MSE Pregnancy Club 19

Catw0man

((((HUGS)))) Nic, I can totally understand how you must be feeling - it is a long way from your family and friends. I can understand that you will be feeling apprehensive about speaking to your OH about your feelings because of things going so well for him, but in the long run you have to think about both of your feelings - like you say you need to stand up for your own feelings. If you were to move - to make him happy, but were to be miserable about it, that would effect him too. I'm sure he will understand, it is a lot for you to give up.

As for dancing for your LO, if you do move, I could see what I can find out. I teach dancing and have lots of dance teacher friends in and around Aberdeen.

Catw0man

LilacPixie wrote: »

Cheers GFH just this whole moving business. Don't want to phone solicitor or broker incase bad news or an issue but at same point i am annoyed at lack of keeping me in loop.Is no news good news?

Try not to worry about it, I remember feeling like this when we were moving, I was on the phone to my solicitor several times a day:eek: It all worked out fine in the end though:)

Teenie_D

Aw nic so sorry you are feeling so down((hugs)). I really don't know what to advise as I haven't been in your position but if you are really feeling it's the wrong decision for you, then maybe you should give it a wee bit longer until you make a final decision.

I was having a wee look and found this http://www.danceschools-uk.co.uk/html/scotland3.html it looks their is somewhere in Huntly your wee one could go to. A girl at my work is from Huntly so I can find out more for you if you want (she is not in until Friday but I will either text or FB her) and if there is anything else you want to know about the area let me know, I live about 1/2 hour ish away from there. ( I was actually checking the other day when you started talking about moving to see what maternity hospital you would go to, wasn't sure if it would be the same as me but mine is probably too far away there will be one closer to you I'm sure!).

Enjoy your cuppa and have a biccy too. xxx

hngrymummy

nic, 2 years ago I moved over a hundred miles to be with my brand new DH. It was a horrible wrench. I gave up my lovely flat (my very first property), left my friends, my church, the city I loved living in, and everything I knew to be with him. It was hard at first, I couldn't see it as home, and didn't think I ever would. DH was lovely and very understanding about my tears. Then one day we were driving back from visiting parents and as we appraoched the town, I thought 'nearly home'.

I found it hard to think how I would make friends, as I knew no-one, so didn't feel I had a way of going out and meeting people. Again, DH was lovely and looked out places for me to go.

Two years on, I still miss my old life, but I love my new one, which has more than made up for what I left behind. I made new friends through church, helping with brownies, taking up some new hobbies. We have a home together for the first time, which is amazing, as we spent 4 years seeing each other weekends only, and sproglet is on it's way.

What my long ramble is trying to say is that it'll be hard, and it's good that you realise that. You must tell your OH how you feel, otherwise you could have arguments and he won't know why you're down. It will get easier. Just give it time. One day you'll have that driving back 'home' moment. At least with having kids and a bump you'll have instant access to people - through school, dancing, ante-natal classes etc.

Feel free to have a moan, it's what we're here for.

ps your posts gave me a funny dream yesterday where DH had decided to move and I was in tears as I didn't want to move again as I was happy in my home here. So you're getting my sympathy, even when I'm asleep.

dustystar02

ema_o wrote: »

I am going to give up posting anything in a minute Dusty, might as well let everyone read your posts as we are clearly the same person!! Pmsl!! I did actually laugh out loud when I read that, not the best idea sneaking reading in the office on my phone!!

I will ask mw and let you all know what she says, can I have some good mw vibes as this will be a different one from last time
Xx

Good MW vibes to you twinny

I saw a car on our street the other day with the reg plate EMA 01 and i thought of you, I thought that's it....she is stalking me :rotfl:

dustystar02

tigtag02 wrote: »

Hi ladies

It's not the colposcopies that can affect your cervix when carrying a baby but treatments such as LETTZ. If you have had nothing further than a colposcopy I really wouldn't worry but do speak to your madwives to have your minds put at rest.

I went under general anesthetic and had the loop thing, it that a LETTZ, (I'll go google).....I'm not seeing my mw again now til 21 Dec. Maybe I will give them a ring. Well I'll wait and see what Ema has for me first.

OrkneyStar

Just be patient and rest up!
My DS could not be induced out, and I ended up with an elective c-section at +15 days. This said you may well not need that!

nic2075

Thanks Cat, Teenie and hngrymummy. I think its just the hormones, i could cry at the drop of a hat today.

The place and area we are looking at is georgous with a good school local.

Im being silly about the dancing as she currently goes to a fantastic lady who was a world champ. Im worried that no one will be as good, but of course they will.

ive never had to give up somewhere ive loved living before. I think thats the safety net thing. This is my house for as long as I want it. But it would also give someone else who needs it that chance to get out of a bad area etc.

Im worried that if it doesnt all work out ill have nothing to come back to.
it need to be the right decision for the right reasons as im not uprooting the kids again.

hngrymummy, sorry I made you have a weird dream lol. Its amazing what gets into your head sometimes and causes mental dreams.

RadoJo

I believe the castor oil references may originate in an episode of 'Friends', so my main advice is not to take medical tips from a sitcom!

I definitely second making plans - almost all of my friends who have ended up with a social engagement near their due date have dropped it either just before or just after the event, so if you have a willing friend who'll throw a party or get married, that should do it!

sarahk1701

Hello there.
As a student midwife please please please DONT take caster oil, it can mess with your digestive system as well as the baby's, it also causes stress to the baby and could lead to further complications with your digestive system later on in life. Ok caster oil does some times trigger labour but thats because the uterus "come out" in sympathy as the bowels are causing stress tremours. There really isnt an exact food you can eat or activity that you can do to induce labour from home. So your 37 weeks gestation and your fed up. Is the baby's head engaged? If not, you could sit on a exercise ball and rock your pelvis from side to side and in circular motions, this encourages the baby's head to go deeper into your pelvis therefore coming into contact with your cervix and stimulating the hormones that encourage labour. Male sperm has a hormone in it that stumilates the other hormones in your bosy which trigger labour although right now off the top of my head I cant think of the name. Try having a romantic meal then when you go to bed with your partner get him to stroke you and pay more attention to stroking your nipples but not to tweek then like he is tuning a radio, this stoking and sex releases the oxytocin hormone (known as the love hormone) which is a helper hormone for labour. Take your time during your love making session, you enjoy it more and it relaxes you. There really isnt else much that is safe to suggest, you can try raspberry leaf teat but it only tones the uterus which is useful during labour. I wish you all the luck x