MSE Pregnancy Club 19

BudgetBlonde

lilian1977 wrote: »

Well our midwife said it couldn't hurt to take it for his paternity leave, but I think he can just self-certify:

How and when to claim

To claim Statutory Paternity Pay you must tell your employer when you intend to take leave by the 15th week before your baby is due, or within seven days of your wife, partner or civil partner being told by the adoption agency that they've been matched with a child.
If you change your mind you must give 28 days' notice.
Your employer might ask you for self-certificate form SC3 becoming a parent that confirms you're entitled to the pay.




Form here: http://www.hmrc.gov.uk/forms/sc3.pdf


Info here: http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/MoneyTaxAndBenefits/BenefitsTaxCreditsAndOtherSupport/Expectingorbringingupchildren/DG_10018750

My OH needed a photocopy of my MATB1 for work.

I have to go in to triage this afternoon - I think I've been having a show all week - just a teeny bit - and have period pains, back ache and braxton hicks. Because I'm rhesus negative I think they want to check if I need Anti D so just waiting for OH to come home so he can come and hold my hand

sir_monster

KK I'll race you, I wonder which baby will be here first. What time you going in and have they told you what induction method they are using??

Doppler was ok as bubs is getting blood supply from mum, but is still an issue with the resistance so looks like he'll be better out than in . . .

smartie12

Bad memory:o Have forgotton everything:o Usual vibes to all:)

HV... we had a visit the other day. Nosey so and so's:mad: I understand they have a job to do etc but what does the father of my 14 yr old DS have to do with this baby??? So what if we have no family whatsoever??? None of their f'ing business!! We lied about several things as it was easier;) All they have to do is look at my brilliant DS to know I'm not a crap mother!!:D

Although if I'd said this baby was a devil child I think the HV may of "wrote a few notes"!!!;):D:p:rotfl:

DH's boss is an idiot!! DH told him his 2 weeks paternity leave will be starting week of 7th sept due to c section... we were kind enough to tell him in advance etc. DH happens to have a weeks holiday next week and stupid boss said that week should be part of paternity leave!!!!! Ummmm yes DH would love to use a weeks paternity leave BEFORE bean is here... NOT!!!!:mad: DH said no of course and will be having 2 weeks after bean is born regardless of what boss says... especially as I'll be needing help after having major surgery;)

Still in extreme pain with devil child's headbutting:(

lilian1977

Smartie - he can't start his paternity leave before the baby is born:

You can choose when to start getting your Statutory Paternity Pay. Leave can start on any day of the week:
on or following the child's birth, but must be completed within eight weeks of the actual date of birth

Info http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/MoneyTaxAndBenefits/BenefitsTaxCreditsAndOtherSupport/Expectingorbringingupchildren/DG_10018750

rach

smartie - useless boss!

DH wants to sit around in his pants with a can of super strength lager when the HV comes...:eek::eek:

Gems81

Thanks for all the Health Visitor info!!

I just went to the hospital to meet mine and she was so lovely. My mum took me so i didnt need to get a taxi and the health visitor went and got lots of Toys out for my neice who was with my mum and gave her books to take away with her. We were in with her for about an hour and she said the midwife will hand me over to her after 3-8weeks and then they will visit at least twice and then they can carry on visiting me or I can visit the clinic.

She was really helpful and wasnt pushy at all (i know this could change when baby arrives) She gave me loads of information about a Sure Start centre around the corner that i didnt know existed and all the groups and classes they do. I have been really worried about being quite isolated living where we do in a market town 20mins or more from my friends and family. But now i feel so much happier that i can do baby massage classes, mother and baby groups, music groups etc...... cant wait!! :j

MYLITTLESISTERLOLA

Just been the shop, stocking up on essentials for the house. Got loads of mags as I guess there is going to be alot of waiting around tonight and possibly tomorrow. Any other tips for ladies who have been induced, might be helpful to us in bold ladies !!! It's really not nice having your name in bold !!!!!! Hopefully I'll drop down to the bottom of the page overnight. I hope the hospital have Internet access as I'm bring my iPod with me so I can keep in touch with everyone, including you lot !!
Hope things are going well for everyone
no news from fb ??
Good luck kitkat and sirmonster for tomorrow, I'll try to get on tonight to give you the gorey details
good new tinks about bubs staying put

feeling a bit better today had a very weepy day yesterday which is really unlike me. Feeling a bit more positive today after a good nights sleep.
The plan of attack is going in to hospital at 6.30 pm getting the first gel at 10pm and the being left until 7.30am for internal and possibly breaking water but bubs head is so far down I'm not sure if they'll be able to do that !!

Sorry for the rambling

smartie12

lilian1977 wrote: »

Smartie - he can't start his paternity leave before the baby is born:

You can choose when to start getting your Statutory Paternity Pay. Leave can start on any day of the week:
on or following the child's birth, but must be completed within eight weeks of the actual date of birth

Info http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/MoneyTaxAndBenefits/BenefitsTaxCreditsAndOtherSupport/Expectingorbringingupchildren/DG_10018750

I know where we stand... what makes it worse is that boss man's wife has had a baby recently!!!:rotfl:We think there's "something going on" though as he's at work practically 24/7 and only took a week off when his baby was born!;)

Rach... we had empty beer bottles on kitchen side, boxes of beers next to fridge;) Oh and of course there was my son with a broken arm!!:rotfl:

smartie12

My tip for ladies being induced.... be prepared for the pain!!!sorry:p Being induced is supposed to bring on more painful contractions (well in my day they did:o) and I was in agony on the antenatal ward in front of other people's visitors:eek:

Teenie_D

MYLITTLESISTERLOLA wrote: »

. Any other tips for ladies who have been induced, might be helpful to us in bold ladies !!!

If I have to be induced the next time again (which I will avoid as far as possible!) the one thing I will ask for is an anaesthetic before they insert the gel. I personally found it really painful and totally irritated my erm foof! They tried to induce me on several occasions and it wasn't until the last lot of gel (and a different midwife!) that I was offered the anaesthetic first and it made a real difference (it's just a gel that they insert before the prosstin).

Sorry but smartie is right. The contractions do come thick and fast initially but I found once they settled down it was much easier (and the gas and air was fab! )

All the very best to you and all the other ladies being induced soon, can't wait to hear your stories-oh it's so exciting! x