MSE Parents Club Part 14

Sarah_Joanne

Aww poor Benjamin Hope he's ok

tiamai_d

som, I have an antillop and tray upstairs! If you lived closer lol

gill_81uk

Somnium wrote: »

Would you believe it still no further getting the leak fixed, can feel a snotty email coming on! No flooding while we were out tho. Ikea trip was a bust as completely sold out of Antilop highchairs grrr and no fruit/veg play sets either so that was that decision made.

I know it's not much help now....but for future trips if you go onto the ikea website you can check the stock at your desired store. it gives you an estimate of how many they should have based on current stock levels and how many they expect to sell.

Millie's_Mum

Sarah_Joanne wrote: »

:beer: How were you with getting up for school this morning? I got DH to get Alfie up and give him a carton of formula this morning cos I needed the sleep! Also, can you believe, Alfie woke up screaming at 4am! Bl00dy typical!

Sods law, they've a sixth sense, Millies afterschool club was cancelled after I planned to do something whilst she was there.

I was OK surprisingly this morning, just tired, I said I was going to have a nap when El did but I didn't do it in the end.

Did you see earlier I posted the surname we couldn't remember?

ETA Becky Its ok we don't hate dentists on here, Weezls husband is a dentist.

gill_81uk

I need some advice people - It's some time away but it's playing on my mind

My cousin's wife has had 3 miscarriages that I'm aware of after ttc since their wedding 4.5 years ago. One of them was around the time I was pregnant with T so I suspect it would have been due at a similar time. She's 4 years older than me. We haven't seen them since T was born but they're coming to his Christening. I was just wondering with how I should play it wrt taking T over to see them, asking if she wants to cuddle him etc. I'm fortunate enough never to have been in her position so I can't really understand how she would feel. T will be 6 months by then so not a tiny baby which I'm hoping may make things easier. I do't want to be insensitive but I also dont want to treat her differently to anyone else. We're not close but get on very well iykwim. I don't know if it will be an issue or if I'm making more of it because I feel so guilty.

Can anyone who has been in this position or who has a friend in this position give me any advice about how you/they would want to be treated?

ETA she didn't get pregnant for over 3 years then had 3 miscarriages within about 9 months, all of them around the 5-8 week mark

Sarah_Joanne

MM yes I did see that, I think it's the same person!!

Gill, not been in that position myself but if I were I would act as if she were just the same as everyone else. It may well be hard for her but I think the best way to make it easier for her is for her to feel as though she is treated exactly the same as everyone else rather than "the poor lady who's had 3 miscarriages". Not that I think you'd be like like that but you know what I mean!

angelcake71

gill_81uk wrote: »

I need some advice people - It's some time away but it's playing on my mind

My cousin's wife has had 3 miscarriages that I'm aware of after ttc since their wedding 4.5 years ago. One of them was around the time I was pregnant with T so I suspect it would have been due at a similar time. She's 4 years older than me. We haven't seen them since T was born but they're coming to his Christening. I was just wondering with how I should play it wrt taking T over to see them, asking if she wants to cuddle him etc. I'm fortunate enough never to have been in her position so I can't really understand how she would feel. T will be 6 months by then so not a tiny baby which I'm hoping may make things easier. I do't want to be insensitive but I also dont want to treat her differently to anyone else. We're not close but get on very well iykwim. I don't know if it will be an issue or if I'm making more of it because I feel so guilty.

Can anyone who has been in this position or who has a friend in this position give me any advice about how you/they would want to be treated?

Aww thats really sad..:(.. I think if it was me I would like to be treated normally.. as you would treat any other friend or relative.. show her that you care.. but without going overboard.. she may feel more upset if you dont offer up your baby for a cuddle. Give her a warm hug..ask how she is.. and see how things go..and take it from there.. I think when you see her you will be able to go with your gut instict about what to do.. x

beckyandjack

gill, i had 2 mc's in quick succession last year (aug and oct) after trying for the previous year and my sil was pregnant and due the day after my 1st would of been. I did find it really hard with her being pregnant and was prob a bit distant from her the first 20 weeks of her pg, couldn't bring myself to look at scan pics etc. Strangely enough one of my work friends had her baby in the october and i was absolutely fine with the baby but just not with pregnant people (am a weirdo). I would of felt worse had she not told me about having her or inviting me over for baby cuddles.

so i would say just treat her like everyone else or she might feel singled out and worse iyswim, prob not making much sense, too tired....

pinkpig08

MFD - poor Benjamin Hope he's better soon

EA - I hope she's better tomorrow - it's frustrating when you know what they need but they don't seem to!

gill - I would rather be treated normally, don't go overboard to include or exclude IYSWIM? Don't worry - it'll just flow!

gill_81uk

Thanks guys - that's pretty much what I was thinking, but didn't want to be insensitive. It's good to have some reassurance. I just keep hoping and praying that she does get a sticky bean soon. They would make fabulous parents and it just seems so unfair