Trying for a Baby Part Six

bigzippy

fannyanna wrote: »

Just out of curiousity (and hopefully it's ok to post this here rather than on the new waiting to TTC thread) what did you all do in preperation to TTC (if any)?

Anyway just curious - although understand if people don't want to share.

My prep was mostly (apart from getting wed first, which is obv a personal preference) financial and medical.

Financially: DH brought a LOT of debt into the marriage. He co-owned the house he lived in before we got wed with his mum, who was too ill to either be able to afford it alone, or stay there on her own once he was married. We managed to get her into sheltered accommodation, did up the house, and managed to sell it. All that took a year. (And it was a very depressing Waiting to TTC year, I can tell you.) Once the house was sold we used the proceeds to pay off the majority of our debts, only leaving one, which instead of paying off straight away, we used the money to buy our car (small 4yr old MPV family car -hopefully it'll see us into the "family" stage of our lives) outright. The loan repayments are quite low and there's only 2.5yrs left on it anyway.

I also started a spreadsheet of the kinds of things I thought we'd need, and started/continued saving money for this. I'd also put by odds and ends that people have been offering in the garage for 'when the time comes', but since finding out about the PCOS I've stopped doing this tbh.

Medically: I have a LOT of conditions, which I was "managing" with medication and lifestyle. I needed to come off 99% of the medication (including the pill, which masked the PCOS I didn't know I had) to be safe for growing a baby, and as I was on so many and at the doses I was at, this took a good few months to do. I also made steps to get into clinics that specialise in my conditions, and try and get the relevant help I would need to both live without my medication while TTC, and preg, but also help me through pregnancy and beyond - such as, for example, physio (very unstable joints, it's likely that I'll have some dislocations if not throughout pregnancy then at the birth (unless I have a C), ) and a referral for OT help (Occupational Therapist - they are the ones that work with Social Services to see what adaptations and aids could be available to help you manage your conditions and independence) who I've now seen and have put some things in place for me.

Once I found out about the PCOS, I got all the tests for accompanying issues (like the Impaired Glucose Tolerance) done, and have been put on Metformin to help with this and have gone on a diet (I can't exercise cos of my other conditions, unfortunately ) and lost a stone so far. Also started on folic acid. Asked GP about taking supplements and he basically didn't hold stock in owt else. I do take multivits and acidophilous when I remember/have some in/manage to get to them before DH though.

Obviously all this had to be done with the assistance and supervision of my doctor(s), and I it's all ongoing too, but at least I can feel like I've done/am doing what I need to/can do. That's all anyone can ask I guess...?

:shocked: That was long and wordy! Sorry, I think it might've got waffly! You did ask though

sexymouse wrote: »

Haven't had any BD tonight so far (may do later) as I came home from work really tired, with a headache, and sneezing - I think it may be hayfever, so I'm going to take an antihistamine in a minute. Oh, just had a thought, does anyone know if antihistamines are safe to take when you're TTC?

I asked my GP, and he looked up the specific one I've been prescribed, so it's probably best to ask either the GP who prescribed it or the pharmacy who dispensed them?


I've been to the hospital with my sis today for her pre-op utrasound scan. I was in agony with my kidneys and bladder, my IBS was sounding alarm bells (so I daren't eat anything til I got home), and daren't drink incase I needed a wee (cos of the UTI lark) on the way/way back... and then had to sit in the waiting room on the maternity ward, not only surrounded by pregnant ladies, but also one of the ladies (about 10ft from us) had a monitor on, which was (loudly) sounding out the babies heartbeat...for the entire time I was there....45minutes worth of waiting! I'm obviously glad there was a good strong heartbeat, but it got a bit ridiculous/upsetting having to listen to it for soooo long.

It was a relief to get home... 'Til I saw more birth announcements on fb from old school friends. For some reason, knowing they're my age, I've known them for the last 15yrs, and they're (usually not married - which isn't a big deal to me, until I get the "it's not fair, I did it the 'right' way round and I'm still waiting" feeling) there with their perfect little bundles... One of them is rather modelesque and photogenic too and had some really nice (and classy) bump shots done (black and white, lovely nursery shots, in their own home, the works) too, and I was turning a rather nasty shade of green. I end up having to "hide" the person from my wall feed once I find out about their joyous news. And then I feel horrible. And then unhide it. And then my mood tanks again. And if I do manage to keep them on, I end up hiding them when their baby is born and all the newborn shots are published...


