Trying for a Baby Part Six

euronorris

QQuaver wrote: »

:rotfl: I have older sister and a younger one, so it wasn't a big deal:D
She wanted to leave it to fate. If it wasn't to be then that's it.
I feel the same way, but after few IVFs:D
If it isn't meant to be it's not. Adoption then:o

This is mine:http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/286900

Oh yes, she never even POAS on hpts as her AF was never late:o

Oh, I have 2 older sisters and quite a few aunts and great aunts. Gawd, she was on the phone for hours! lol

I'm not such a big believer in 'leaving' things to fate. I think fate plays a part, but life also throws you opportunities and ways to improve things, and I think that is part of fate too, IYKWIM. So definitely try IVF if that is what you want.

I've wondered about IVF, and would I do it if we were unable to conceive naturally, but I'm not sure. It is quite a gruelling process, and I understand there is a lot involved (daily jabs etc) and hormones going crazy etc. I don't know if I could cope with it. Then again, I may be wanting to try anything at that point and simply put up with the side effects.

But adoption is always an option for us too. I double checked with OH that he'd be willing to adopt if pregnancy didn't happen for us and he is on board too. Phew!

Thanks for the linky.

She was never late? So, she had a clockwork 28 day cycle, and was never late. Perhaps there is a problem with her hubby's little dudes? Did she never want to adopt either? I know not everyone likes the idea.

QQuaver

RebekahR wrote: »

Last night in bed he said he doesn't like March and wants a baby in April May or June ... I don't wanna wait til July!!!

I think it may have been some banana milk - forgot was open over a week :eek:

July!:shocked: Perhaps the next baby:D

Banana milk? I see why you drank it:o
Didn't it taste funny?

euronorris wrote: »

I've wondered about IVF, and would I do it if we were unable to conceive naturally, but I'm not sure. It is quite a gruelling process, and I understand there is a lot involved (daily jabs etc) and hormones going crazy etc. I don't know if I could cope with it. Then again, I may be wanting to try anything at that point and simply put up with the side effects.

It'll be good practise for labour and pg hormones:p
I was always open to IVF/adoption since I was in my teens:cool:

She was never late? So, she had a clockwork 28 day cycle, and was never late. Perhaps there is a problem with her hubby's little dudes?

Don't know. Never checked I suppose.

Did she never want to adopt either? I know not everyone likes the idea.

She left everything to fate, so it never occurred to her I suppose.
She's pushing for me to have IVF for some reason:huh:

euronorris

QQuaver wrote: »

July!:shocked: Perhaps the next baby:D

Banana milk? I see why you drank it:o
Didn't it taste funny?

It'll be good practise for labour and pg hormones:p
I was always open to IVF/adoption since I was in my teens:cool:
Don't know. Never checked I suppose.
She left everything to fate, so it never occurred to her I suppose.
She's pushing for me to have IVF for some reason:huh:

Haha, that's true! Those hormones will come into play one way or another!

Now isn't that strange. Pushing you to have IVF when she left it all to fate herself. Mmmm, maybe she regrets that decision and doesn't want you to make the same mistake? Or maybe it's just because she knows how much you want this, so she's trying to push you in the direction of a solution.

I signed up to the site. Interestingly, I remembered I felt, ahem, very randy late last week and over the weekend too. I'm pretty sure I ovulated then, when I combine that symptom with the sore nips and lower tum pains. I felt too rough to do anything about it though! lol. But I remember it only because I never used to notice anything like that whilst on the pill, so it took me by surprise how strong it was.

I wish it was the end of the year already. I really want to get started and I really, really want a baby. And now I don't want to go back on any type of pill (the reduction in headaches and migraines is VERY noticeable!). OH hates condoms *rolls eyes*, so that means no intercourse unless I use something else! And the only other options are more long term than I would like, I think (injection, implant etc).

mrs_dave

Defo all over for me boooooooo !!

However I was talking to a obs consultant today (I needed to show her something on the computer) who I whispered to that we were trying. The first thing she said to me was (pointing to head) that I need to be happy there before anything can happen!! Which more or less was almost exactly what the midwife told me a couple of weeks ago! She was soooo lovely and if I do fall lucky would be under her care. I'm thinking about trying one of those Clear Blue Monitor thingys but how bloody expensive are they ???? :eek::eek:

Jen151

Thank you Euro & QQ where would i be without you! :kisses3:

deborahmcgeachy

Evening all,

For all of those who can remeber Madbird I've spoken to her recently she's having a baby boy which I'm so chuffed to let you all know about and also she wanted to say this!!

"I don't like to post in TTC as don't want to feel rubbing anyones nose in it so to speak. But if you want to pass on a message to say still thinking of you all and wishing you all quick BFPs then would be good!"

She's 1 of our older graduates and is still in awe of the fact that bubs in on the way!!! :happyhear

must_try_harder_2

QQuaver wrote: »

Must try harder, are you sure you ov'd? I'd BD once more just incase:j

I told DH this and he now thinks the people on this thread are trying to make the world a better place by encouraging everyone to have more sex.

