MSE Pregnancy Club 19

ethelsmum

emsywoo123 wrote: »

Hiya ladies

So, am about 34/35 ish weeks, and DD was off yesterday as she had a cold.
Took her back today, and how many people do you think said one of the following:

• oh we didn't see you yesterday, assumed you were having the baby
• still here then
• not had the baby
• still pregnant I see

etc etc :eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:

I CANNOT be doing with this for another 5-7 weeks!!!!!!!!!!

I'm 5 days overdue and get the above every day - on top of the phonecalls, texts, fb messages etc etc :eek:
I dread the school run and have started sneeking in a bit later to avoid the comments.

I've been having cramping on and off since the sweep yesterday so fingers crossed it leads to contractions soon.

2girlsforme

Hngrymummy - I really think we are meant to be bump buddies!! I have my 20 week scan today (21+3) - strangely though I am not feeling as bad today - although TMI I did lose some breakfast this morning all over my toothbrush

Sarahangel - as everyone else has said don't feel bad about having a preference - if truth be told I think I would really like another girl (already have 2) I am very lucky to have DD2 as she had a bad birth, and really all I should want is for it to be healthy (which of course I do) but think if I am told today its a boy there will be a little bit of a disappointment - although of course DH would be delighted!! I really do hope that everything goes well for you today at your scan - will keep everything crossed for you.

Boys names - we have never had one picked out yet :eek: so really need to know if this is a boy or not to give us time to find one! I am sooo picky, we both want a scottish name and something which goes with our long Mac name but not a name that I know of anyone else having - but not really unusual either :cool: what chance! girls are Ailsa and Iona which are not particularly common.

Hey Coops finally we catch up - :T we lived in Scrabster for most of our time there - was not much of a bistro girl more a Top Joes bouncy castle :rotfl::rotfl: but I did have DD's! I loved the far north, but after taking a while to get over leaving I know now I could never go back there, Inverness is not quite my home town but very near!

Good luck today Rach I hope you get everything sorted out to your satisfaction.

Oh and also I am also supposed to be consultant led - Red Pathway (Whatever that means) due to size of last DD and her birth, also because I am a geriatric mother (35+) and also obese (BMI 36):eek: how to make you feel good and full of self confidence! but have seen no-one extra in my appts so far, only difference is I have a growth scan at 36 weeks, although speaking to a MW friend the other day and she tells me that if I decide to deliver naturally then the doctors will literally be standing outside delivery room door. Worst bit is that because what happend to DD2 is so rare every appt we have gone to takes ages because they all want to know all the details :eek:
Sorry for loooooong post! fingers crossed baby is not shy today and shows bits to the world :rotfl:

oxclairexo

DH felt baby kick for the first time last night :T. He was so pleased .

lilian1977

That's so exciting Claire! I think OH has only felt it once so far. I've stopped feeling it as much as well, blaming my anterior placenta for that!

I need help to stop spending - I really want to have my credit card paid off by the time I go on leave, it does get paid off in full every month anyway but I always feel like I'm a month behind. So I keep making an effort to not use it, have even divided up my money weekly so I have spends, but then I see the brilliant glitches on the Grabbit board and I can't resist - you can't use cash to buy online! Grrr.

So, this month, I am going to use it on my honeymoon (this weekend, to Jersey, long delayed due to the ash cloud!) and then that's it until I get my next statement in mid-October. And that's a promise!

PerfectPeaches

Afternoon all,

Good luck Rach.

Had a midwife appointment this morning and when asked about hospital visits I was told that they don't do them anymore and that I should check the website for where I need to go! Slightly concerning as the delivery ward is on the third floor!

Peaches x

Make-it-3

OH and I saw our LO move in my belly this morning, so that sent him off to work with a smile on his face.

I think we might have found a girls name we both like although he won't even discuss boys names as he's convinced it's a girl. I think we should have a shortlist of names of both sexes in case it doesn't look like the name we'd picked it when it arrives.

rach

jojo1978 wrote: »

edit....and when someone gets a moment, would they mind amending my due date to the 7th March. Those 2 days make all the difference

I'll go back and amend the last list in a sec

Gems81 wrote: »

Ladylegs- im glad its not just me and hubby that are sleeping sepereatly at the moment. I think it has saved our marriage in the last 6 weeks - he is such a light sleeper that me getting up 6-10 times a night meant he hardly slept and was the most miserable grumpy person ever. We just make sure we go to bed an hour earlier and cuddle up in bed and watch tv together before he disappears to the spare room.

I have been stressing about names this week. We have 2 boys names and 1 that i know i prefer, but i dont LOVE either of them. I have 3 girls names that i LOVE and 1 that i really favour, but it is quiet an unusual name and we have a family friend who has a daughter with the name which makes me wonder whether to go for it, or one of the other 2 that is more 'original' and we dont know anyone with them??? hmmm?? its so hard!

Me and DH have been in seperate rooms since about 20 weeks. It was getting silly trying to share, despite a king sized bed, I kept snoring and waking him, I'd go to bed earlier then he'd wake me when he came in, I'd then wake him in the night going to the loo, I was boiling and he was cold etc etc... I have also found that the spare room mattress which is softer is better for me at the moment. I sleep with one pillow behind me, one between my ankles and a V pillow which goes between my knees and in front of bump. Seems to work pretty well. I do wonder how we'll manage to share again, but hopefully we will eventually. I think if we ever end up with enough space we'll get a 6ft bed with 2 mattresses and even 2 duvets! we didn't get married til we were 30 and had both slept on our own for our whole lives so sharing took some getting used to!!