Does anyone else get unreasonable fits of (almost) rage when someone else "nicks" their chosen name? Like, I daydream about what name I like - well me and OH do together, and then I don't get pregnant but someone else does, and out of the blue, they've called their kid one of our favourite names... even though we've never mentioned them outloud, I still feel gyped!! I know it's irrational. But it still pees me off that I've not managed to pop one out first and stamp it's name, so no-one else can nick it :rotfl:

I guess someone else having the same name you like would be a compliment to some people though...not me :rotfl: I just feel aggrieved! :rotfl:And once they've used that name, it tarnishes it for me too I actually have dreams sometimes, where I've had a baby and I'm so paralysed by indecision over what to call it cos I don't want to get it "wrong" and change my mind after all the legal stuff's gone through and people have had it announced to them...! I'm a fruitloop

QQuaver

mishkanorman wrote: »

I realise medical advise is a no, im after personal experiences really

Your symptoms sounds like a severe case of PMS (((hugs))). Don't have any suggestions but hope you'll get pg really soon:o

fannyanna wrote: »

I really am loving my fake pregnancy symptoms - NOT :mad:

I use to have those, it seems to stop when I do a hpt and get BFN:D
That's how one tells if it was a real symptom or not:p
(((Hugs))) though:o

Alwaysthebusybee wrote: »

I have been like this for the last 2 cycles ... thing is when the real thing does happen how are you suppose to tell the difference between the fake and the real symptoms?

You can't:o

fannyanna wrote: »

Hubby's just come home and told me that someone came into his work today with a baby. He said he couldn't even turn around and look at it. We got our first BFN this morning so I think he was a bit "hormonal"

(((Mr Fannyanna))). Don't think my DH ever gets like that:o

emsbet wrote: »

The chart that came with them says that a cycle length of 35 day I should start testing on CD18. Do you think it's best to start earlier incase of a shorter cycle this month bearing in mind I only have one months data to work with? If so any suggestions on when I should start?

Yes, I'd start at around CD10:)

bigzippy wrote: »

Does anyone else get unreasonable fits of (almost) rage when someone else "nicks" their chosen name?

I do!:o

QQuaver

Testing list

Sun 8th May - fannyanna
Wed 11th May - svjenni
Thu 12th May - QQuaver
Mon 23rd May - Alwaysbusybee
Mon 12th Never - Lemon Tree


May graduates - Winner of April BFP predictions (8)
:TBB1984, QQuaver, Bigzippy, BezzyK & KellyG :T

MrsExcited (28) TTC#1 since 01/11 BFP 01/05/11:j
MoneySavingMamma TTC#2 since mc 03/11 BFP 04/05/11:j
Mimi Arc en ciel (27) TTC#2 since 02/11 BFP 04/05/11:j
Calamityclaire TTC #1 since 09/10 BFP 05/05/11:j


May BFP predictions
kellyg - 7
fannyanna - 7 (incl self)
Fellpony - 8 (incl self)
Cleomolly - 8
Alwaysbusybee - 8
lisa26 - 8
mrsvicx - 8 (incl self)
Smash7 - 9 (incl self)
Tinksy - 9
GemmaE - 9
BB1984 - 9
Bezzyk - 9
QQuaver - 10
Sexymouse - 10
emmylou83 - 10
Bigzippy - 10
Euronorris - 11

QQuaver

Team Sticky!

CD89 x_charlie_x - ?DPO:cool:
CD80 TwigPig* - ?DPO:cool:
CD76 ilovecushions* - ?DPO:cool:
CD51 Derby - 37DPO:cool:
CD32 colli - 16DPO:cool:
CD? fannyanna - 15DPO:cool:
CD30 Must try harder* - 15DPO:cool:
CD43 Bigzippy - 13DPO:cool:
CD24 QQuaver* - 10DPO:cool:
CD22 Alwaysbusybee - 2DPO:cool:
CD73 Cleomolly - Awaiting ov:o
CD37 countrybum - Awaiting ov:o
CD34 Phunkles - Awaiting ov:o
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CD28 Katenut - Awaitng ov:o
CD27 svjenni - Awaiting ov:o
CD24 Jen151* - Awaiting ov:o
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CD18 lisa26* - Awaiting ov:o
CD17 emmylou - Awaiting ov:o
CD17 GG* - Awaiting ov:o
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CD16 mrs_dave - Awaiting ov:o
CD14 sexymouse - Awaiting ov:o
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CD11 mrsvicx* - Awaiting ov:o
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CD8 divorcingjack - Awaiting ov:o
CD8 Tinksy* - Awaiting ov:o
CD8 mozzyc - Awaiting ov:o
CD6 praline - Awaiting ov:o
CD4 kellyg - Awaiting ov:o
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CD3 Euronorris - Awaiting ov:o
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emsbet

bigzippy wrote: »

Does anyone else get unreasonable fits of (almost) rage when someone else "nicks" their chosen name? Like, I daydream about what name I like - well me and OH do together, and then I don't get pregnant but someone else does, and out of the blue, they've called their kid one of our favourite names... even though we've never mentioned them outloud, I still feel gyped!!