I honestly have no idea if/when I ovulate. My monitor and OPKs seem to think so but my temps suggest not. They did a blood test at the docs when I fist went which said I was ovulating but not when and that was only one month anyway.

Thanks deborah, I'm so glad madbird and her bump are doing well

mrs_dave wrote: »

Defo all over for me boooooooo !!

However I was talking to a obs consultant today (I needed to show her something on the computer) who I whispered to that we were trying. The first thing she said to me was (pointing to head) that I need to be happy there before anything can happen!! Which more or less was almost exactly what the midwife told me a couple of weeks ago! She was soooo lovely and if I do fall lucky would be under her care. I'm thinking about trying one of those Clear Blue Monitor thingys but how bloody expensive are they ???? :eek::eek:

Sorry
I bought my CBFM second hand, and you can sell it on afterwards so in real terms it costs very little.

BB1984

RebekahR wrote: »

I think it may have been some banana milk - forgot was open over a week :eek:

:eek: A few weeks ago I had some banana icecream latish in the evening, then woke up in the early hours to be violently sick, every hour, for about 6 hours! I'm not sure if it was the icecream that made me ill, but I haven't had any (of any flavour!) since as the thought of it now makes me feel _pale_

euronorris wrote: »

I think fate plays a part, but life also throws you opportunities and ways to improve things, and I think that is part of fate too, IYKWIM.

I heard a story/fable recently that is kinda relevant - it's about religion/god, but applies to fate as well. Something along these lines:

A very religious family were caught in a severe flood - the water rose up around their home, and they were forced to clamber up on the roof. They prayed to god to save them, as the waters rose. Some rescuers came and threw lifebelts to them, but the family said No, we are in god's hands - it is his will if we live or die. Then some firemen came in a boat and told them to jump in, but again, they kept praying. Then a police helicopter hovered overhead as the water lapped around them, and a rope came down...but once again they said that if it was god's will to let them live, they would. The water kept rising, and the whole family sadly drowned. When they reached heaven, they met god and asked him why he had not saved them - they were good devout people after all. He said "I sent people to rescue you three times, and each time you refused to accept my help. That is why you died".

So like euronorris says, we are dealt cards and it is up to us how we choose to play them!

euronorris wrote: »

I wish it was the end of the year already. I really want to get started and I really, really want a baby. And now I don't want to go back on any type of pill (the reduction in headaches and migraines is VERY noticeable!). OH hates condoms *rolls eyes*, so that means no intercourse unless I use something else! And the only other options are more long term than I would like, I think (injection, implant etc).

Sorry I can't remember - is there a particular reason why you have to wait? I'm sure that OH would soon get used to condoms if he had no other option! I def wouldn't start taking anything chemical again... You can get those really thin/sensitive condoms, would he give those a try? Or you could try the rhythm method?


Well, my DH is FINALLY home :j
I left work at lunchtime so that I could come home and see him (and have a cheeky welcome home BD!)
It's so nice to have him back.

Now, I have a question for you experts out there...on my FF calendar, it's telling me that I'm fertile all this week, with predicted ov on sunday despite my not having had a period....what's that all about?

BB

Wonder_Womble

Thanks for your comments QQ. I knew I could rely on you to reply :cool: I'm trying to keep my PMA up but I've been there before with the whole fertility specialist thing with my ex .... I know it's different with my OH but I just want us to be pg. He is doing everything he can and is being so supportive and positive. I could cry because he is so fab about it.

I think it was Euro who asked about divulging all ttc / ov info to OHs, and tbh I've found that it is best to not be to detailed. I let my OH know when I expect to be ov'ing, once AF has arrived, then remind him when the time is near. At first I gave him all the details of opks and the such like and it was too full on for him and made him feel pressured. He just needs the pertinent information, and not all the detail.

QQuaver wrote: »

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She left everything to fate, so it never occurred to her I suppose.
She's pushing for me to have IVF for some reason:huh:

QQ I think you may have mentioned her before. I think that maybe she is wishing she had explored other avenues rather than leaving it to fate, and doesn't want you to make the same mistake as her.

Wonder_Womble

QQuaver wrote: »

That's a great advice Euro:cool:

I remember one conversation I had with a work colleague who is in her mid 40s, been TTC since her 20s but no luck. She knows I had mc, and my ttc without luck and am having IUIs etc.

Me: '#&%$! Period has started, have to phone the clinic and get an appt for next scan'
She: 'Will they say congratulations?'
Me: Pause. 'They only say that if you are pg, anything other than that is more like condolences:p'
She: Puzzled look.
Me: 'Having a period means baby making did not work'
She: 'Oh I see, mum used to say congrats whenever I had my period'
Me: zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Having had a little chat, she didn't know there was a 24hr window for ov, or there's such a thing as ewcm or opks. She has a text book 28day cycle though so never temped. She's given up on babies but I don't know:think:

Just reading this and I am wondering whether she knows you also have to DTD to conceive, or was she leaving that to fate too?