Weekly Flylady Thread 16th August 2010

gratefulforhelp_2

valli now I have the annoying Gillette song in my head, cheers for that!!

greenbee glad you weren't offended. KH in my case has decided that the child he hardly knows (never changed a nappy or wiped a nose, always handed her back because his "arms hurt") is now going to go on holiday with him. OMDB. Or at least not until he has put the groundwork in, over many months, of getting to know her and proving he is no longer a KH. Which may be a challenge for him...

How old are the boys?

AnW'sMum

Morning all

Have been AWOL this week since I started feeling rough on Sunday night and house has suffered as a result. I ended up at the doctors yesterday morning and diagnosed with BPPV or vertigo to you and me. So I haven't didn't go into work yesterday or today as the prospect of a. driving there and b. then sitting on a chair that twirls round all day did not seem like my idea of fun!

Got some tablets to take which I hope will settle the symptoms as it can last anything from a few days to several weeks :eek:

So I am gently pottering around today to try and get some of the CHAOS damped down with resting in between.

No chance of catching up on the fred so hope all are well. The Crich meet will have to be put on hold until I can get this vertigo under control. I was really looking forward to it and hope to get something sorted soon.

greenbee

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

valli now I have the annoying Gillette song in my head, cheers for that!!

Me too

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

greenbee glad you weren't offended. KH in my case has decided that the child he hardly knows (never changed a nappy or wiped a nose, always handed her back because his "arms hurt") is now going to go on holiday with him. OMDB. Or at least not until he has put the groundwork in, over many months, of getting to know her and proving he is no longer a KH. Which may be a challenge for him...

How old are the boys?

Boys are 10 and 15 (he's currently spending 5 days with the 15 year old... I can see that being hard for both of them :cool:). He's seen quite a bit of the youngest since he left, but the oldest has tended to be asleep (in the mornings) or 'busy' in his room when he's been over (his ex hasn't let him take them overnight, even to his parents - now he has his own place he's made it clear that he expects them to be able to stay if they want to).

He's going to have to find things to do with them that they both enjoy, as they won't want to just hang around the flat (they could do that in their own home with their own stuff surely?).

And he's going to have to learn to cook again, although apparently the oldest is generally fed on microwave burgers and the youngest on quorn ready meals... he wants to get them eating proper food. He can cook, but not necessarily the kind of things that they'd eat - and it's going to be an interesting transition from junk to real food! However, he has said he doesn't want to pander to their fads just to get them on side - he wants to start being the kind of parent he feels he should have been all along (hence the questions about allowances the other day... they both currently have to ask mum if they want money, and although they generally get it, it doesn't teach them financial responsibility plus its embarrassing for a teen out with his mates not to have a cash card and to have to ask his mum for cash)

Anyway... any suggestions from all of you as to a. what he should be aware of /careful of and b. what I need to know about dealing with step children when the time comes would be very much appreciated!

AnW'sMum

Blimey it seems that I have missed the news greenbee, got yourself a man congrats

LameWolf

Hi all.
Well, Pip & Pandora have arrived;:j they positively ran into the bungalow, so I think they remember enjoying their previous stay. Which of course means that for once the “half hour for yourself” task today was easy.:p

Valli the wishing well is fantastic! You clever lady.:T

Dustykitten I'm no expert, but I'd say that a short-lived disappointment re missing cricket is worth a valuable life lesson learned, as in actions have consequences. Don't beat yourself up, you did the right thing imho.

I too would be interested in peoples' experiences of online shopping with Figleaves, as I will have to bite the bullet and buy some new bras... eventually, and I'd sooner do it online than face the torture of visiting a shop to get them.:o

Froddy when I looked after a chipmunk for someone, quite a few years ago, he used to stash food down the side of the sofa when he was let out for a run round.:D

Greenbee no words of wisdom re your OH's boys, but just wanted to send my best wishes, and hope it all works out well. I'm sure it will.:o

Uropachild sounds like a good start to me. Baby steps, don't try to do it all at once; you'll be fine.;)

Natty great pic of the sparrows. We get a lot of birds visiting, too; but I'm afraid I'm way too lazy to write about them.:D

MSD ooh, thank goodness you realised the “peppers” were chillis..... I can just imagine someone taking a large mouthful of whatever you'd have made with them....:eek:

AnW'sMum Ooh, vertigo sounds horrible.:( I imagine it's a bit like having labyrinthitis, which I had a few years ago, and was perfectly awful. Get well soon (((HUG))).

Right, I need to get off my bum; I haven't done my yoga yet today, so that's next, then walkies with the wooflets.;)

MrsChaos

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Mrs C its def worse for you. I'm just worried about my bottom set year 11s

Thanks, but I'm not sure about that. DS1 will get what he gets, and it will be a reflection of the work he's put in as well as his ability. We'll deal with whatever it is. I had the only GCSE group in the department, though, and their grades will be looked on as a reflection of my work. I'd rather the results meeting with my boss in the autumn term was a positive one.

hollyh wrote: »

Morning all,
I feel like i'm coming down with something, i've got a headache and no energy at all and considering i haven't got PMT and i'm eating well and exercising i don't think it's just a severe case of CBA. ( Although you never know ) I'm going to take some tablets and see if that helps.

