Buffy's Adventures at the Post Office......

LouiseJ

Oi Bird where are you hiding?

Hope you are OK xx

beanielou

Hope you are ok too xx
Happy weekend

chevalier

Hi buffy
hope that this week hasn't been so bad. It is kind of weird seeing you all talking about going back to work, when we still have until the beginning of february as school summer holidays!

Buffy just hang on mate. You are soooo close now. Remember you can spend your next christmas with your US sister if you don't sabotage yourself this year.

Remember you can fly lady your school work til 15 min intervals and all that. It never ceases to amaze me how much one can get done in 15 minutes, when you know there is a pinger at the end of the time period allowing you to relax.....

chev

Shoe_Gal

Hi Buffy - hope you're Ok?

Good ideas from Chev :A

Buffythedebtslayer

Hi ladies,
Thank you all for being so lovely xxxx

Work was ok, I had to work a lot in the evenings and banned myself from here so I could get stuff done. I haven't been hugely with it to be honest. The week is a bit of a blur. I saw the ex in the week too, which in hindsight was probably a mistake, I had a great time, it really cheered me up but I know he hasn't changed I don't know what the !!!! I am doing there. I don't feel well, think it might be the flu.

Moneywise I haven't spent much. Out tonight and in fact have to pop out this afternoon, so best get on

Love Buffyxx

Buffythedebtslayer

Just rolled in, have headache but to be honest that could be the cocktails. Paid 400 pounds off tescos. am SKINT. but its the way forward as I absolutely want to be debt free. It is something I feel I can actually achieve - unlike weight loss or getting a boyfriend. I do earn enough money. I have to be motivated to lose weight and seem to be in a cycle of failure - as above I don't feel "it" will work. I cannot visualise myself as slim, however I can see myself as debt free......currently the loan stands at 3794.09 and the CC is around 550.

drunken honest moment- I think to be frank the only plus I can see to losing weight is confidence with men........and yes the ex- don't get me wrong he clearly thinks I look great but I would feel stronger(?) if I was happy with my body. so many hang ups! and yes, I am sick of feeling like it..........glimmer of a light bulb moment? So many things in my life have felt like groundhog day in the last few years but bit by bit you realise that they are changing or actually always have been changing, I know last year with the walking I was happy and felt better. I shall find something else like that.

best go to bed now.

xxxx

hypno06

What you write, buffy, makes perfect sense - and is where I was coming from too.......

I couldn't control much in so many ways (previously), but I could take control of the debt - it is the main reason my totals came down in the way that they did, because I could see the benefits easier than I could with weight etc.

And this year, losing the weight just happened (ok, yes, the starting point was not eating after OH left, which is not the best way of doing it) but since July, so 6 months now, my weight has remained at the same level, and with no effort - I eat, drink and exercise what I want when I want to with no stressing, and my weight stays stable......and the reason is because I now feel I am in control of that, of life, of whatever......which I certainly wasn't able to control before.

And yes, the confidence that it has brought is amazing - ok, I still don't have a queue of guys at the door ready to whisk me off my feet, but honestly little by little the layers of low self esteem in that area are being peeled away, and in turn, that all helps to make me feel good enough to keep the weight off.

It is all a bit of a cycle really - but I can see exactly where you are coming from and can relate to it soooo much!

Keep going hun, you are doing brilliantly!

macgirl

Makes sense to me too. Last year whether I wanted to admit it aloud or not, we desperately needed to move house and with or without debts - that was my goal.
I flim-flammed saying I would lose weight, but as you say - if your heart's not in it, it won't happen. And it didn't. I ended the year the same weight as I started - that's despite training for and running a half marathon!

One thing at a time is all I can focus on too - and debt freedom this year would be a pretty major achievement for you. Once that goal has been met, then you will look around for another. For me this year, that *is* losing weight. I really want it now, I am motivated for health reasons and it seems to be working so far.

You *are* doing brilliantly x

Shoe_Gal

I agree with the one focus at a time theory - I think we all only have a certain amount of motivation and there is only enough to throw at one thing at a time

Buffythedebtslayer

Thanks ladies, glad to know I am not the only one, That saying, that everything happens when it should or something I can't remember it properly, thats how I feel.

I think re weight loss, I need a gimmick, I had the walk with me thing on my DS but that got a bit too restricting and to be honest flipping patronising. I know its nuts to get annoyed with a computer game but some days I just couldn't walk working from 8 to 8 having dinner and then going for a walk its just not safe round here! and then it would be target failed or I set the target stupidly low so I wouldn't fail but if I could get a decent walk in it would be recorded (which sort of worked) and I liked the idea of a record. my perfectionism wants that and wants not to have any red days............(for perfectionism read lazy and CBA)

Any how we have an exercise bike and a mountain bike and a neighbour who can fix up bikes, so I thinking about doing the exercise bike thing, I had a very little go this morning (had to dig out from underneath various items.....) and burnt 30 calories so working on the basis that you need to burn 3500 calories to burn off a pound of fat I shall work out exercise including walking on my short working days to burn 500 calories a day.....

I think this website is going to be helpful http://www.healthstatus.com/cgi-bin/calc/calculator.cgi

I am not going to worry about what I eat, I run around so much between work and at work I am afraid chocolate is the answer! Plus I don't do all the shopping and get so hungry so often that cutting stuff out just causes problems.

Right i am off to do stuff.

xxxx