MSE Pregnancy Club 19

Rockinbikergal

dustystar02 wrote: »

thanks ladies, i will wait and see what they send me for this latest offence before i worry about getting the others taken off.

so I have typed this message out to send to OH but not had the guts to send it yet:

"Do you even know why you are in a mood with me? Don't you think you are being slightly childish? I thought I was the one supposed to be the hormonal one? Whatever your issue is sort it out, I don't need this stress!"

What do you think? should I even bother sending it (I see that as me making the first move, although I'm not in a sulk with him)

Dusty I would agree with Merfe and confuzzled treat him nicely and he won't be able to stay in his silly childish man mood....my hubby is in one of those as well and we had a huge ding dong last night

FairyShazza

Dusty I agree with the others. I do this all the time type out a message when annoyed with OH and then realise that maybe it isn't the best thing to send - although I have sent them on occasions and it's never gone down too well.

I think Fuzz's idea is a good one - ask how his day is and say he has seemed a little off and is he ok? When my OH usually gets like this it's most often work related rather than anything to do with me but he gets stressed out and then sometimes comes home in a rather aggro mood.

gizmodo_2

FairyShazza wrote: »

Dusty I agree with the others. I do this all the time type out a message when annoyed with OH and then realise that maybe it isn't the best thing to send - although I have sent them on occasions and it's never gone down too well.

I think Fuzz's idea is a good one - ask how his day is and say he has seemed a little off and is he ok? When my OH usually gets like this it's most often work related rather than anything to do with me but he gets stressed out and then sometimes comes home in a rather aggro mood.

I agree with what Fairy, fuzz and most others...

As for all of you saying you are going to be bored during the maternity leave before baby is born....what is wrong with you?! I can't wait. I have so much I want to do...catch up on reading, cross stitch, scrapbooking, card making, carry on learning guitar, going for walks with mum and the dog, making meals for the freezer, having dinn (er on the table for hubby <- sorry baby brain seemed to prevent me from finishing that sentence!). I want to make the most of this time before baby is born

FairyShazza

gizmodo wrote: »

As for all of you saying you are going to be bored during the maternity leave before baby is born....what is wrong with you?! I can't wait. I have so much I want to do...catch up on reading, cross stitch, scrapbooking, card making, carry on learning guitar, going for walks with mum and the dog, making meals for the freezer, having dinn. I want to make the most of this time before baby is born

Me too!

If I could get away with it I'd actually finish work a lot earlier than I am planning but I know that from the money aspect it wouldn't make sense for me to do that.

Maybe its because neither of us really want to be where we are

Metranil_Vavin

Dusty sorry your OH is being a plonker..but at the end of the day, he is a man, and they can just be rubbish at times.

It always makes me laugh that men love to spin the old 'time of the month?' line at us so often, yet actually they're the moodiest of the sexes and don't even have the excuse of PMT/hormones etc!!! Jokers!

And when they get in moods for no reason, and you ask them what is wrong and they snap 'nothing!' at you, grrrrr..well that really winds me up! I've taken to just leaving OH to stew in his own juice thesedays. If he wants to sulk, then I leave him to it..he always sheepishly comes around in the end!

Grrrrr...rant for the day from me: my NCT classes have been cancelled

They were meant to be startting on the 23rd Oct, but one couple have dropped out apparently, so they're cancelling the class.

We've managed to get moved onto another one, but the times aren't as convenient. Again it never ceases to amaze me that people presume you don't work full time and can just attend stuff in the middle of the day! My OH would never get given time off for NCT classes, and he has no hols left so that's that one out the window!

Sigh...and people at work are getting on my wick too..grr..hormonal woman in the area!!!! :rotfl:

Oh and the lady who brought my car sent us a nice email today saying how lovely her drive was back to Cambridge in it and how pleased she is...ah well, at least someone will get some use out of it.

dustystar02

wow - you lot are a nice bunch aren't you? I must just

GFH - things are not nearly that bad to consider leaving him. We are always in moods with each other. I just find it really tiring at the min.

I am finding it funny more than anything, yes a nice text is prob the way to go. He then has to be nice back to me which will p1ss him off (god, I am evil). I know he is in a mood about our tiff on monday night, he loves his work and never gets stressed about it. He knows he has to get himself out of it so I think a nice text to bring him round should do the trick.

MV - i normally leave him to come round but that is when we've had a proper ding dong, not when it appears to be for no reason.

Ok, I will have another think and get your verdicts before sending...x

gratefulforhelp_2

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

We've managed to get moved onto another one, but the times aren't as convenient. Again it never ceases to amaze me that people presume you don't work full time and can just attend stuff in the middle of the day! My OH would never get given time off for NCT classes, and he has no hols left so that's that one out the window!

Wait til baby MV goes to school, they continue to make the same assumptions...

dustystar02 wrote: »

GFH - things are not nearly that bad to consider leaving him.

Good news!

gizmodo_2

dustystar02 wrote: »

wow - you lot are a nice bunch aren't you? I must just

GFH - things are not nearly that bad to consider leaving him. We are always in moods with each other. I just find it really tiring at the min.

I am finding it funny more than anything, yes a nice text is prob the way to go. He then has to be nice back to me which will p1ss him off (god, I am evil). I know he is in a mood about our tiff on monday night, he loves his work and never gets stressed about it. He knows he has to get himself out of it so I think a nice text to bring him round should do the trick.

MV - i normally leave him to come round but that is when we've had a proper ding dong, not when it appears to be for no reason.

Ok, I will have another think and get your verdicts before sending...x

I'm not nice. It's what I would ADVISE someone to do. But if it were me I'd probably send a petty text myself Lucky for me I have a hubby that knows what I am like and he usually caves in first.

dustystar02

So does this sound any better:

What is it that's bothering you? Is it work, the baby, tiredness? Maybe I can help you if you talk to me? I don't like seeing you upset about things when I don't know why. I also don't like being shut out when I'm highly emotional as it is xx

Notice I don't suggest that it may be me bothering him

I'm not sure whether or not to include the bit in green.

Sorry - I promise I'm not normally this bad, I am genuinely bored in work and this is the only hint of drama I have going on at the monute. Please don't think that this is a major bust up, it isn't by any means. We are totally solid but both complete sulks and spoilt brats so this sort of stuff happens often (that doesn't sound good does it?)

Nephthys

Hi everyone, I kept meaning to get logged on sooner but I seem to have entered some weird time field where everything is moving faster than I want it to!

Baby Isaac arrived safely on his due date of Oct 5th - clever baby has his mother's sense of timing! Everything went well, all done on gas and air with one pethidine injection. He was a big boy at 10lb 10oz (shocking considering neither his father nor I were anywhere near that size at birth) but I got him out on my own though had to be cut. Am recovering ok cept for a case of PUPPP which is driving me nuts but am totally smitten with him and he was well worth the PGP/SPD and anything else I developed! Thanks everyone for all the support - even if you didn't know you were giving it as I tended to lurk a lot instead of posting.