Hugs, holly. Sounds like you need to be kind do yourself and take it slowly for a bit.


AnW's - Don't worry about postponing the meet. Hope you feel better soon.

MOAM - My HHC ran over, too, and I've made some progress.
Have tidied the kitchen, delete some texts from my phone and checked through the mail.
[STRIKE]WM, TD and DW
[/STRIKE]buy anniv card for DH for tomorrow
bully DS1 into finally getting papers done in between showers - still working on that one :mad:
[STRIKE]check dates for two parties DS2 has been invited to
[/STRIKE]have also replied to one invite
[STRIKE]send text to friend[/STRIKE]

pigpen

greenbee wrote: »

Me too

Boys are 10 and 15 (he's currently spending 5 days with the 15 year old... I can see that being hard for both of them :cool:). He's seen quite a bit of the youngest since he left, but the oldest has tended to be asleep (in the mornings) or 'busy' in his room when he's been over (his ex hasn't let him take them overnight, even to his parents - now he has his own place he's made it clear that he expects them to be able to stay if they want to).

He's going to have to find things to do with them that they both enjoy, as they won't want to just hang around the flat (they could do that in their own home with their own stuff surely?).

And he's going to have to learn to cook again, although apparently the oldest is generally fed on microwave burgers and the youngest on quorn ready meals... he wants to get them eating proper food. He can cook, but not necessarily the kind of things that they'd eat - and it's going to be an interesting transition from junk to real food! However, he has said he doesn't want to pander to their fads just to get them on side - he wants to start being the kind of parent he feels he should have been all along (hence the questions about allowances the other day... they both currently have to ask mum if they want money, and although they generally get it, it doesn't teach them financial responsibility plus its embarrassing for a teen out with his mates not to have a cash card and to have to ask his mum for cash)

Anyway... any suggestions from all of you as to a. what he should be aware of /careful of and b. what I need to know about dealing with step children when the time comes would be very much appreciated!

For you.. don't tell tales... 'SS is doing x'.. drives me insane when OH does it.. we are working on it!! being their friend is fine.. everyone needs another friend.. and make sure they know that is all you will ever want or need to be.

food.. they are old enough to be told.. 'eat or starve'.. and also old enough to help.. let them look through some books and find a meal they would like to try.. ad prepare it together.

cash.. mine don't get pocket money and ask if they want cash for something. DD1 and I have had a discussion about the things she will be expected to buy from her ema.

Valli

Greenbee
From my own experience (me not my kids) the worse thing about visiting the 'other' parent is feeling like a visitor and not a member of the family IYSWIM. I was always hurt that my dad had photos of his new family around his house - but none of his first family. So, if I were your OH I would try to get some pictures up...it sends a message without being overt.
Maybe they could try cooking together. And if they help themselves to fruit/biscuits/drinks at 'home' can their dad make sure they can do that at his...

But if they have the same rules in both homes it will be easier - ie same bedtime etc.

and like Piggers says - don't tell tales. But I don't think they'll be meeting you anytime soon so worry not. The young one will be grossed out by the thought of you-know-what anyway - the older one might be ok. I've got a grossed-out one here. *sigh*

DS's room now clean.

WHY can a teenage boy with a bin in his room not put rubbish IN the bin*shrug*

pigpen

Lamewolf.. figleaves are fabulous.. extremely quick to deliver, returns are quickly refunded/exchanged.. I've shopped with them for years without ever an issue! Quidco cashback!!!

kezlou

congrats to those waiting to hear/have heard about they a-level results!
piggers a tenth, your a brave woman after all the commotion you had with the midwives regarding squeak.
carlsberggran ((hugs))
ll - sorry to hear your so down, don't disappear on us, its lovely to see your posts.
kaz congrats to your DS regarding his uni place!
Valli the wishing well looks fantastic! nice wall paper too
natty lovely picture
lovely to see you posting again Diva!!

Well yesterday's meal went well, the spinach and mascarpone pancakes instead of lasagne were fantastic. It was supposed to be canneloni, but everything went wrong. All was enjoyed including the crab cakes and spiced pots. Tea tonight sausage casserole and mash. so i'm on form today!

Just had a letter of council tax saying i haven't paid, eh i have paid. Look on your records, oh yes i see you paid at a different place. Make sure you on time next month. er excuse me but the bill is not due till march 2011 you cheeky gets. oh i'm fuming, and they were going to me to court cheek beggers. They can swan off.

Monday ~ Kitchen and Dining area
Level One
mop the floor
Level Three
HHI
Tidy the undersink cupboard.. only put back what is supposed to be there!!
Tuesday - Sitting Room and Hallway
Level Two
Sort out coats, shoes and bags
Level Three
Empty and wash out vacuum cleaner.. don't forget filters!
Wednesday ~ Bathroom, Study and Stairs!
Level One
mop all these floors
Level Two
Thursday ~ Master Bedroom & Landing
Dust surfaces & make sure no cobwebs..
Level 3
Vacuum floors in bedroom
Sort one area of clothes or linen storage making sure only what should be in there is, anything that's had it's day or doesn't belong there is removed
Extras

1. Make sure you are well on your way to having the new school wardrobe kitted out.. what else needs buying? labelling?

Friday - childrens rooms and spare room all done!

yay my list is shorter whoo hoo!