Gems, we are same with boys names, LOVE the girls one (also a bit unusual, wonder if it's the same ) and have 3 'ok' boys names but only ok.

moneysaver12

Hi everyone, just got home from uni, induction went well and it was nice to see my friends. I can't believe im going to be having our baby tomorrow, am excited.

Am wondering why i bother with my mum. My mum asked ages ago if she could visit me and baby when im in hospital, we said yes. Then at the weekend she asked again about visiting us in hospital, i said that she could visit friday or saturday. Didn't hear anything back. Then i spoke to my brothers fiance on monday and was told that my mum was having my nieces on friday night till saturday so was planning on visiting us in hospital on saturday with my nieces. Brothers fiance explained to my mum that she wouldn't be able to take nieces to hospital as they wouldnt be allowed in (only children of the parents are allowed to visit) my mum wasn't happy about this. I texted my mum to see which day she would be visiting us in hospital and she said saturday as was having nieces friday till saturday, she was on about bringing my sister (she didn't ask and my sister never bothers with me) I said ok, and that it was only two visitors per bed so would need to take it in turn (hopsital policy)

Today i get a text from my mum saying she can't come and visit us in hospital as she is having my nieces from friday till sunday and that if im home at tea time on sunday then she will come round with nieces. Now when i get home on sunday i will be wanting to rest, not having to deal with visitors and young children. She didn't even bother to ask us if it would be ok for her to come round then and to bring our nieces. I don't understand why of all the weekends, why she has to have my nieces this weekend, she never has my nieces over night apart from one night a few weeks ago for the first time in years. It is very rare that she takes them out, normally she goes round to my brothers to see them. She knows that im having a c seciton and that i would be going in to hospital tomorrow.

This just tells me that my mum doesn't really care about me or her unborn grandchild and that yet again my brother and his family are more important. When my nieces were born she visited them both in hospital. Im trying not to let it get to me. I don't know how to handle it anymore with her as i have had enough. I did text back saying that it would have been nice for her to visit us in hospital, and that it doesn't matter and that i don't know what time we will be home on sunday. This is suppose to be a exciting time for us.

rach

So, back from the hosp...was something more of a success I think. Got there and found the lab ward, always a good start. Had to wait a while in which time consultant went past, recognised me and asked how I was and if i was being seen...always nice as sometimes they don't remember you! After a bit of a wait anaesthetist came up, i was a bit worried at first as she was probably only my age and looked shattered, but she was fab. She spent an hour with me, listened to all my fears and thoughts and just got it. She looked at my back re epidural and chatted through different options for me.

Basically she feels that it is worth me trying for a natural delivery, but with very firm paramaters in place whereby they will take me early for a c section if things are not progressing.

She can also see how I've been impacted by the family history of traumatic births and how my sister's experience has affected me so badly. She nipped out to answer her bleep and the consultant was talking to her about me in the corridor, apparently he's not 100% happy with how far I can open my legs (or not open them) and wants to think some more about what to do - he is going to phone me and he agrees about setting parameters, which I assume he will do with me either over the phone or at another appointment.

We talked about pain relief, she completely agreed to stay away from pethedine and said if it was up to her she wouldn't even offer it, but said epidural will be ok if I need it I should have it earlier rather than later so I can feel later to push, and that the main thing with an epidural is to manage it well and sadly that will depend on which midwife I have. She was impressed that I'd read up on things and knew the NICE guidelines etc and said I must go through all this with DH so he can speak for me if needs be. Think I will update my birth plan and go through it with him.

Near the end I think she really got my fear of being out of control etc and said 'so would you be happiest with an elective section?' and I said 'that's what i thought I was asking for yesterday!', she said problem is consultant isn't english so perhaps he hadn't picked up on that as communicating can be slightly tough. We chatted through that and decided that if I go late will push for that rather than induction but will try and leave it for natural birth first. I filled DH in on the phone and he feels v comfortable with all that too. We are both keen I don't go far over, as with his new job it would compromise his paternity leave which would be carp.

I also noticed when I was there that the maternity operating theatre is out of action so all c sections are in the main one, and they can't guarantee you a day just the week it will happen for a planned section, I think maybe that is another reason he was reticent.

I have been having some tightenings and some stabbing pain in foof/cervix, MW is meant to be phoning tomorrow so I may request a home visit so she can examine me. Otherwise I may be cheeky and get GP appt with the obs dr and see if he will!

I think I will now recommence operation eviction and start bouncing on the ball!!

Sorry for the epic post, I'm not very good at using 2 words when 10 will do! :embarasse

rach

MS12 that's so sad about your mum (((hugs))). I can understand why you're upset. My mum would be here now if I'd let her and will be on her way as soon as she knows anything is happening, she couldn't bear not seeing me or the baby for 3 days. I hope things change and when baby comes she will want to see you and the babe. xxx Hope you can get some rest this afternoon.