get and harder it will be change it.

I think it's possible in 5 nights, definitely. It takes most people 3-4. The first is the hardest, the 2nd is better, the 3rd often sees a small relapse and the 4th is where it really clicks in. If you start tonight, you'll have the advantage of it being the weekend. And once it's all over and you're getting a full night's sleep, you will be so happy you stuck with it.

TBH, Bruno, you're just going to have to man up a bit and stop giving in to him. :o:o (for lack of better phrase!)

(I think the key for E's age is not giving him the contact he's seeking, resettle with no speaking and only minimal touch. Don't engage. Very Supernanny.)

aless02

Oh and hugs for MDW...that's really awful of your DH do to that without discussing it first. I'd be furious!

SS, kill that mossie!!

eta: Happy Birthday, Jillie!

jillie1974

Morning....
not fully caught up yet.

Had a lovely anniversary yesterday and got 2 lovely presents from Kian and DH for my birthday today.
Off out in a while with PIL and niece and Kian, so wont be on much today