Yes I get like that. My best friend chose the name that I had picked out for a girl when she had her DD 13 years ago! I had never told her so it wasn't like she had actually taken it but I was still upset - if it had been someone I rarely see I could have gotten away with using it but she was and still is my best friend so it's out the window! Haha! I sound like I'm still bitter about it but I'm not! :rotfl:

QQuaver wrote: »

Yes, I'd start at around CD10:)

Thanks for the tip. I think CD10 for me is a week today so I may have to leave it until CD11 this month as we're having a house party for DH's birthday. We don't have a lock on our bathroom and I can just imagine someone coming bursting in while I'm there with my wee in a shot glass sticking a strip of paper in it! :rotfl:


AF seems to have !!!!!!ed off today CD3 - she was quite light yesterday too- and I'm just left with a stabbing pain on the right hand side which is annoying. No doubt it's her way of telling me she hasn't gone far and will be back with avengence later today!

PMA for the day - it's the weekend! :j I'm actually excited about painting one of our spare rooms and generally having a sort out - yeah I know I'm weird!

xx

QQuaver

No PMA for me today:(

My parents are in hospital right now:(
Mum got dizzy in the middle of the night, so dad tried to move her somewhere, slipped and dad can't feel a thing below his neck.

Kind of reminds me there are more important things in life then TTC.

My sister didn't tell me right away because she thought it might affect my eggies, but my other sister thought I should know. My parents doesn't know I've been doing IVF.

I can't go to them because I'm abroad. DH thinks I should go to them on Monday, but I don't think it's good for my eggies. It's a long flight:(

Kira000

QQuaver wrote: »

No PMA for me today:(

My parents are in hospital right now:(
Mum got dizzy in the middle of the night, so dad tried to move her somewhere, slipped and dad can't feel a thing below his neck.

Kind of reminds me there are more important things in life then TTC.

My sister didn't tell me right away because she thought it might affect my eggies, but my other sister thought I should know. My parents doesn't know I've been doing IVF.

I can't go to them because I'm abroad. DH thinks I should go to them on Monday, but I don't think it's good for my eggies. It's a long flight:(

Oh QQ. I am so sorry to hear your news. I will keep everything crossed for your dad. What a horrible decision for you to have to make. I agree with you that a long flight is probably not the best thing for you right now, if it can be avoided, but your parents are your parents!
I guess it will come down to which you will regret most if you do/ don't do. Lack of movement can be down to severe brusing/swelling. Maybe you could see how things go over the weekend before making a decision on fly or not fly? They may know more later. If your parents know you are abroad, i'm sure they will understand that you cant be there immediately. If you need help getting a short notice flight, let me know, i might be able to help.

Big hugs
Kx

QQuaver

Kira000 wrote: »

Oh QQ. I am so sorry to hear your news. I will keep everything crossed for your dad. What a horrible decision for you to have to make.

I'd regret it if either of them die, so it'll depend on how they are I suppose. My brain is in chaos at the moment, I need to think:(

Thanks for the offer of finding flights:o

fannyanna

Bigzippy - wow that really was a mammoth post. Made me chuckle. I think most TTC women suffer the same irrationalities (have I just made that word up). Oh and the name thing - seriously people are just mind reading theives :rotfl:

QQ - sending you very big hugs. I'm hopeless and never know what to say to people so I will just send you even more virtual hugs x

I know the testing list says that I will test tomorrow but I'm not going to waste anymore of my HPT's. I tested yesterday and this morning and they were both BFN's. Let's hope my fake pregnancy symptoms now stop.

My PMA for today - I'm not pregnant so I'm going to drink some alcohol tonight (woop woop).

I'm also going to start a diet tomorrow and I've set up a spreadsheet detailing our baby savings (which wont actually start until September - maybe October if we decide to have a holiday). So every time I get down at having a BFN I can look at my spreadsheet and take some solice at seeing the figures rising - although I'd rather have a baby than money

fannyanna

I have a question too....

When taking temperatures I know that you're supposed to do it as soon as you wake up and that it should be roughly the same time each morning.

Now some mornings I'm kinda awake before my alarm goes off but I'm still lying in bed half sleeping but where I'm a bit awake I toss and turn a lot. Will this have an impact on my temperatures?

Also some mornings I wake up with the cover over me and some mornings I wake up with it off me and I'm naked (sorry of TMI). Will that make a difference?

And finally, am I right in thinking that my temperatures will give me a clear indication as to whether or not I am actually ovulating. I know that you can get a positive OPK and not ovulate (so in effect getting a false positive) but could the same apply with temperatures i.e. get the drop in temp but then not actually ovulate?